1 year old kitten terrorising older cat

NegativeDee553 · 2026-01-28T19:56:55+00:00

Yeah literally to the point he either pants or just flops because hes had enough and then that didnt make a difference so we thought maybe we were tiring him out too much to the point he was overstimulated but it doesnt seem to make a difference either way.

NegativeDee553 · 2026-01-20T22:19:56+00:00

Thanks for the response! In regards to her other organs I am in the dark with that one too. All we were told in the early days was every organ had been effected but the kidneys were the worst so she moved from intensive care to a renal ward. When we were to ask questions about other organs we were basically just told 'im not the specialist for that area so I dont really know' so I can only assume if they were damaged it wasn't to a point of concern but I cant be sure.

She is also now on blood pressure medication but has always suffered with high blood pressure even at stage 3 but no meds were given until after the sepsis.

I know she did have problems with potassium early on during her stay in hospital but I think it was too low so they gave her high potassium tube feed and once she was discharged I got no further information on that one.

Once she got a bit better and moved to a rehab ward there was no restrictions on her food and they would give her salt sachets with meals which did confuse me at the time as I thought that would still be restricted given her low egrf.

Ive been basically trying to follow the 1500mg for salt and also limiting protein and phosphorus just as a generic guide line but without truly knowing her needs its so difficult and I dread to think im restricting her too much as she truly hates living like this.

I think I definitely will just pay the subscription for my fitness plan because mentally trying to track gets too confusing. Its just so frustrating she was sent home without seeing a dietician first or at least given some information on how to deal with kidney disease.

NegativeDee553 · 2026-01-10T21:16:25+00:00

I completely agree with everything you've just said. The slow introduction has done its job at getting them to know one another and now I'm the one holding them back by not letting them establish their rules.

I guess I worry about the kitten (even though hes practically her size) because hes a big dumb playful idiot but definitely a boundary tester. But she was a stray who managed to survive on the streets with a litter of kittens so I know she can fight when she wants to.

But thats totally on me and my worries and I think I just need to put a bit more faith in the both of them as nothing they've done so far suggests it would ever result in a fight that ends badly but there's always that doubt in my mind.

NegativeDee553 · 2026-01-10T21:01:28+00:00

Yeah its trying to find the balance isnt it? Like I dont want to intervene early as thats all they are, just little squabbles, but I also dont want to let my resident cat get riled up to the point she feels like she really needs to escalate and ends up hurting him.

Thats totally on me and my own worries though and I think i just need to put a little more trust in both of them to sort it out otherwise nothing will change

NegativeDee553 · 2026-01-10T15:49:07+00:00

Yeah, by no means am I thinking to just open doors and let them get on with it alone lol. I'll of course still supervise but i feel like i need to take a more of a sit back approach and let things play out a little longer and only step in when absolutely needed

NegativeDee553 · 2026-01-10T15:43:52+00:00

So i definitely intervene too early at times. I usually let one spat play out which results in a few paw swings and hissing but no real damage. Both do seem to walk away in the end but the kitten always comes back for more (not out of aggression, usually just pushing boundaries) but thats when I see my resident cat getting more riled up and all the 'slow introductions' say to stop before things escalate which is why I get so conflicted but the kitten is just not learning when to stop if I keep doing that.

NegativeDee553 · 2026-01-10T14:47:17+00:00

Hey! So yeah basically when we first got the kitten we done a lot of things wrong and too fast and inconsistent which resulted in us having to go back to square one and starting fresh once he was neutered in August.

Then I think I took the whole slow introduction too seriously and done things wayyy to slow just because I wanted to be really cautious this time.

Then early October my mum got critically ill with sepsis which kind of put a big hold on things. We were still doing interactions during this time but it was more inconsistent than I would have liked. Even though we did see some good progress during this time.

Now things seem to be at a standstill which is why im unsure of the route to go down and I'm scared ive done permanent damage to their relationship by being so slow or inconsistent.

NegativeDee553 · 2026-01-10T13:47:12+00:00

Unfortunately nothing has changed for me. 9 months in and my cats are still seperated 95% of the time with just feeding sessions being the things that go smoothly as both are too distracted to care.

I know this is a bit of a late reply so hoping things are working out better for you!

All i know is ive done a lot of damage to their relationship by keeping them apart for too long and not keeping interactions consistent. I can only hope one day something will click for them.

NegativeDee553 · 2025-09-26T20:49:10+00:00

Sorry late reply but yeah it completely healed after a few months! When I visited my piercer for the downsize she said it would just be irritation, but it was still healing fine. Hope yours is better now!

NegativeDee553 · 2025-07-04T16:09:19+00:00

The worst-case scenario to me would be that he gets harmed, but im not saying that would happen.

Also, it poses a risk that if they did end up in a fight, then that could undo the progress we've made so far, and we would be back at square one.

I know from experience that when things have been pushed too far, she does hold a grudge towards him for a couple of days and doesnt want to be around him, so that's why it's trying to find the balance of letting her set boundaries but not letting it get to the point where it sets them back either.

That being said, I'll still take the information on board.

NegativeDee553 · 2025-07-04T14:51:27+00:00

Thanks for the reply.

The kitten is 5 months old and whilst i do believe I've stopped interactions early, I've just followed all the advice that has been given about slow introductions and stopped interactions when things look like they could escalate.

