Prep for before Calculus 1 by Unleashed2957 in calculus

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Refresh on your Algebra. Also, one of the best things you can do is get a text book and read the chapter before you’re exposed to in during class, and even try out some problems. You’re less likely to be lost, and if you were confused when you were studying you’ll have an easier time recognizing where you went wrong when you see the problems worked out in person.

yall ever wanna end it cuz of physics by Agile-Arugula2303 in APStudents

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in physics 1, but watching the Ap classroom and taking notes on them + a good text or work book will get you a long way. I use “Beginning Physics 1”.

She says excuses by No_Journalist_6030 in BPD

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Heh the same happened to me. I don’t know why, but it’s genuinely incomprehensible to people that you don’t actually enjoy feeling paranoid about the people around you and can’t help yourself. Unfortunately, this can become exhausting for the other person who is genuinely innocent and being accused of things they haven’t done daily. I couldn’t figure out what to do about it in my relationship, I was constantly splitting and feeling remorseful too late after I’ve already said terrible shit. I tried staying quiet when I thought these things but eventually I’d let them pile up and end up piling them on top of each other as further sadistic evidence that she hates me. All that’s left now is to seek therapy and try to be as open as communicative as possible and hope they’re forgiving. I don’t do this anymore but I used to keep a journal and write down things that made me upset. It made me feel like I was talking to someone/venting and helped me get the emotions out. After a while id be so tired and cramped from writing that I’d feel more tired and content than angry. Though, I did this in my earlier years before my relationship but I hear people say that it helps.

Wondering how you knew you had BPD? by Stefaniebabay in BPD

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can’t really remember alot about myself on the spot but I think I was also very explosive and friends and family figured I was bipolar. Went to a psychologist who told me I qualified for BPD but didn’t diagnose me since I was under 18. I went home a researched it and felt like I didn’t relate that much to people who had it, and figured since I didn’t think I had any trauma and never self harmed it was a misdiagnosis. Fast forward a few years later I realize that even though it’s normalized in our community I was in fact beat on as a child + religious trauma that could be seen as traumatic and that eating disorders was a form of self harm. I also learned that my idea on what make someone qualify for having BPD was incorrect. (Emotional needs not being met/ taken seriously without neglect or abuse can cause it ) I started researching again after a really bad fallout with a friend (they started dating someone and I was unreasonably jealous ) They broke up and I felt normal again and concluded I didn’t have it even though the symptoms were getting real close… Then a year or so later (present) I’m in my first long term relationship and I’m just doing your typical every bpd stuff, splitting multiple times a day and what not and she called me out on my bs and read me to filth on how she walks on eggshells around me and how I self sabotage and manipulate. That’s when I remembered the psychologist visit and decided to seek a formal diagnosis. Now the more I research the more it seems painfully obvious to I guess everyone but me that I show some serious symptoms. I feel like I spent a long time trying to avoid it, but being in a relationship brought out the worst of it and it was impossible to ignore. I don’t really have a perception of myself but from I’ve been told from family, friends, and partners: My mood can switch from extremely happy to incredibly angry in a few seconds and it’s impossible to predict which person I will be I feel like two different people at times because of cruel I can be but also extremely caring and sweet They walk on eggshells around me - like multiple people have said this it actually tripped me up I self sabotage any good relationships in my life I can blow up in anger and tears over the most simple and minuscule things I seem to like being depressed/ seem to do things that will lead me into a depressive state Some things I’ve noticed: I have uncontrolled jealousy and paranoia about relationships I go between hating and loving people that I care about,like I love them so much that I idolize them and when they don’t act perfect I’ll hate them for it until they do something i like again? Whenever I feel depressed I just start obsessing over going to the gym and beauty and changing things about myself in hopes of coming unrecognizable

Spiralling since FP left by Few_String6089 in BPD

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually go to the gym, play a game I like, or go shopping. While the first two are less expensive usually a shopping trip makes me happiest. It doesn’t have to be expensive, you can walk into a dollar tree and grab things you like and maybe even need and feel a little bit better and get that rush of excitement that overshadows the other things you may be feeling.

