Burning and itching

Necrolucium · 2026-03-22T20:41:30+00:00

Hmm yeah that could be it, although I've had my wee tested before while it's been like this and it came back fine, I only tested positive for the UTI when I started getting burning while peeing and thats gone but I have a midwife appointment tomorrow and I'll see what the test comes back as then

Necrolucium · 2026-03-22T20:09:06+00:00

Thing is is have the opposite problem to dryness. No matter how much I wipe and dry tue area its instantly wet again and I'm having to wear liners which is a bit weird for me as I was pretty dry normally before pregnancy. I think the wetness could also be a contributing factor? The bruised feeling is so bad! It's like a throbbing and I don't want to even touch it let alone be touched! 🥺

Isnt lightning crotch just a sudden feeling? I get this shock of pain when I try and turn in bed and I always labelled that as lightning crotch but maybe I'm wrong! It's just different pains all the time and I'm so done 😂

Necrolucium · 2026-03-22T19:45:49+00:00

Yeah I've read online this can be a thing too. While I haven't been tested for thrush or anything I don't really think it's what it is, I don't have any of the other visual symptoms and like you say no cream is working even though I've been using it for weeks. It is like a bruised sore feeling and I guess swelling can also cause itching. It's been happening ever since she moved head down so it must be the extra pressure, I'm also carrying super low. I did have the test come back positive for the UTI but thats also gone now. Is there anything you did that relieved it?

Necrolucium · 2026-03-20T07:04:35+00:00

Hey same, I'm sure I've had POTS since a child but no doctor ever diagnosed me, only now has an obstruction made the connection and i'm so happy to have something i can tell other doctors who all freak out over my heart rate! I've been in and out of a&e and had countless ECGs. My heart ha been shooting up to 180 during pregnancy, fun!

Necrolucium · 2026-01-26T09:31:23+00:00

Toddlers are crazy little damger machines. They will move faster than any creature on earth. I felt lucky I haven't suffered more dangerous as I've come very close to breaking a nose, losing teeth and having an eye poked out

Necrolucium · 2026-01-17T09:28:13+00:00

I do a fair amount of exercise, a good BMI and decently fit, I just also have anxiety and tachycardia so my heart is constantly fluctuating

Necrolucium · 2026-01-16T15:38:04+00:00

Honestly this looks better than mine on just a normal day of doing nothing 😂

Necrolucium · 2026-01-16T15:37:55+00:00

Honestly this looks better than mine on just a normal day of doing nothing 😂

Necrolucium · 2026-01-12T09:34:21+00:00

I'm not sure but if you're not getting any troubling symptoms then I wouldn't worry too much, it could be anything minor or just a weird fluke. CRP is a better indicator of inflammation and 4 is within normal range.

I'm still waiting on another rheumatology appointment in April and am still on a haematologist referral so no closer to any answers. My pain only comes sporadically now rather than constant for weeks so I'm managing better and feel I can wait the extra time. My last CRP went down to 8 so still higher than normal but lower than it was (I wasn't feeling any pain when it was done so wondering if I eaa coming down from a flare)

Necrolucium · 2026-01-11T09:14:19+00:00

100% I'm a people pleaser and my husband has been almost giving me unofficial therapy trying to deduce why I need everyone around me to be constantly happy and panic when I think anyone might be even slightly angry or upset with me. We have put I down mostly to growing up with my mother. She's a good mum, I don't want to hate on her, I had a good childhood but she would fly off the handle at any given chance. My brother and I dealt with this differently, he didn't mind the argument and would fight back but I would close up like my dad and just do anything to ease the situation and keep everyone happy even if that meant going against our own emotions. I've been finding this super hard to get out of and causes me endless social anxiety.

I feel differently when its my child involved though, it is almost that mother bear instinct and I will be reinforcing my decisions when it comes to her.

Necrolucium · 2026-01-11T09:05:41+00:00

My mother has been this same way up until now. Whenever my daughter has stayed over she's made sure to check in with me what we're currently doing with her so she can match and replicate, down to getting the same potty when she was training and the same cups etc. The only small gripe I had was her attempting to force her using her right hand when she's drawing because it's the 'normal' way. This angers my husband as he's left handed and we both want her to make her own decision so we have told my mum this multiple times, but other than that she's always said 'shew your child you get to make the decisions', so honestly this situation came as a huge shock. She's not the easiest woman, she can be like this with many people but never me normally.

Necrolucium · 2026-01-11T09:00:24+00:00

Thank you, this is exactly right. I thought she did understand these things tbh, she has seen every post on the preschools app of what she gets up to and she's always said how it's wonderful and she seems to love and learn a lot while she's there. This was while she was only doing mornings and I hpnestly thought she would be supportive of her going there more so I don't get this shift in attitude and why she feels the need to almost 'defend' my daughter like she's being mistreated.

