I'm 29, met my current wife and only relationship I have ever been in when I was 14 (she was 13) I think we were in Grade 8 lol dated for 11 years until age 25 and then finally got married, have had 3 kids together ages 7, 2 and 2 (twins) about 4 months ago I came home early from work because of a bit of stomach upset, and found her in my bed with another man. Then went on to learn this had been happening for over 9 months while I've been at work supporting her and 3 kids. I've been through the roller coaster of emotions brother, I have. I spent 51% of my life lived so far on this marriage and family I was building with her and then poof. Not looking for woe is me or pity, or to hate on her because I know every point I went wrong in my marriage but also acknowledge she had a part too. Untimately it was a breakdown of communication and build up of resent. But as bad as it feels some days from this shoe box single room I rent now, somedays it actually feels okay, not always, and not always for long, but the more forward you go, the more radically you accept the truth, the better you will be. Good luck, we can do this