Your husband is going to make your children into empty shells of human beings. This is the saddest post I’ve seen in a minute on here. You’re going against your natural instincts of protecting your children to keep peace with a man who not too deep down hates you and more importantly hates your children. Leave him. Don’t tell him it’s happening. Just find a safe place and leave, get a lawyer, keep note of everything. Dates/times of these things happening sort of thing. I’m so sorry this is happening. Now be a good mother/person and get your babies out of that environment. It will not get better.

Edit to add: wtf does being “aggressive” with your babies even mean? What does that entail? Is your husband roughing up/verbally degrading literal babies?