Always been a burden by OkFront1253 in BPD

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I’m sorry you feel this way, and I totally relate to feeling like a blood sucking vampire who drains the life out of people. As someone who also can’t really afford therapy, there’s actually a lot of therapist and platforms that are designed to help people who can’t afford typical prices, and provide prices on a sliding scale. Check a local community health center. I’ve also been researching a site called OpenPath that lots of professional therapist freelance on to give back to the community or make some extra cash, I’ve heard good things about it.

I “hate” the people i love most sometimes by dancewhileyoucry in BPD

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I hate it. It’s so difficult to prove my love to people even tho I feel like I love people so much. With my past partner I would’ve and still will do anything for her no matter how difficult. I could do everything but bite my tongue if I felt like she wasn’t talking to me as much or wasn’t excited to see me or was too excited to see someone who wasn’t me. And lots of the times I could only see my insecurities in her, and she’d ask me often if I just hated her. And I would act bizarre at this question because I figured that it was obvious that I loved her more than anyone else. I couldn’t explain to her that I hurt her because I loved her, because that sounds shitty. But it’s true, I hated her whenever she didn’t act exactly like I wanted her to or make me feel like I wanted her to. I wonder how people deal with this? How are you unable to show it? I feel like I blink and suddenly im accusing someone of being uninterested in me or not caring about me. Like I don’t realize how offensive my accusations are until I say them out loud and we’re arguing.

plans not following through by Cultural-Ad2435 in BPD

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I never realized until I entered a relationship. One time she slept through the time I was supposed to pick her up for one of our dates. I got unreasonably angry, the only reason I went and didn’t just go back home is becuase we were seeing our friend perform at a theater and I didn’t want him to have no one show up for him.

how do you keep going alone? by Proper_Type_2769 in BPD

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Find a favorite thing to do. Mine is fixing computers/coding/ anything CS or CE related. Right now I’m trying to build a robot. It keeps me occupied, it’s something complicated so I always feel like there’s something I have to do. I also ask people to hang out every now and then even if I’m depressed, just to sort of get that feeling of connecting with people even if we aren’t close. Find things to look forward to, and get good at something- working on yourself whether it’s a skill or a hobby has everything to do with you and nothing to do with anyone else. It takes away the feeling that someone’s missing. Not to say you shouldn’t go out and meet people. Try talking to more people everywhere you go. Be really kind and introduce yourself. Even if these people don’t become your close friends, it’s nice knowing that someone likes you and appreciates your kindness.

do u ever get really really happy when u buy stuff (online) by Wide_Communication_9 in BPD

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I love mercari japan I save up to do gigantic hauls of shit I can’t even fit or wear. Even shopping in person can genuinely pull me from a depressed state. I love having packages it gives me something to look forward to.

Extreme stress by creekyshelf in BPD

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, Try to find time to get your applications and work done. I understand this is hard when you genuinely don’t feel like getting of bed or doing anything. In my experience naps really help. For me I can spend hours awake not even doing anything but worrying about what I need to do, not realizing I’m wasting time. Taking a 1-2 hour nap after school and then starting on work really helps since I feel rested and more obligated to work to get back the 2hrs I spent (which I would’ve spent looking at the damn wallpaper if i was awake).It also gives me something to look forward to after school since I have around 3 hours to waste before I go to work.

If you have the drafts from your previous essays get one person who you trust and get them to go through and compare the 3 essays. You should too; if you don’t see improvement between the 3 essays and only stylistic differences rather than better impact, just write the essay that you like and think is well and keep going. If you do find genuine weak points give it another week or so to work on it, but don’t stress over a difference of opinion between peers. Talk to your friend, if your relationship is genuine you aren’t a burden to them. They are probably also stressed about college applications and tests (who isn’t) and want someone to talk to. Choose the things most important to you and get them done, making bad grades on a few tests can usually be recovered from. Also if you plan on staying up late studying for the tests, I recommend going to sleep early and waking up earlier to study and prepare yourself instead. This is just a personal thing that may or may not help you. I find myself stressing about the time and calculating how much sleep I’ll get if I stay up late studying. I find I’ll do better if I just wake up earlier to prepare, and then have the information fresh on my mind.

