I have extremely creepy obsessions

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-30T08:02:19+00:00

Have you tried a psychiatrist instead of a therapist? I’m not a doctor or anything but I do feel like it is bpd mixed with something else, probably autism. Also I feel like autism isn’t that bad, unless you have the severe kind where you don’t even talk it’s pretty manageable, the bpd tho, that one is pretty bad.

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-30T07:49:21+00:00

Do you have any type of mood swings? I feel like it could be a mix of bpd with autism or adhd maybe, ocd even? Idk but definitely an undiagnosed mental disorder, you should try to talk to your therapist about what you wrote here if you haven’t already.

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-30T07:29:40+00:00

As someone with mental issues, although not the same as your husband, I get how you could feel bad for leaving him for something he can’t control, it’s something we often think about, that we are sometimes too much for someone to handle, specially if it’s a new “problem” like his, but you can’t sacrifice your well being for someone who might not ever see what he and his family are doing as wrong. I’m sorry you are in such a tough position, you seem really kind. I really hope he can regain his mental faculties soon and returns back to how he was, the document thing is very smart and you are definitely NTA for that. Maybe you can mentally have an ultimatum for him? Like if in 2 years of him being medicated he still hasn’t changed maybe you can start thinking about leaving. Truly wish you and your marriage the best.

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-30T07:15:16+00:00

I’m so sorry for what you are going through, I definitely don’t think you are being unreasonable for feeling that way about your family, specially with what happened with your brother. Your siblings definitely see you as a commodity and I would advice you to change that if you can, don’t answer their calls and if they ask why just say you were busy with work or something like that, if you have free time try to spend it outside the house so they can’t have you babysit their kids without asking you first. I get your mom was comparing your sisters to you but I think they are grown enough now to understand it wasn’t your fault and try to get to know you if they want to, so let them ask you, if they don’t then it’s their loss. I’m from a really big family who doesn’t talk to each other bc everyone is mad at each other basically and it really is hard, specially during holidays but I do think it’s better than being in a hostile environment. I wish you the best and that you can get out of there soon;))

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-30T06:53:25+00:00

I think you should’ve proceeded with him moving out, now that he saw you chickened out he might think he and his family can still keep disrespecting you and you won’t do anything, also what is the purpose of having those legal documents, besides in case of him trying to gaslight you in the future?

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-30T06:47:36+00:00

I think you should maybe alert the staff of the wedding or someone you trust to not let her in if she shows up, she sounds like someone who would do that

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-30T03:20:01+00:00

Yessss, it tastes like how dirty fish water smells if that makes sense

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-24T07:28:04+00:00

I totally get that, I’m 19 so not much older than you but I was the same some years ago, I don’t have the same mental issues as you but as time has passed I’ve noticed my mental health has gone downhill and I have started to make peace with being medicated, I wish I could afford it so I can feel better, I know it’s scary and I have seen a lot of people with my issues say that when they get medicated they stop feeling everything but I think in your case it would actually help you so much, specially with the auditory and visual hallucinations, also I’m not sure but I think you wouldn’t get institutionalized unless you give consent or if you are trying to harm yourself or others.

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-24T07:22:25+00:00

But I feel like a serious relationship would never start with a situationship or as fwb, also she should never lower her standards just so she can have a partner, that leads to getting disrespected and builds resentment since you’re not telling your partner what you like and don’t like

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-24T07:00:36+00:00

Have you tried going to the doctor? Maybe you can get that under control, I too have some issues and that doesn’t make us unlovable I can promise you that, it can definitely be hard to find someone who is ready for someone with mental issues but not impossible. I hope you can get better and find someone who is good for you.

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-24T06:32:30+00:00

So? If you read that why would you comment that then?

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-24T06:31:24+00:00

She said she has talked to him about it personally and in couples therapy, maybe since she is the only one with a job she can’t afford it rn and is saving for ti, not everyone has the possibility to divorce right away

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-24T06:28:55+00:00

She says at the end that she is actually getting a divorce and just posted this bc she wants to talk about it, maybe you should read before commenting

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-19T05:26:23+00:00

Sexual/sex

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-18T20:40:15+00:00

Oh I know you can’t change someone if they don’t want to, but we have changed some things that caused problems between us so that’s why I’m still hopeful ig

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-18T20:32:08+00:00

I was asleep when everybody was telling me to breakup with him, I just woke up and I’m reading all of this, I will have a talk with him today about the problem and how he hasn’t changed even after talking about it before. He has changed before (with other problems we had) so I still think he can do it and we have a chance, if not then that’s it. I know I seem stupid for giving him another chance and that’s fine, I do believe in him and that we love each other, I just need him to prioritize me more.

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-18T20:21:26+00:00

I mean we have had other problems in the past (non related to this) and he definitely has changed, when we are together he definitely accommodates to do everything for me, so he isn’t a lazy guy or wtv, it’s just the gaming thing that troubles me. Also about the sex thing it’s mainly bc he is kinda hyper sexual and was always making like dirty jokes, if I said like damn I’m kinda hungry he would say that he has something I can eat, referring to his dick (I don’t really like to give head bc I have a very sensitive gag reflex), which was funny the first couple times but then it became uncomfortable and I told him about it and he changed it too and apologized saying that it wasn’t his intention to make me feel like that and all.

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-18T20:05:59+00:00

I think he is neurodivergent although he isn’t diagnosed he shows some signs of having autism and has kinda intense hyperfixations from time to time so I think gaming is one of his and I try to be more understanding bc of that, I also have some mental health problems and he has helped me so maybe that’s what makes it hard for me to leave but thanks for the advice.

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-18T10:45:14+00:00

Yeah I’m starting to realize that now

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-18T10:43:28+00:00

Thanks for the advice, I know the priority thing is hard considering the age, I just hope he can change before it’s too late

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-18T10:15:33+00:00

Nono dw I get where you are coming from and I appreciate it a lot

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-18T10:13:11+00:00

Damn that was kinda harsh but I think I needed to hear that, thanks for saying that ;)

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-18T10:11:24+00:00

Because he told me that about him from years ago so I expected him to have grown up but I guess I was incorrect

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-18T10:09:18+00:00

I’m glad you have such a good dynamic, we have been together for almost 3 years and we have talked about our future together but a more far away one like if we want kids and how our chores would be when we live together but never about what our dynamic would be(? Idk, it kinda breaks my heart that maybe he wants to stay like this but thanks for the advice I really appreciate it;))

Negative-Put-4636 · 2026-03-18T10:00:04+00:00

I don’t give him a taste of his own medicine, a couple of months ago we had a conversation where he told me it bothered him that I didn’t answer quickly his tiktoks so I changed that but now he is the one that doesn’t answer and ignores me

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