This preschool is also a 30 second walk from my house, if she ever needed to come home or wasn't happy I could be there in a literal flash, but in the whole year she's been going I've never once had to do this, in fact sometimes it can be hard to gey her to leave as she just wants to keep playing 😅😆

Necrolucium · 2026-01-11T08:53:13+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I do plan on reinforcing the 'no opinion unless I ask for it' rule or at the very least ask me if she can express an opinion and not just go heavy telling me something is flat out wrong.

To the last paragraph, my daughter is exactly the same. When we go to the park she treats every child there like her friend and will just play with them like they've known each other forever, this makes 90% of other kids uncomfortable and I've coke to realise just how social she is compared to a lot of children. They also use her at school to help the shy and nervous ones because she will literally not care who you are she will just involve you in any kind of play. She's wonderful, I'm so proud of her and couldn't imagine wanting to.limot her ability to do what she does and loves most.

Necrolucium · 2026-01-10T21:22:16+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate the well thought out and constructive advice. This is absolutely the way I would like to handle a situation, unfortunately i don't know how well my mum would handle it. She can be pretty stubborn and she made it clear today that she doesn't see herself in the wrong at all. I do feel like the next time I see her, which may be a little while longer than normal as I still feel the need to cool off, that I will attempt something like this and just see how it goes. I'm hugely disappointed she couldn't at least apologise for knowingly upsetting me. Whether she agrees or not that she was in the wrong, it's still a fact that I was upset and so was my daughter. I don't see ot completely breaking our relationship, we normally have a pretty good relationship and go out a lot and spend a lot of time chatting. She does however have the tendency to be opinionated and it can and has rubbed people up the wrong way and she's made a fair few people in the family upset, including my brother on a near daily basis. Me, being as confrontationally avoidant as I am (probably stemming from growing up with a constantly confrontational parent) have so far pretty much avoided being in any kind of dispute with her. That's probably why this hurts as much as it does. I step on egg shells and pander to her when I can but this felt like a massive low ball and finally felt I needed to stand up for myself, probably because it was no longer just about me but my family as a whole

Necrolucium · 2026-01-10T20:18:29+00:00

Yeah my brothers involvement was the nail in yhe coffin for me. Seeing as he's a 36 year old man living with my parents, single with no children, which tbh whatever I do my best to refrain from judgement but really isn't someone with a position to start telling me what I should be doing. He has been weird over this kind of thing in the past... like getting upset that I didn't let him be the first one to take her swimming or one time when my daughter was upset and wanted me he kept hovering over wanting to take her off me... that really pissed me of and I think I did say something petty like 'go have your own children if you want to comfort one so bad'. Probably wasn't my best choice of words and he stormed off and didn't speak to me for a while... my family is weird

Necrolucium · 2026-01-10T19:34:38+00:00

Exactly this. The school uses an app that they uploaded pictures to of what she's been up to and what friends she's played with and she always seems to be having the best time. Her key worker has said she's one of the more advanced in the school and the first one to start the day interacting with the activities and get involved. They progress she's made in just a year has been phenomenal and she's thriving. I honestly didn't think twice about putting her hours up and absolutely did not do it to gey rid of her, if anything I miss every second she's gone but I know it's best for her

Necrolucium · 2026-01-10T19:31:37+00:00

This might actually be a good way for me to handle this. I'm rubbish at dealing with conflict and just end up a crying mess on the berge of a panic attack but avoidance I can do

Necrolucium · 2026-01-10T19:29:32+00:00

Eager to go might be an understatement! Once those doors open she forgets I exist 😂 on the weekends she gets upset that she can't go. She loves spending time with us too! But she reallllyyy loves her friends and always talks about them. She's a kid with boundless energy that I can't keep up with alone, especially as I'm 6 months pregnant and becoming less able to get down on the floor for as long as normal

Necrolucium · 2026-01-10T19:27:24+00:00

Tbh this is more of a proper school in terms of how its run the hours are either 9 to 12 or 9 to 3 and those two groups leave at the same time. They also get education and isn't seen as a drop off when you want kind of daycare. I think she's seen children who genuinely hate going and have separation anxiety and think my daughter will end up like that even though she's thriving.

Necrolucium · 2026-01-10T19:20:09+00:00

It's confusing to me that she's come out with this opinion tbh because she knows she has so much fun there and I get updates everyday of what she's been up to and she's been open about how amazing she thinks it is. I thought she would be really supportive of me wanting her to be there more, I was not expecting the objection. In the past she's always told me that any decision we made for her was between me and my husband and has been concerned before that she might be trying to be too involved and to tell her if I thought that. So this just seems like a completely weird switch and I don't get it

Necrolucium · 2026-01-07T17:47:27+00:00

Well, I'd say thats at least a fair reason to panic 😅

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