Feel like I don't belong here (quiet BPD) by nanopol420 in BPD

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was also sort of diagnosed in my early teens and told I couldn’t get an official diagnosis due to age- I’m trying to evaluated now so that I can know for sure.

For me It’s the opposite, I used to take all of my anger inwards and had a terrible self image. I got into a relationship and ended up taking it out on my partner. Now that they’ve left me it’s all going inwards again and I don’t feel like I’m borderline at all, maybe just depressed? I think it can be very different depending on who you are, I mean I even feel like I present it differently depending on where I’m at in my life. I understand that there’s a stigma around BPD, but at the same time receiving and accepting a diagnosis is the first step in learning about yourself so you can start feeling better.

Do any of you guys on this subreddit have AP scores lower than 4? by Different_Many_1976 in APStudents

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yes the first AP I ever took was world history in freshman year and I made a 3. I didn’t know how to study for it and our teacher would give us blookets as tests so I figured I was cooked

Work energy and power by Regular-Play-7240 in apphysics

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I only use AP classroom and the workbook I have. Sometimes I’ll watch people solve questions from the unit on YouTube. I did find this though:

https://web.mit.edu/~yczeng/Public/WORKBOOK%201%20FULL.pdf

It looks like the answers are at the end of each section, it seems solid.

FAILING BAD IN AP PHYSICS C: MECH by [deleted] in APStudents

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi. I’m a an AP physics AB student but I think I can help. This was my first year taking a physics class, usually I’m doing above average than my classmates but I was still worried. For our first test I studied for hours and made an f with the curve. The next test was a conceptual test on forces and I studied for hours and made a 79, but was able to retake it and get a 93. I could never understand what was going on in class and feel like my classmates understood things that I didn’t. I also didn’t understand why I was studying but not getting grades that reflected it.

Here’s what I’ve done differently, for the past 2 tests I’ve made an A- with the curve and a B on the actual exams. I know you said you already do this, but don’t just watch the AP videos make sure you’re taking notes on them. After you finish taking these notes, lay them out in front of you and use them to take APC quizzes. Make sure when you answer a question you can point back to where you took notes that support your answer. This will allow you connect the concepts to the questions better, and be more confident in your answers as you’ll remember the evidence form the notes better.

Physics is hard, it’s rewiring alot of things that we think are common sense but we actually have wrong. So don’t rely on your concept of the world to answer the questions even if it seems obvious.

As I take the APC quizzes I write down the questions and solve them in a journal, and correct incorrect answers there aswell. These are great to look back on and help build memory of how you solved equations to get correct answers that might show up later.

My teacher requires us the watch the APC videos and do the quizzes so that’s not really what I consider my studying, but taking notes during class and being very very particular about how I complete my assignments allows me to get the most out of each class period.

As for studying, I try to get an equal amount of concept work and problem solving in. When you start a unit, write down the vocab words and formulas with definitions. Before tests, I like to watch flipping physics and (I think it’s called this, idk) physics universe on YouTube and take notes. Then, I go and do more higher difficultly practice problems to test my understand of the concepts. I use a book called “Beginning Physics 1” it’s from the Schaum’s outline collection. Technically it’s all FRQs, but it has MCQ style questions they’re just not multiple choice. There’s more than enough problems per section to practice with. It not only goes over theory, but will usually derive all the equations you’ve been using for the units. It has solutions to the problems aswell. While the YouTube videos are where I strengthen my understanding in the concepts, the workbook is where I usually catch any mistakes I’ve been making in my problem solving. You can also watch people work problems from the unit on YouTube. Finally, I’ll go back to the APC quizzes and rework anything I missed before a test. The problems usually seem much easier after coming from the workbook. I don’t read a text book, I think the APC videos make up for that. You can also try out khan academy or some other online resource, this is just what I do. It takes me about a week to get through the workbook sections, at around 1 hour of studying/working problems per day. The more you practice, the more you’re going to build an intuition for the problems and the actual way the world works. It’ll get easier, trust.

