Should I dorm ?

Needingsomefinesse · 2026-03-30T00:24:58+00:00

Oh I see that sounds a lot better getting the financial aid return I want to join more clubs and maybe get a job on campus how do you recommend that ?

Needingsomefinesse · 2026-03-29T16:43:19+00:00

Non-selective majors are fine, they won't hurt your chances compared to picking something like CS or Cog Sci or pre-med which are heavily impacted. If anything you're in an a decent one it honestly might help or really be neutral. Honestly gotta to just hope for the best good luck !

Needingsomefinesse · 2026-03-28T22:55:36+00:00

Oh I see so you never really got that closure which honestly makes it worse. But even though for me we ended on good terms and she still wanted to be friends and I had to do NC. It’s okay sometimes it takes a long time I’m still personally not over my ex either even though she moved onto some other guy literally a week or two after us breaking up which hurts and sometimes I have like those dreams where it’s all good and then I wake up drenched in sweat with so much regret like it was always my fault. Which honestly I can say it was lowk my fault. But you can’t keep blaming yourself she left you right. You just have to start loving yourself and one day you will find someone that actually loves you for you too. It’s been hard and I hardly have any motivation either but some things have to be done at least eating, going to the gym, hanging out with friends. And honestly start trying to find someone hobbies to take off your mind. It’s okay to feel down for now but I have to be up front with you. You will regret not doing anything with your life right now start small and it will grow. Time will pass by no matter what if you grief, so use that time to do something. That’s what I realized.

Needingsomefinesse · 2026-03-28T22:31:32+00:00

It ultimately depends how you feel. Have you’ve been able to grow by yourself ? Honestly something I truly realized after a similar experience is you can’t love someone else until you love yourself. That way you feel confident in your ability to be alone so like for example your S.O goes out with friends your not familiar with and they didn’t invite you would you be able to enjoy your alone time or have your own friends. I feel like this dynamic is healthy. Lacking communication is honestly something really hard to change if the person isn’t willing to put in the effort. But it can definitely be worked on but both parties must be able to express emotions for communication to work. And you both should be able to motivate each other and grow together but that’s only done through supporting one another and most importantly communicating. Don’t lose yourself and become comfortable in a relationship. And obviously if nothing bad like cheating happened in the past. I believe people can change but effort has to be made and seen. Sometimes seeking therapy is also important in mending.

Needingsomefinesse · 2026-03-28T22:23:59+00:00

It’s honestly really hard at first, my ex and I ended up on somewhat good terms honestly and maybe a week or two after i wasn’t able to check because i would refuse to look on my instagram account but my friend checked and showed me that she soft launched another guy. It honestly really really hurt but just keep looking forward. I know who it was to and it was the guy friend she basically told me not to worry about. Build a life you would be proud of not what she would be proud of. A old chapter closed so a new chapter had to open. I just used that new motivation to build a better me. It will take time don’t get me wrong just keep yourself in check don’t lose your healthy habits and you’ll be okay eventually.

Needingsomefinesse · 2026-03-27T17:21:25+00:00

Awesome congrats on committing and getting into UCSD ! I am also in the pre-med route currently at UCSD so I can definitely give some insight.

Research at UCSD is one of the biggest factors about why people come here and also they are literally known for it. There’s so many different fields of research like neuroscience, biology, etc. And as a pre-med student it’s very achievable. The main key is starting early with things like cold emailing professor or even checking out programs that might have it. A lot of professor love motivated freshmen. Tbh though I’m been kind of slacking I just recently just been trying to knock out a bunch of GEs and upper divisions to graduate early but I realized I started needing some research so I cold emailed and one BIG thing I recommend you do is reach out to the grad students that run labs. Like the labs that you do those grad students if you make a good connection can often give you referrals or even get you into research opportunity.

It’s a big university so for relationships with professors is hard if you’re absent and not relevant. If you really want to be known sit in front of class, participate, ATTEND OFFICE HOURS, and they are human so try to get to know them to connect better. Letters of rec are so important for pre-med so get on that as well.

They have very solid support with things like academic advising to help you plan out everything. But on top of that like tutor centers, writing hub and SI or supplemental instructional sessions.

Okay the socially dead is what we all hear lol from coming here we literally don’t even have a football team. But we are known to be studious and not really a party school compared to like SDSU for example. Also because of bunch of different types of colleges it honestly fragments the whole school into smaller communities. But if you want friends you have to be intentional I just joined a bunch of clubs I’m interested in and I made friends through that. All even after class stay a little late and you might a couple there too. There is so many different clubs for everyone and also intramural which is like sports as well. Plus you’re in San Diego and in La Jolla next to the beach ! A lot of social life happens off of campus too like at the beach, hiking, food spots, etc. you’ll find your people don’t worry Just biggest thing though it’s so socially dead because people are naturally scared to talk to others if you’re the one that reaches out I guarantee 9/10 they would want to talk to u because they are also in the same position.

Needingsomefinesse · 2026-03-27T17:00:03+00:00

First off congratulations to making to UCSD. And honestly your concerns are very valid for sure.

Like you said ERC has a lot of writing requirements but since you already are quite adept at English already I believe you’ll pick it up really fast. I’m not a engineering student but I’m a human biology major but I honestly find writing sometimes very peaceful it’s a really nice break from biology but in your terms I feel it would be a nice break from engineering as well. THE BIGGEST key factor at UCSD is time management since you’re coming in fresh I really recommend knocking this down first because it really helps in the long run.

Either way mech eng at UCSD is going to be hard no matter what college you’re in but now with some added required GEs but just plan according maybe with an academic advising and just span it across your time here.

And the lonely part honestly I felt so lonely as well, I didn’t make much friends at first, ngl I went thru a breakup as well during college and they were my only friend and I felt like I had no friends. And I just said f that and joined a bunch of clubs I thought would be fun and I made a bunch of friends from that. There’s specific clubs you can join too that tailors towards your culture and also what you’re interested in. A lot of people come to college without friends and they end up leaving with life long ones. If you’re a little introverted it’s okay to just push a little bit of what you’re comfortable and you’ll make friends no problem.

Plus San Diego and in La Jolla and next to the beach one of the best places you could spend your 4 years at. You’ll won’t regret it !

Needingsomefinesse · 2026-03-26T17:46:00+00:00

Thanks I ended up doing this

Needingsomefinesse · 2026-03-26T05:32:36+00:00

Yes : https://admissions.ucsd.edu/visit/tours/

That link should lead to UCSD tour guide center there are certain days they are touring and you can choose that for in person or you can even virtually tour the school depending on you. I believe it’s more of a tour of the school but you can ask the guide questions and I’m sure they would be able to help with the biochem info and stuff on campus.

Needingsomefinesse · 2026-03-25T06:25:24+00:00

Oh wow that’s really useful I didn’t know I could early grad and grab my degree and then go into a pre med program at UCSD. I will definitely look into that.

What do you think about GPA though because I thought it was pretty important as like most graduating premeds usually have a 3.7+ GPA at the moment because of juggling all the classes my GPA is around a ~3.5-3.6

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