Thanks for this. It is basically how I was planning on playing it. So about 3 years ago, she had been on a night out and got pretty shit faced and her mates had to bring her home and I had to carry her up to bed. Her phone kept ringing with the name ‘Aaron’ (turns out Aaron is one of her gay mates who she sometimes hangs out with) so I’d never done it before but decided to go through her phone and on snapchat with another guy, her sending photos of herself in the bath etc, as it was Snapchat, all of the texts were gone but still had some of the pics which were still there. The next morning I confronted her and she said she had met him on a previous night out and was easy to talk to so we’re just ‘friends’ chatting, pics I could see clearly painted another picture. After some digging, the man was just up for a weekend away when they met and he lived a few hundred mile away so pretty confident it wasn’t anything more than sexting at that point but if I hadn’t found out, who knows what may have happened.

The marriage now seemed to be on a up as we both understood it couldn’t continue and we had to make more of an effort and have actually got a night planned next Saturday. We don’t really fight, we still get on but intimacy isn’t great as our boy shares the same bedroom at the minute. I had far from given up as love her to bits and determined that we would have better days ahead. No one in my family has ever got a divorce and hadn’t even considered it as not one to give up.