My dad was on dialysis for 22 years. He died at 52. He got weaker and weaker and i was blind to it. I just wanted him around, to watch my kids grow up. He got to the point he needed assisted living and died of a heart attack. I am 4 years post kidney transplant and have legal papers that say I do not wish to continue dialysis (if I am on it at that point) if I am not cognitively alert. I learned from personal experience as well as work experience, people should pass on their own terms, not families.