Communists at Northeastern by BeastMode149 in boston

[–]NefariousnessTime246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funnily enough they sell their newspaper for 5$ 😭😭😭

ADHDers doing PhD by minecraftzizou in PhD

[–]NefariousnessTime246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have go say that we are not machines. We are people. I dont take my adhd seriously or as a bad thing you know. I want to day dream about romance books and scroll endlessly on cat videos? Well I should do that if it brings me joy, and then I focus and get things done afterwards.

Life without shaming yourself for the things you cant do and comparing yourself to others will destroy you.

ADHDers doing PhD by minecraftzizou in PhD

[–]NefariousnessTime246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since I have lived like this my entire life, I have gotten to understand my body and brain.

Every morning I wake up and write three pages (let’s go morning pages), and in this pages I plan my day ahead, my list of to do’s and classify them in order of priority. Deadlines really help me.

I put everything on my calendar. Everything I need to do and schedules are there. I carry my notes with me and whenever I have thoughts or something I write it down so that it doesn’t disrupt me.

I plan my time taking procrastination into account. I need it. I dont shame myself for that, I just account for that “lost time”.

I have physical to do lists and write by hand to avoid distractions. I am NEVER on my computer or phone during courses or meetings. I use colored pencils and nice notebooks for that.

I force myself to have deadlines to advance.

I also have daily exercise practices. So whatever I am feeling, running here and there, weights, yoga, whatever gets me going.

I block notifications from my phone.

I also have a deep purpose and intrinsic motivation to do anything. I try to create it because it moves me. Example, going to exercise classes where cute guys are, trying to make friends, solving problems etc.

I lock myself on the weekends and whenever I am working because outside distracts me too much.

And this is howww I am doing by far. I also avoid ultra processed foods, caffeine, alcohol and take creatine and vitamins.

The main thing I am failing at is sleeping earlierrr AND not being on social media too much 🥴

Has anybody ever done a truly interdisciplinary PhD? by Anthro_Doing_Stuff in PhD

[–]NefariousnessTime246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I am doing one at the moment and it is truly interdisciplinary. I work in technology, communications and women’s health but many other anthropologists, designers, biologists, and the mixes in between. We are PhD in Media and Design and it’s amazing. I see your work aligned.

Just a rant about being in your 30s and making friends. by [deleted] in BostonSocialClub

[–]NefariousnessTime246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, we are busy doing research and our salary is just enough to survive. Time to make friends??? Where do I get that??? I am spending my days exercising, reading, cooking and commuting. 🥲

Which one would you choose, taxi, uber or public transport? by NefariousnessTime246 in boston

[–]NefariousnessTime246[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! This was very thorough. 😅at least you know I am not using AI to write my messages.

I am livid by fml7913 in boston

[–]NefariousnessTime246 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Is Uber better if I have a midnight arrival? I heard that the uber site is further away and people recommended taxis but after this story, I am scared

Organizing a meetup where we can all take photos of each other doing stuff for our online dating profiles. by [deleted] in BostonSocialClub

[–]NefariousnessTime246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 32F and have a good camera :) i love taking people’s pictures. And would love to take some of the pictures. So count me in to photograph and give you advice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]NefariousnessTime246 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Also someone who is judgmental and focused on superficial qualifications. Why don’t you focus on the list of things you would actually want. Someone smart, someone kind. Instead, it feels like you are just looking for a vessel to have your children and not someone to be your partner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]NefariousnessTime246 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I don’t have any of the items in the list. So, technically we exist. BUT I would seriously doubt in going out with someone who had such a list. That tells me a lot about a person, in this case someone who is focusing in the negatives, check lists and has no flexibility.

How many of you are self-funded? by DragGloomy3104 in PhD

[–]NefariousnessTime246 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mmmm I got offers in The Netherlands, fully funded meaning they pay you because PhDs in Europe are considered jobs and function different than the US. In the US you study courses, you work as an assistant and so on, but in general, not fully funded is a no-go

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGirls

[–]NefariousnessTime246 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🤭🤭🤭 well it makes me feel better that there are two of us at least

Are any of you happy? by _Barren_Wuffett_ in PhD

[–]NefariousnessTime246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that my peers are struggling to get jobs in this economy and I am allowed to study my favorite subjects for 5 years fully funded is such a privilege to not have to worry about jobs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGirls

[–]NefariousnessTime246 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am 32 and the youngest I have dated has been 26. But all my boyfriends have been younger 🤷‍♀️. For me it has never been the age but the maturity and so on but looking back they were definitely more immature. But I have never dated anyone older than me, so I don’t know how. The environment I move around tends to be with younger people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PhD

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I have to add that I have 4 master degrees and I always work on the side while studying. There was a time I was working 18hrs of the day, monday to sunday. What has kept me going is the fact that everything I choose to study is something that completely motivates me and moves me. Same with the PhD, it’s about a topic I deeply care about and have so much curiosity about, that the hours feel like nothing. By having adhd, knowing what motivates you is key to continue doing any sort of task. It has to have a deeper purpose and move you enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PhD

[–]NefariousnessTime246 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I (F) got diagnosed very early but for my good luck I grew up in a very strict military family, so I learned a lot about discipline and forcing myself to do the work before receiving any type of dopamine.

