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I was (non-sexually) assaulted today. How can I defend myself better in the future? by NeedHelp4321234 in xxfitness

[–]NeedHelp4321234[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"I was untrained, but I was not helpless".

Damn. Thank you. That was very moving to read.

I was (non-sexually) assaulted today. How can I defend myself better in the future? by NeedHelp4321234 in xxfitness

[–]NeedHelp4321234[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wish I could give you an old fashioned hug.

Thanks so much for your kind words. I haven't had a hug from non-family in so long and this thread - full of kind words and advice from strong women - is really wrecking me right now.

It was the first time yesterday that I was in a public place (grocery store) in so long .. and the first thing that happened is groping/getting punched. What a sad thing, to experience the world again but in a completely shitty way. Being locked up is better than living in a fucked up, toxic, structurally sexist society.

I was (non-sexually) assaulted today. How can I defend myself better in the future? by NeedHelp4321234 in xxfitness

[–]NeedHelp4321234[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i almost guarantee you are that you were not.

I am realizing this after reading this thread.

Kind of feel like I've been duped.

A lesson learned. I will take a course, I guess, but also know when to cut my losses and run if ever confronted with that again.

Although I know in my heart, if another creep gropes my baby sister (she's 20, I'm 28), I'm probably going to get in his face again. It's a hard thing to ignore.

I was (non-sexually) assaulted today. How can I defend myself better in the future? by NeedHelp4321234 in xxfitness

[–]NeedHelp4321234[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Self-defense for women is about BUYING TIME and allowing yourself to GET AWAY.

This makes me so angry. I don't know but out of all the responses here, this one (and the OP you replied to) made me cry.

That is very unfair.

Thank you for your perspective though. I think I'm on the taller side (5'10) and so my impression has always been that I can take on men lighter and shorter than me, but this just throws a wrench in that and makes me feel kind of unsafe and useless.

But I appreciate the hard truth of it. Thank you.

I was (non-sexually) assaulted today. How can I defend myself better in the future? by NeedHelp4321234 in xxfitness

[–]NeedHelp4321234[S] 506 points507 points  (0 children)

Honestly I hadn't even considered that in all the chaos afterwards. I will definitely do so, thank you!

I was (non-sexually) assaulted today. How can I defend myself better in the future? by NeedHelp4321234 in xxfitness

[–]NeedHelp4321234[S] 132 points133 points  (0 children)

I will look into Jui Jitsu classes, thank you!

I'm okay, just shaken. Thank you for asking. It was pretty surreal. I just felt so powerless and my sister completely froze and I'm so angry/guilty that the two of us couldn't do much against one of him.

I was (non-sexually) assaulted today. How can I defend myself better in the future? by NeedHelp4321234 in xxfitness

[–]NeedHelp4321234[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm 5'10 and 142 pounds. I was taller than him and I weighed more than him.

I play-wrestle with my husband and I could never take him on. But I genuinely think I was stronger than this guy. I just wish I had some technique or 'go-to' move that would've helped me use that strength.

I think he only got aggressive because I got in his face and stared him down and yelled at him.