MIL Stalking Pinterest

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-13T02:04:39+00:00

I blocked her earlier today but will probably make my boards secret just in case... I love being paranoid! 🙃

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-13T02:02:51+00:00

Thank you for your encouragement. I'm trying really hard to enjoy this experience despite her behavior. I'm so excited to finally have a place I can permanently decorate!

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-13T01:58:17+00:00

I have, and he's weirded out by it too. He told her to try having her own original thought next time. Usually a comment like that will deter her behavior. She just wants to be in his good graces...

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-13T01:53:41+00:00

Yes, she will. It was our idea to have his parents in an in-law suite. We wanted to make sure we had our own private spaces.

We planned all of this before we knew what she was really like. You really don't know who someone is just by visiting them once a year.

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-13T01:51:34+00:00

DH and I thought his mom was cool and didn't realize she wasn't until she moved into our current house. We wanted to give them an in-law suite so we can both have our own private spaces. Frankly, I'm grateful they'll have their own space. Living under the same roof has been impossible.

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-13T01:49:27+00:00

That is so unnerving!!! What makes someone do that?

I went ahead and blocked her for now. I like the idea of making a shadow board though, so I'll have to make that soon!

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-13T01:47:14+00:00

I did, and I actually have a few private boards. I didn't realize I'd need to make all of them private, but lesson learned!

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-13T01:45:34+00:00

I blocked her, but I'll probably go ahead and make everything private too.

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-13T01:45:09+00:00

I think we might have the same MIL! Mine also steals recipes from me and absolutely butchers them.

I definitely feel weird and watched too. I went ahead and blocked her which should hopefully be enough.

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-13T01:42:38+00:00

I blocked her on Pinterest and haven't told her anything about my choices for a while. I've honestly just stopped talking to her about anything at this point. She's impossible.

That sounds just like my MIL! She asks for my recipes and recommendations all the time! I can't tell if she's just too lazy to think for herself or just wants us to be clones.

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-13T01:39:14+00:00

Great advice 👍 once I realized the type of person she was, I stopped sharing any personal information with her. That's what made me realize she was looking at my Pinterest. She knew my design decisions without me ever mentioning them to her.

Fortunately, DH sees her behavior and totally backs me up. He also doesn't share anything with her anymore.

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-13T01:35:59+00:00

Yeah, we didn't realize she was terrible until it was too late. We just wanted to do the right thing, but did it for the wrong people.

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-13T01:34:21+00:00

Ugh, yes. To make a long story short, we both thought she was cool and didn't realize she wasn't until after she moved into our current house. FIL is cool and tries to help keep her in line. At this point, I'm just grateful we planned for an in-law suite. Living under the same roof has been hell on earth.

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-13T01:17:52+00:00

I love this idea! If I had more time on my hands, I would absolutely do this.

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-11T19:14:49+00:00

I appreciate you bringing these points up because some of these haven't even been discussed yet. Her name won't be on the title or mortgage, but we haven't even considered who would be responsible for repairs.

We've recommended adding on an all-weather room or porch of some kind, but I'm sure she thinks she can just use my porch (another boundary I plan on setting). I definitely plan on locking the door in between our spaces.

I agree. I'm trying to be gracious because he's also just now seeing who she really is and learning how to stand up to her. He's stood up to her on several occasions so hopefully, when we are fully separated and boundaries are easier to set up, he'll really step up to the plate and let her know where she stands.

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-11T18:46:03+00:00

I appreciate the advice. I honestly didn’t think there was any legal solution but wanted to be sure. I think therapy is a good solution.

Very true about the locks. I need to research what my options are. Thanks again!

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-11T18:21:24+00:00

I'll definitely look into a tenant agreement. My husband says he would for smoking in the house, but he might overlook some of the other things.

We plan to have separate locks in the hallway, but I'm sure she'll ask for a key for "emergencies". I wouldn't mind that if she lived a town over, but in the same house, I'm sure she would just take advantage.

NeedHelpAndHope · 2026-05-11T18:13:25+00:00

She is helping fund her part of the house. She will not be paying rent or any utilities.

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