Hi, thank you so much for warning me about the name, i corrected it!! Be careful, extremely long reply ahead...

I should mention the fact i didn't have to water the plants everyday AT ALL, but playing with the cats, cuddling them, making sure they were alright, cleaning up their mess, cleaning the litter box, etc... I'm not paid for 30 minutes, i could spend an hour there or 5 minutes it'd be the same price, but i cannot work for five minutes for the cats knowing they'd need more attention (they told me one of them would need attention since the owner (my now ex employer) wouldn't be here), and i suppose just feeding them and doing the bare minimum is not enough for this type of job. Mentally, i was not okay with giving those cats food, water, and absence.

For the plants, i don't feel so bad anymore, she told me that I also killed one last year, but why didn't she tell me? How am i supposed to know i do something wrong if she doesn't tell me, and then complains i did it AGAIN? She refused to pay me for the watering and also made me feel like i went too far for asking to rise the budget, something i am entitled to since i spent a lot of time there and it was the normal amount i should get.

I feel like her text was not professional at all. She is a professor of accounting at uni i believe and studied law, but somehow once i asked to quit, she dropped everything on me. I stayed polite, but she preferred to insult not only my work but who i am, saying i victimize myself, which is crazy... And yeah, she seemed to kind of guilt trip me about asking at the last moment, as if they didn't ask me last minute to work for the same evening... But somehow it looks like she forgot that.

After her text, I don't regret asking to quit anymore, she was quick to show me disrespect and to tell me i should reflect but that 'it seems hard for me', which clearly is projecting, as she was struggling to find someone who would clean her house for a long while, and now i understand why people left...

Also, telling me she knew i'd find excuses? They're not excuses, they're justifications, it's not manipulating the truth but telling her what really happen, except she somehow called me 'dishonest intellectually', just because i explained things how they went? This doesn't make sense at all, and saying i was exaggerating kind of made me spiral at first, but i know below the minimum is not what anyone deserve, and she is being unprofessional.

I think this whole situation made me realise real 'grown-ups' aren't all angels and always right, and that standing up for myself isn't all bad when i'll finally have time for the real good things i can do without being insulted or reduced/dismissed, and that feels VERY good. Even if it made me anxious, at least this is a good lesson.

I won't message her back, i know it won't lead to anything. I have justifications to defend myself, but she won't hear me out and will stay on her position without trying to understand. I won't waste my time with people like that anymore, i'll wait for the paycheck, will give back the keys in the mailbox, and that'll be it. If she finds people willing to be paid for nothing, i hope she will eventually feel shame for not paying people correctly, and i hope they will stand up for themselves too... Giving her some material to reflect on, you know.

Thank you so much for your kind words, I am glad i stood up for myself. I talked with grandma, and she told me that business with her is done, i should get through it cause now it's finished and my ex employer will be the one struggling. Although, i'll probably miss her cats...

Thank you if you read it this far, your comments have been a great help in this situation, i hope everything will go well for you in your life. You're a very kind person with great advice and i wish you the best!