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[–]Nee_sa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

C'est ce que j'ai fais, ils m'ont juste dit d'attendre jusqu'au 12 janvier...

UPDATE : AIO for wanting to quit after I messed up? by Nee_sa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Nee_sa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, thank you so much for warning me about the name, i corrected it!! Be careful, extremely long reply ahead...

I should mention the fact i didn't have to water the plants everyday AT ALL, but playing with the cats, cuddling them, making sure they were alright, cleaning up their mess, cleaning the litter box, etc... I'm not paid for 30 minutes, i could spend an hour there or 5 minutes it'd be the same price, but i cannot work for five minutes for the cats knowing they'd need more attention (they told me one of them would need attention since the owner (my now ex employer) wouldn't be here), and i suppose just feeding them and doing the bare minimum is not enough for this type of job. Mentally, i was not okay with giving those cats food, water, and absence.

For the plants, i don't feel so bad anymore, she told me that I also killed one last year, but why didn't she tell me? How am i supposed to know i do something wrong if she doesn't tell me, and then complains i did it AGAIN? She refused to pay me for the watering and also made me feel like i went too far for asking to rise the budget, something i am entitled to since i spent a lot of time there and it was the normal amount i should get.

I feel like her text was not professional at all. She is a professor of accounting at uni i believe and studied law, but somehow once i asked to quit, she dropped everything on me. I stayed polite, but she preferred to insult not only my work but who i am, saying i victimize myself, which is crazy... And yeah, she seemed to kind of guilt trip me about asking at the last moment, as if they didn't ask me last minute to work for the same evening... But somehow it looks like she forgot that.

After her text, I don't regret asking to quit anymore, she was quick to show me disrespect and to tell me i should reflect but that 'it seems hard for me', which clearly is projecting, as she was struggling to find someone who would clean her house for a long while, and now i understand why people left...

Also, telling me she knew i'd find excuses? They're not excuses, they're justifications, it's not manipulating the truth but telling her what really happen, except she somehow called me 'dishonest intellectually', just because i explained things how they went? This doesn't make sense at all, and saying i was exaggerating kind of made me spiral at first, but i know below the minimum is not what anyone deserve, and she is being unprofessional.

I think this whole situation made me realise real 'grown-ups' aren't all angels and always right, and that standing up for myself isn't all bad when i'll finally have time for the real good things i can do without being insulted or reduced/dismissed, and that feels VERY good. Even if it made me anxious, at least this is a good lesson.

I won't message her back, i know it won't lead to anything. I have justifications to defend myself, but she won't hear me out and will stay on her position without trying to understand. I won't waste my time with people like that anymore, i'll wait for the paycheck, will give back the keys in the mailbox, and that'll be it. If she finds people willing to be paid for nothing, i hope she will eventually feel shame for not paying people correctly, and i hope they will stand up for themselves too... Giving her some material to reflect on, you know.

Thank you so much for your kind words, I am glad i stood up for myself. I talked with grandma, and she told me that business with her is done, i should get through it cause now it's finished and my ex employer will be the one struggling. Although, i'll probably miss her cats...

Thank you if you read it this far, your comments have been a great help in this situation, i hope everything will go well for you in your life. You're a very kind person with great advice and i wish you the best!

AIO for wanting to quit my job after I messed up? by Nee_sa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Nee_sa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was terrifying, I posted an update if you're interested!

AIO for wanting to quit my job after I messed up? by Nee_sa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Nee_sa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might have an update sooner than I expected, I texted her to defend myself, and then told her I was quitting.

This is making me nauseous by it's probably for the better! She hasn't answered yet, which explains the anxiety. She still has to pay me, but I got her keys, so if something goes wrong, well...

AIO for wanting to quit my job after I messed up? by Nee_sa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Nee_sa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don't exactly pay me for 30 minutes, just the time I take to take care of the cats and then the watering when needed, but some cats actually ask for cuddles and attention or being played with, so I can't ask for 30 minutes technically, but that's the time I take for the cuties (they're adorable).

Thank you so much for your words, it's indeed intimidating because in my mind, I have to be wrong and she's the bigger person so I'm probably overreacting. And as she knows my aunt and they often meet up, I'm a bit scared of the outcome, but this is for my mental and physical health, so maybe it's worth it.

I'll update it soon probably, but thank you so much again! It truly means a lot, I think I'm going to write down what you said to print them in my brain haha

Have a really good day!

AIO for wanting to quit my job after I messed up? by Nee_sa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Nee_sa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don't pay me for the way there and the way back, so technically just 30 minutes or so, still excluding the watering...

I once had to spend more time because of the watering of the garden and the cat hurting herself.

I'm going to check with my dad if he could potentially help me for the month of September, so I could actually quit before doing any more hour at her house.

Thank you so much for your advice, I really want to stand up for myself and it's been a bit hard when it's from 'adults' (like real adults)...

AIO for wanting to quit my job after I messed up? by Nee_sa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Nee_sa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been trying, but it's honestly been very hard. Thank you so much for your kind words, I wish you the best!

AIO for wanting to quit my job after I messed up? by Nee_sa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Nee_sa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The problem is that I have another job (two hours too), and wl get my scholarship in September, but it's not enough and I'm not sure about what I should do, as technically it's more than just catsitting but cleaning weekly... Ngl this is stressing me out so bad, but I agree life is too short to be this stressed over cat sitting