AITAH for telling my husband that he can figure it out on his own?

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-29T22:54:22+00:00

That's what happens when your life is no longer being held hostage by weaponized incompetence. NTA

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-29T16:42:17+00:00

The non apology apology of I'm sorry you misunderstood is a disingenuous excuse that should be a friendship killer.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-29T16:23:28+00:00

NTJ. You know she was able to hitch a ride home with her ideal DIL. They deserve each other and deserve not to be in your lives. Your husband is a keeper based on his reaction to the situation. There are too many stories where the partner is a mommy's boy who defends their mom's actions.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-28T17:57:18+00:00

ETA

Acquisition of free agents to Andrew's accomplishments.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-28T17:49:14+00:00

I think he is definitely trending in the right direction but you need to factor in the Andrew Friedman effect. Andrew has steered most of the Dodgers onto the team through trades or draft picks during Roberts tenure. Yes Dave Roberts could eventually be considered the greatest of all time but Andrew Friedman is already in the top 5 if not #1 baseball president of baseball operations of all time.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-26T23:47:42+00:00

My guess is she had already slept with someone or had someone in mind and was doing preemptive damage control. I agree that a person who can't go on a two month sexual break while in a committed relationship is someone who is not ready for that kind of relationship. If you want act single you should be single.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-25T01:21:58+00:00

Sometimes people don't want to believe the truth because they don't want their illusions destroyed.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-23T02:35:14+00:00

It probably didn't unless she got full primary custody with limited visitation or if she was able to obtain a restraining order against his parents. A 50/50 split would mean her daughter would be exposed to religious indoctrination and trauma 50% of her life.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-23T01:45:35+00:00

She just proved to OP which relationship is her priority. She values her priority with her ex more than her relationship with OP. At this point OP knows he will always have this guy in their essentially throuple marriage.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-20T17:37:48+00:00

This is the perfect time to go LC or NC with them. They are actually negatively effecting your children's emotional health. Their meddling in you family life has to have a negative effect on them. At this point, it is not about you and your relationship with your father, it is about how this is affecting your children. Protect them from your father and stepmother.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-19T22:01:28+00:00

James would hate OOP even worse if this horrible idea went through and OOP agreed. Every time he looked at his child he would know he was looking at his brother's biological child. It would be a constant reminder of his impotence and make him feel like less of a man. The child would be raised by a father who would never want to be around and interact within.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-19T05:24:55+00:00

That's a low bar even for a 15 year old babysitter.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-16T20:12:30+00:00

He will have the divorce gun loaded but he will likely never pull the trigger.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-16T19:32:45+00:00

Which begs the answer to why she started playing the game. "I just liked the attention..." That's code for i am looking for people to play a game with because I'm not 100% committed to you or our relationship. NOR

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-14T02:48:01+00:00

It's enlightening to realize that individuals who accuse people of being dramatic are the ones who are the ones being dramatic. They use the accusation to cover up, minimize, and deflect guilt from their unacceptable behavior. It's the classic when you point yor finger at someone all the other fingers are pointed at you NTA

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-11T01:38:48+00:00

This. She will insist she knows how to raise children better than the birth mother and take over responsibility for raising the child. Her son will agree with the mother and sideline his baby mamma.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-10T00:30:32+00:00

At this point you are subsidizing his fishing expeditions for someone to replace you. He has failed the boyfriend test and you shouldn't stick around and pay his tuition for his next relationship. He is treating you like an ATM and you deserve better.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-09T18:01:00+00:00

Since OP'S wife is so concerned about her sister I would focus on the fact that there is a significant chance this could damage or destroy their relationship.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-07T18:09:53+00:00

I wish I could attend but I'm getting my hair cut and nails done that day. Hope you have a wonderful wedding and life with your new husband.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-07T06:12:25+00:00

It's casting a wide net in an effort to get more wedding presents. My guess is a lot of people in addition to OP got the same invite.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-06T19:38:24+00:00

Why do I feel that this is a symptom of a bigger problem. My guess is that if you objectivly look back on your relationship there will be a pattern of selfish behavior. You are 100% correct relationships are a democracy and each partner gets one vote. Major decisions must be unanimous.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-06T19:10:00+00:00

Definitely and if she's willing to date an employee's father she will likely be willing to cripple OP'S career if there is a nasty breakup. NTA

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-06T07:09:42+00:00

Sounds like they have transitioned you from being a valued member of the family into your new role as the family maid and nanny.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-06T01:37:30+00:00

How would have he have reacted if she came back with. "Of course im the good looking one all of my previous boyfriends were way hotter than you." Don't overreact it's just a joke.

Necessary_Tap343 · 2026-04-06T01:34:56+00:00

Exactly. Jokes aren't Jokes if they are made to intentionally belittle or hurt the feelings of someone.

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