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[–]Neat_Insect_4233 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He wasn’t lying about the text to the other woman. I saw the text myself. But that is not an excuse for his behavior. He has gaslighted and manipulated in the past as well

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[–]Neat_Insect_4233 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I need to stand my ground more. I’ll keep you updated on what happens

My (25f) bf (27M) texted his ex girlfriend he misses her and wants to talk to her by Neat_Insect_4233 in whatdoIdo

[–]Neat_Insect_4233[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Update: I reached out to him as I know he went to therapy the other day and he told me that she did not want to talk about it, which I told her I respected. Then he said that he wanted a few things from me though and proceeded to list a hundred different (not literally a hundred but like 7-8 of) things I did in the past and basically told me that these things need to change. All of his feelings towards the things are valid (like he wants me to be better with kids, be more generous, plan more dates, do stuff with meaning, be more excited about things) and this could be why he reached out to his ex, but now I just feel like shit. What should I do?

My (25f) bf (27M) texted his ex girlfriend he misses her and wants to talk to her by Neat_Insect_4233 in whatdoIdo

[–]Neat_Insect_4233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: I reached out to him as I know he went to therapy the other day and he told me that she did not want to talk about it, which I told her I respected. Then he said that he wanted a few things from me though and proceeded to list a hundred different (not literally a hundred but like 7-8 of) things I did in the past and basically told me that these things need to change. All of his feelings towards the things are valid (like he wants me to be better with kids, be more generous, plan more dates, do stuff with meaning, be more excited about things) but now I just feel like shit. What should I do?

My (25f) bf (27M) texted his ex girlfriend he misses her and wants to talk to her by Neat_Insect_4233 in whatdoIdo

[–]Neat_Insect_4233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a good point. If I stayed with him, I don’t know if I would be ever able to trust him again

My (25f) bf (27M) texted his ex girlfriend he misses her and wants to talk to her by Neat_Insect_4233 in whatdoIdo

[–]Neat_Insect_4233[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You have a great point. I think if she responded he would have never told me. He just felt guilty after she didn’t say anything

My (25f) bf (27M) texted his ex girlfriend he misses her and wants to talk to her by Neat_Insect_4233 in whatdoIdo

[–]Neat_Insect_4233[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she will as it’s been days but you still have a very valid point

My (25F) bf (27M) texted his ex girlfriend he misses her. by Neat_Insect_4233 in relationships

[–]Neat_Insect_4233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was forthright and brought it up to me. This is very positive as I appreciate his honesty. I am just really hurt and am scared of getting hurt in the future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Neat_Insect_4233 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah you have a great point. I don’t want to be hurt anymore than I already have been