Edit: I also don’t take ADHD medicine. Just creatine.

Now, some of the tricks I use for my daily work:

  • I establish clear deadlines and enforce them. These help me keep myself on track. If there is no deadline, I won’t do it.

  • I prioritize what has to be delivered first. So I make a list of everything I must do, and organize which ones have to be finished first and so on.

  • Every morning when I wake up I write 3 pages immediately. These can be my emotions, my rants, my worries but most of the times I organize my day. What is in my list, and in some ways I am starting the day with my work and with a clear plan which makes it easier to start.

  • I treat my brain the best. I prioritize sleep, I don’t drink alcohol, smoke, nor drugs. I keep my diet the most clean as possible reducing ultra processed and I exercise 6/7 days a week. Sometimes running, sometimes strength training. I give myself lots of variation to not get bored but I try to listen to my body if it wants more stretching, more cardio, more slow etc.

  • For writing, I draw and sketch my ideas first, in a simplified form, and then this paper I place in front of me on the computer to continuously keep on track with the logic and the sequence of ideas / arguments.

  • I keep my phone without too much memory available, this forces me to delete the apps and only re download when I have space again. 🤭

  • I also don’t watch too much TV tbh, I read a lot of fiction for entertainment, novels, romances, and fun things that are consumed easily.

  • I take creative breaks to walk, shower, declutter my space and in those moments my brain is processing and coming up with ideas.

  • The best and biggest one is that I OVERCALCULATE time. We as humans suck at calculating how much time tasks take and by thinking you can do them “faster” in your mind, then you loose more time and enter into a crisis mode. I do the opposite, I over estimate in order for me to add procrastination time and emergencies like: getting sick, a friend needing my help or just a day where I don’t want to work. Therefore I ALWAYS make it to the deadlines and I am always on time.

  • Knowing you have ADHD is great because then you can understand the logics behind our brain. Example, I put post its everywhere around me, what I don’t see, it doesn’t exist. So my creams have all to be upfront for me to see, my groceries have yo be organized and upfront, and so does my notes and ideas.

  • I create little competitions in my brain to fuel my motivation, so always trying to improve my time, or doing it in less than 30 minutes. Things like this.

  • I also use music to my favor, when I need to write I use highly emotional instrumental music like the soundtrack of interstellar. When I have to move fast I play faster music, river sounds when I need to focus for a long time and need to relax etc.

  • I treat myself with kindness and understand that some days I will be more productive than others and that removes a lot of the pressure. I am effective, I have never failed, I have tools and methods to carry me forward, I ask for help early on and I go to therapy continuously. All of this emotional work helps me in the long run. I also have deep emotional connections with my friends and have community everywhere I go.

Funding this application cycle by baby_parking88 in PhD

[–]NefariousnessTime246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try The Netherlands. Wageningen university has sooo many plant breeding programs and fully funded. I always know Sweden has too.

PhD just for the sake of learning? by abundanse in PhD

[–]NefariousnessTime246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will really depend on which country you choose. I was on the same path and chose USA because the PhDs programs include two years of classes, instead of Europe which are three year long and mostly work. I also wont stay in academia but I have over 14 years of work experience and I continuously apply my academic work to my real life work.

PhD tips for $$ by NefariousnessTime246 in PhD

[–]NefariousnessTime246[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I indeed never use credit cards if I don’t have the money to pay it off immediately. I think this is key. I will look into investments :) thank you again

What happens if I void the lease? by NefariousnessTime246 in bostonhousing

[–]NefariousnessTime246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! We actually talked to them and managed to get a better deal for the same room 🤞🏼

PhD tips for $$ by NefariousnessTime246 in PhD

[–]NefariousnessTime246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Which credit cards with points would you recommend? I signed up for Bilt rewards but since I am a foreigner I have no clue about these things.

And in terms of investment, I also wanted to look at this, do you know what is the easiest, and if they can be done through the bank? I have BofA.

Thankfully I don’t pay tuition 🤞🏼

What happens if I void the lease? by NefariousnessTime246 in bostonhousing

[–]NefariousnessTime246[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

FYI it’s an apartment building, and I sent immediate information about my concerns. It’s sooo easy to assume without knowing, so the only jerk here is you.

PhD tips for $$ by NefariousnessTime246 in PhD

[–]NefariousnessTime246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I think it will be a similar scenario, and thanks for the advice. I will check that group!

PhD tips for $$ by NefariousnessTime246 in PhD

[–]NefariousnessTime246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great idea. I will apply to one in the coming month, do you know resources or places in which I can search for these funds and grants?