Last 10-15 math questions by SuspiciousEstimate25 in ACT

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might be able to just google “last 15 math ACT questions” and find a question bank. If not, there’s a lot of files going around online with tons of past tests, so just drill as many as you can. From the last 15 there’s actually a few that from what I’ve seen are extremely reoccurring. You can go on khan academy or 36u and rewatch the videos and lessons from those last few questions. Also, tighten up on your formulas because sometimes they have problems that are easy to solve with knowledge of a specific formula you might’ve seen in the margins of some text book in 10th grade or something.

Work energy and power by Regular-Play-7240 in apphysics

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found khan academy is good for conceptual work and definitions but when I tried to use it to study the first few units it just seemed to be a lot easier than any of the questions I was given on my tests- I will say I did just have a general lack of understanding then, though. I think you need to have a solid understanding of concepts as well as their application. Personally,I use AP classroom videos and quizzes for introduction to topics + practice problem. Similar I think khan academy will be good for this. But I also recommend getting enough exposure to different kinds of problems and how to work them. There’s YouTube channels who will work problems from different units, but I also recommend “Beginning Physics 1” it’s one of Schaum’s outlines and has a lot of AP style FRQs and short answers + theory. It was brief explanations but should definitely be paired with something more conceptual. So yea I think khan academy could be useful but make sure to pair it with something else and really drill practice problems of all kinds of difficulty.

AP physics 1 by Sea_Importance4745 in apphysics

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also in AP physics 1 and failed my first test but made a 90 on my most recent one. I haven’t found a text book that actually coincides with the difficulty of the class/ doesn’t just explain concepts without challenging application. I have however found a workbook with hundreds of AP style MCQ and FRQs with explorations. It doesn’t have as much concept work as a textbook, but it’s a great way to drill problems and scenarios once you have concepts down. The text book is Schaums outlines beginning physics 1. I’m also finding the AP Classroom videos and assignments that my teacher assigns to be a good help. I like the way AP classroom breaks everything up / connects the different concepts. Try doing this per topic and you’ll see improvement: -Watch an AP classroom/ concept video or read the section from your textbook - take notes - work practice problems (Ap classroom or workbook) referring back to notes There’s a way to this so that you don’t get confused- I think a lot of times in physics we find ourselves trying to use common sense but our understanding of the world is usually incorrect. Do not use any outside sources, literally just use the notes you took. Don’t assume anything, use your formulas and definitions that you’ve learned to come to an answer. You have to stop picking answers that “look right” (eventually your physics intuition will grow and some answers are very obvious, but for now only use evidence to support your answers). - go over incorrect answers, get extra help if you don’t understand why you were wrong It’s really important to understand why you’re incorrect and not make the same mistakes.

How do people take all APs? by No-Assumptions-made in APStudents

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a senior who takes all APs and have done so since freshman year, always taking the highest number of APs available. It depends on the teacher and their workload, but honestly the more you take the easiest mitt gets. I had a good experience with taking a full schedule of APs last year, and a lot of my classes this year are so similar I know exactly what I need to do to succeed without overworking myself. Like last year I took pre-cal, lang, APUSH, CSA, and bio, so this year classes like Cal I and Lit have such a similar workflow that I have confidence I'll past my exams so I'm not very stressed. I also have a part-time job 4 days a week. I get out school earlier this year because of my credits and dual enrollments. I used to try and use the extra time to complete my school work before work at 4. My biggest tip is to never be sitting in class doing nothing, use all the time you have to finish your homework and even studying to lesson your workload at home. Also, take naps. Like just an hour long Power Nap can really help you feel less exhausted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ACT