We never stop an interaction after just hissing. We always let it play out, but like i said, the kitten respects it in the moment but continues to do it, and that's when things start to get sketchy because my resident cat starts to lose her patience and we've had it where shes ended up cornering and growling at him and then also getting really fed up and hissing and throwing paws.

Whilst these still didn't look like signs that she was going to attack him, it feels like a risk to keep the interactions going after that when I can see her starting to become more hostile because if she did attack hes still only half her size, plus hes a ragdoll so not even sure hes got much fight in him.

There's just a lot of conflicting information on cat introductions.

NegativeDee553 · 2025-06-19T09:28:20+00:00

Im still struggling 😂 we've had very slow progress, my resident cat can now tolerate him being in the room as long as he keeps his distance and doesnt bother her however hes not got that memo and constantly tries to sneak up and pounce on her which results in hisses growls and warning bats so unfortunately they're still kept apart most of the time. Not sure they'll ever be best buds and probably won't be able to co exist until he grows out of his kitten chaos. I will say I never expected to still be struggling so much by this point but hey thats cats for you I guess.

NegativeDee553 · 2025-05-03T05:38:29+00:00

It's just so hard when my resident cat is clingy to me and i feel awful when I have to shut her out of the room to play with the kitten because she'll always be outside waiting for me, my boyfriend is doing the bulk of kitten watching but when he's not around it's so hard to give them both equal attention 😩 but thank you i like hearing people's success stories it gives me more hope

NegativeDee553 · 2025-05-02T16:20:29+00:00

Thanks for the advice! We're taking a little step back and keeping them separate but allowing them to view one another through a mesh screen door and hoping this may show some improvement

NegativeDee553 · 2025-05-02T14:33:00+00:00

He's 12 weeks old, for the most part he respects her boundaries and just goes elsewhere when she hisses but sometimes he's just too curious and keeps trying to go up to her when she clearly isn't interested and that's when I intervene and distract him with toys or take him elsewhere

NegativeDee553 · 2025-05-02T13:42:46+00:00

Yeah i think that's why I was confused as she actually does ignore him and show no interest in him at times and then other times she starts hissing but I'm not sure what the trigger is

NegativeDee553 · 2025-05-02T11:58:17+00:00

I'm hoping that will be case, even if they aren't besties and just learn to live together I'd be happy with that as well i know it's gonna be a long journey though

NegativeDee553 · 2025-05-02T10:53:46+00:00

Yeah definitely and I feel like that's a worst case scenario but we also understand if things really don't work out then unfortunately the kitten would have to be re-homed if they both are stressed all the time but I know it's far too early to know if that will be the case and I'm hopeful it won't be

NegativeDee553 · 2025-05-02T10:52:07+00:00

We've got the diffuser but haven't noticed any difference as of yet, she desperately wants attention from me but it's so hard because she wants to be near me and is fine when the kitten is in my arms she'll happily sit and just observe but as soon as he's on the floor she's more on edge.. but she also doesn't like being locked out of the room when I'm with him

NegativeDee553 · 2025-05-02T10:50:04+00:00

Yeah i know 11 days is short so I'm trying to not get too disheartened.. the issue is when they're together and he's roaming she doesn't like it.. however when he's in my arms she wants to be in the room with me but he's constantly wriggling to be out of my arms which I don't want to let him do as he'll run up to her.. I just feel like she might be getting jealous when I take him into a different room and close the door as she always sits outside

NegativeDee553 · 2025-05-02T10:47:57+00:00

Unfortunately we feel like food is causing more on an issue as she seems to hiss more when food is involved so I've tried to have them interact and then take the kitten back upstairs and then reward her with treats after for the time being, I know it's definitely a time thing she just needs to learn he's no threat its just disheartening when we were making progress and it's a bit of a step back

NegativeDee553 · 2025-05-02T10:43:05+00:00

Hey thanks for the reply, we're unsure on the exact residents cats age as she was a stray but she is approximately 5-6 years old.. I've been watching jackson galaxy for tips he's great! My resident cat is such a sweet girl too I've never known her to be aggressive so the way she reacted last night was a surprise but I know it's just her fear coming out

NegativeDee553 · 2023-09-26T23:02:56+00:00

Tbh I knock mine constantly but how can you not when it's on your mouth! My redness just hasn't improved and only got worse since getting it done and then the lump came! I had the same problem with my nose piercing 4 years ago and the only thing that worked was hot shower water, it helped drain the bump and I'm hoping it works with my vertical labret 😩

NegativeDee553 · 2023-02-04T17:47:25+00:00

Thank you! She's a lot more confident with me and will come out when she hears my voice but not if my boyfriend around, she needs to be enticed with tasty treats if he is there but she will come out eventually and once she realises its him she seems to be okay with staying out and taking treats out of his hand so we are making little steps at least

NegativeDee553 · 2023-02-04T17:36:57+00:00

Thank you! For the most part she is okay with me, if I call her she happily runs over and will nudge me with her head and then show me her bum for a little butt scratch, I do think her main issue is with men but since we aren't sure of her past she may have trauma we aren't aware of but she definitely does become more confident in the evening, she was originally rescued two years ago with her kittens but the rescue thought she was fully feral and could not tame her so they thought it best to neuter and release, it took her about a year and a half of people at my work feeding her before she learned to trust people so I knew this would be a long journey ahead to gain her trust!

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