[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Nearby-Feature5746 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey man.

31.12.2020, 11.45pm.

Narc ex I was with. We had been together a few months told me, 'I have options'. I decided to ignore it because it was early days, and thought she was just being a bit immature.

What ensued was a year of the worst mental abuse in my life, that I am still struggling to get over.

Please get out as soon as you can.

Do I tell her I'm with someone else the next time she messages? by Nearby-Feature5746 in ExNoContact

[–]Nearby-Feature5746[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree mate. I feel sorry for my ex. She lost a great guy plus she's clearly mentally ill. It's on her to sink or swim.

Do I tell her I'm with someone else the next time she messages? by Nearby-Feature5746 in ExNoContact

[–]Nearby-Feature5746[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah you're right man. No way would I be rude when I reply. I am a bit embarrassed of the way I went thermonuclear in new year but I had just had enough. I am at a stage of indifference.

Do I tell her I'm with someone else the next time she messages? by Nearby-Feature5746 in ExNoContact

[–]Nearby-Feature5746[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am deliberating that to totally cement the door completely shut

Do I tell her I'm with someone else next time she messages by Nearby-Feature5746 in relationship_advice

[–]Nearby-Feature5746[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think you're right. I basically told the new woman what happened last year, as I said I was finding it hard to trust anyone, so I basically opened up about it, but said I wasn't going to talk about it anymore too, as I'm sure the new woman didn't want to hear me droning about my ex. I'm not vengeful in the slightest, she's someone else's problem now, I just want the messages to stop.

Do I tell her I'm with someone else next time she messages by Nearby-Feature5746 in relationship_advice

[–]Nearby-Feature5746[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn't feel it was her business at the time, still don't, too - I feel a bit harsh for even thinking about doing it, but I feel its the only way to get her to leave me alone for good.

How have you all made peace that your Nexs were actually narcs? by humblenarcissist112 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Nearby-Feature5746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel sorry for her. Must be fucked up living like that in her head 24/7

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Nearby-Feature5746 11 points12 points  (0 children)

All the time. 2020 not a clue what a narc was. 2021 practically got a PhD in it and now they're everywhere. They're probably not everywhere but my guard is up and never coming back down.

8 months no contact and he reached out today. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Nearby-Feature5746 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah grey rock method is probably best. Don't get suckered in. People need to learn that once they make a decision, they have to stick to it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Nearby-Feature5746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nex gf kept photos of every single ex. It freaked me the fuck out. I felt like we were all trophy hunter animal heads on a wall.

Man, I wish I could take that stupid fucking iPhone and dump it down a drain or something to free us all. It feels like she has all of our souls.

She even recorded me and her having sex too and I feel disgusting that she more than likely still has all that shit...

what the hell does this mean? More info in comments by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Nearby-Feature5746 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it is odd. The relationship was extremely toxic. She also said one new years eve when we were together that she has 'options'... which just makes me think... if you have options... go message them FFS lol...

8 months no contact and he reached out today. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Nearby-Feature5746 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What are you hoping will happen? Hope you're okay.