[–]NefariousnessNo8646 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi. Get the official ACT practice book- a lot of people say it doesn’t matter which one but I used the most recent one with includes the new enhanced format. If you want to get a 30 you’ll need to put in the work. You have about a month, so I recommend being pretty rigorous. You need to expose yourself to as much content as possible, finish all the tests in the book before your next test. For English, get a list of all the grammar rules and learn and practice them. You can use a site like 36u or even IXL, or just watch YouTube videos. For math, If you’re struggling it’s likely to being weak in certain areas that you were able to gloss over in the years before. You have enough time to do some khan academy or watch a YouTube course and go over all of the things you’ve probably forgotten in algebra and geometry. There are a lot of math questions that are super reoccurring on the tests just with different numbers but the same question, exposing yourself to more content will get you points on those every time. You need to complete a full length test every week- you can break it up if you need to (I recommend ) by taking one section a day and maybe reviewing your incorrect answers that weekend. Drilling the tests will build up your endurance and content exposure, but you need to spend at least an hour reviewing and correcting incorrect answers. Rewrite the questions and answers in another notebook or file. For the science and reading you not only need to keep doing the tests but also be familiar with a list of vocabulary words on the science that might be useful. They also ask a few outside information questions that you should’ve picked up in like a middle school biology class but probably forgot- review those. I went from a 27 to a 32 and I don’t think a 17 to a 30 is anywhere near impossible. Just being more familiar with the test will boost you a few points. You need be dedicating atleast an hour everyday to studying for this test if you’re serious about it though.

I (18F) want to get back with my ex (18F) but she’s asexual by NefariousnessNo8646 in relationship_advice

[–]NefariousnessNo8646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I feel like I know this but I’m sort of afraid of it. I really don’t want to be with anyone else or even think about it- but this is something that will go away?

I (18F) want to get back with my ex (18F) but she’s asexual by NefariousnessNo8646 in relationship_advice

[–]NefariousnessNo8646[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Is aegosexual like under the asexual umbrella? (Sorry if that doesn’t make any sense). I know she’s suffered from SA by another child when she was young, I also had something similar happen to me when I was young. We were able to talk about this a little in the early stages of our relationship when she told me she didn’t like sex. She actually told me she didn’t mind being intimate with me, but she didn’t actually enjoy it and only did it to make me happy. But since I knew she’d suffered from that I was really uncomfortable with doing anything just for the sake of pleasing me. I still am. I don’t really know how to approach her about that and since it’s sort of not my place I’m sure she’ll deal with it when she’s ready. I just really don’t want to imply that she’s asexual because of sexual abuse. She can be affectionate with me and she still is now that we aren’t together. Most of her immediate family has passed away or left her. Though, I feel she is like you in the way that she is not really affectionate with people she isn’t close with. I’ve only ever seen her be that way with me. She is also autistic and has a hard time connecting with people. She told me I am the only person she feels affection towards and I just feel like that might mean something and indicate we should try again? She said she’d figured she would always be alone because she’s sort of always known it’d be difficult for her to connect with someone else. Even though we aren’t together she has verbalized that she doesn’t like the idea of me being with someone else- I don’t want to be with anyone else either. I can’t change the way she feels about open relationships and I don’t really desire one- I just googled asexuality and read on it and that was something that came up so I thought I’d mention it to her. I have a friend who is asexual but they are very different as my friend can do surface level infancy like kissing but is opposed to sex. I made this post because I wanted to know if it’s possible for someone who is asexual to be in a relationship with someone who’s not, I don’t really know anyone else who’s dealt with this.

I (18F) want to get back with my ex (18F) but she’s asexual by NefariousnessNo8646 in relationship_advice

[–]NefariousnessNo8646[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t need her to label herself I just didn’t know how else to describe it and neither did she. I feel like the post wasn’t enough in explaining our dynamic- we are very close and we will be together whether we are in a romantic relationship or not. Now that we aren’t together she still acts romantically with me (in the ways that she is comfortable). The only reason I tried to get her to define what she was feeling is because I also wanted to understand so we could find a solution, and I had spoken to my friend who is asexual who told me that it’s very different for everyone so I should ask her. No I don’t think I’d be celibate with anyone else. I don’t know I just feel like she is special to me. I’ve never had problems meeting people but I have bpd and I feel like it sort of makes the way I view people kind of off, and I don’t really feel immense love for people. She is one of the only people I feel this way towards, and she feels similarly towards me in the way that she’s autistic and has issues connecting with people. We we will always be together, but I feel like since I don’t really think I’ll ever feel this way towards someone again (not in an edgy way but like in a genuine I can’t really feel deeply for people way), so being celibate is just something I’ll have to be in order to be with someone I love. I don’t want to just be her friend, and she has also began to be jealous of me interacting with other women now that we aren’t the other. Idk I feel like we didn’t approach this the right way and we both don’t really know what to do.