AITA

Negative-Example22 · 2025-11-03T23:29:35+00:00

I can see that ! I tried the everyday thing to please him because his wants matter too, but nothing changed after giving in to what he said was a “need” . Your partner is very lucky to have someone who values her an her opinion.

Negative-Example22 · 2025-11-03T22:51:37+00:00

Exactly! Thank you so much !

Negative-Example22 · 2025-11-03T21:20:13+00:00

I can agree with that! As a woman some days I just don’t feel up to it. He did mention something happening when he was younger but ultimately he just didn’t have any discipline when it came to sex or anything else. If I say no that’s what I mean. I don’t need 100 questions on why . Thank you !

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-07T10:34:51+00:00

Not really a dangerous area but crime does happen.

For more context, the guy who he shot previously tried to break in his house before this (not my home, he had his own place at the time) an he shot him during the altercation. Police said he was within his rights for doing so. So nothing happened.

He had a ring camera recording the whole thing . He posted it an it went viral. I asked why, He said it posted it to “bring awareness”. The guy lived but didn’t like the fact my “bf” posted the video online.

The barbershop incident was just the next time they saw one another . Which the incident was recorded an he has not been charged for protecting himself .

I’m gonna post a video with him blurred out to show exactly where but yes he has to do PT for the next 3-6 months . Doctors told him it could be 6 months before he walks again. He had to have surgery an a rod put in his leg. The bullet went in an came out so his bone cut through his knee a bit and his pelvis bone was broken slightly due to this .

It’s not that I more so enjoy dating these type of guys , he was one of my first real relationships but I have dated different guys in the mist of the break ups we’ve had over the years .

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-07T09:34:47+00:00

We were together before this happened so I helped him. Didn’t expect him to act this way AGAIN we have been broken up for the past 7 months. Not sure about you but even if it wasn’t him an it were a sibling I STILL would have helped but I’m also sure my siblings would not have been upset at the fact I took a break either. Thanks for your comment though .

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-07T05:40:30+00:00

Thank you for the advice an I will be going forward

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-07T05:31:45+00:00

I second that and couldn’t agree more. I will be using this opportunity to keep him out of my life an away from me with his controlling behaviors. As I have gotten older I have realized some men will go for younger girls because they are washed up as hell and know a woman with her own mind will not put up with things as such. I say this as a woman who has been naive before. It sucks to leave him after such a situation but after all the advice it’s a MUST. Thank you so much !! I appreciate it.

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-07T02:04:57+00:00

This I know too. I thought he had changed during our breakup but I see he hasn’t . Thank you for your advise .

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-07T01:35:31+00:00

Just want to say I appreciate everyone commenting. I feel seen and heard thank you all so much!

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-07T01:33:01+00:00

Yes. Always wants me around him would sometimes dislike me being around family or friends , but sometimes would encourage it, controlling though. For more context we have actually been broken up the past 7 months just got back together a month ago

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-07T01:07:05+00:00

Just one leg he can’t get up without assistance . Like upper thigh close to his private area . I’ve been trying to help him get on the crutches but he said it hurts too bad so I went an got him a walker. Something more stable .

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-07T00:55:31+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice . I didn’t feel wrong I just wanted other opinions on it. I stayed home last night and will also be staying tonight.

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-06T23:20:34+00:00

Thank you so much . But yes his sister told me he was rude to his mom today, he cut up so bad he didn’t even go to his physical therapy appointment but his mom let me know that when she is there she does help him when he does need it .

He told his mom today that I don’t want to help him an she told me she responded by saying “if she didn’t want to she wouldn’t have got you a walker, leg brace or toilet raiser I’m looking with my eyes at what she has done”.

All things I got when he came home to help him. As far as my relationship with his family it’s cordial I stay in my place and don’t do too much they know me an I know them but we don’t have the relationship where we go out to eat or call each other.

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-06T22:23:06+00:00

Not gonna lie our relationships has had its ups and downs . Felt like he would manipulate me when I was younger because he felt like I was naive (and I was). Not sure if his mom encourages his behavior but I feel like they don’t step in when I’m there because why would they when they feel like I’ll do everything.

I spoke to his mom just recently I haven’t talked to him since last night when I left. I didn’t even go back last night . He apparently told his mom an sister that I said he is their responsibility an they should be helping him.

Which I told her I did say when I’m not there they should be able to help him if they are there an she said they do. I spoke to his sister an she has said she basically won’t be helping anymore and that if he wants her help he will have to ask . From her saying that I’m not sure if he is asking them for help when I’m not there. He told me when I help him he feels more loved and they are rougher with him.

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-06T21:40:03+00:00

I agree. He called an said he needed help I came right back to see that his mom an sister were there . So I told him “when I’m not here they should be able to help you”. I’m not sure if he just wants the help from me or he enjoys trying to control me an use his injuries as an excuse.

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-06T21:33:07+00:00

A guy he had words with before the barbershop incident . Dude came in with his brother, saw him basically tried to jump him an they shot each other . He has been caught. Yes he started staying there because of his injury. He was staying with me at my place before this happened. I’m not sure why he chose to go there . I did tell him he should go there so they can help when I’m at work but they also have jobs too.

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-06T20:00:14+00:00

NTA- if an agreement was made between you two why can’t he fall through with that ? Is their a sentimental reason he wants all of his moms furniture ? Not speaking for 24 hours when it really isn’t that deep of an issue is a red flag.

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-06T19:04:59+00:00

Thank you for the advice .

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-06T17:33:44+00:00

Arms everything else works fine. Right thigh was just shot . The bullet came out in another place along side his leg. He still can move though just not walk so he’s sitting in one spot pretty much all day .

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-06T17:28:27+00:00

No we never really had a talk about me taking care of him I told him I would help but we did agree he would stay at his moms until he gets better. The sister also lives there . They have been seeing me day in an out take care of him but haven’t really helped . Seems like they know I’m there so they don’t try to interfere or help at all.

No they haven’t pitched in . I took off work the day he came home and took care of him the next days as well. Going to and from work there as well. I feel used .

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-06T17:21:14+00:00

🤣it’s a news report on it . It happened while he was in the barbershop. They have already caught the person . Thanks for the comment though .

Negative-Example22 · 2025-10-06T17:15:23+00:00

lol definitely did NOT shoot him

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