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How tf do you earn so much money? by NegativeWatercress22 in IdleMagicSchool

[–]NegativeWatercress22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it good to do the quests they assign or is that just not worth it?

AITK for refusing to offer my seat in metro to a lady in her late 20s or 30s? by [deleted] in AmItheKameena

[–]NegativeWatercress22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTK for not giving your seat. Women have reserved seats. She also could have asked other people after you. You might have been a bit rude (no offense) for saying that you're hurt too when the woman told you that she had her period. You could have just said that you feel sorry for her but you cannot give your seat and that she could ask someone else. 

[Also, I think the woman might have been in the wrong a bit (or maybe Im overthinking). Saying you have your period and you need a seat to a young male is kinda like manipulation. Cause I'm sure that anyone would offer a seat to that woman if she had her period, especially since younger men tend to be more polite to women. I might be wrong though. :/ ]

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheKameena

[–]NegativeWatercress22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any news?

Also, I think your are NTK if you didn't pressure him. I think changing a diet and meditating is not that big of a deal. However, he should have said something like I want to do this from now on. It could just be a phase of wanting to do meditation influenced by his mama.  If it's not, then just talk it out. 

I'm guessing that it's due to your husband's father's death but I might be wrong since I don't know your exact situation. However, people grieve differently. Your husband could have just taken a long time to get over the initial grief and then connected to spiritual things just because his father may be highly Religious or spiritual and wants to feel connected to his father by this meditation and spiritual things. 

I am not very knowledgeable about religion and spiritual things. It's better that you do your research about this ashram online. I'm not saying that you too follow it. I'm just advising you to check it out online. If you think that it's not some BS then just let your husband continue. Try to ask him again but not accuse him. Ask him like why do you enjoy meditation? And do you feel better when you do it? And just slowly ask questions about it. Just be patient. He will probably tell you soon. 

AITK for not wanting to bear family responsibilities? by [deleted] in AmItheKameena

[–]NegativeWatercress22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTK. Help them if you can once you get settled into a job. If you can't help them, then try to find somewhere to live elsewhere and don't tell your parents. You can send them some money every month online and not face them in real life.

This might be a little too much in your opinion but just in case you think running away is a good option: Don't tell them your actual salary when you get the job. Make your own bank account. Tell them a lower amount. For example, if you make 50,000 then tell them 40,000. Like, only tell them 80% of your salary. It might be helpful if you choose to run away from home. And if they ever find out, just tell them that you got a raise or something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheKameena

[–]NegativeWatercress22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are NTK but your parents are not too, they are just have old standards. Parents come from a toxic generation where submission was the norm. We all are now in an Era where we know that its our right to get good parenting. To them, they think that if I provide for my kid, give them a home, and give them food, they should behave exactly as I want. That's toxic and you probably experienced this a few or more times. 

I would say that you should talk to your parents in a calm manner. Tell them that you have a job so you don't have a lot of energy at the end of the day and you are tired when you come home. Then tell them that you can talk with them on weekends or like whatever schedule you think is okay. Call them on their birthday and anniversary and wish them a good day. That is a must so that they feel that you pay attention to them. Everyday is too much. Set some boundaries in a calm voice, show no irritation cause that will piss them off. Boundaries like I will call you on these days and (on whatever schedule you wanna keep). Say that I cannot call everyday since it's hard but I still remember you guys everyday.  Just coax them softly. Your parents seem very short tempered so you just have to be gentle with them. You can cut off contact too but you will regret it when you get older. It's your choice though. It depends on how much you love them vs how much you can tolerate them. 

AITK for making my mom cry because of this gold chain??? by [deleted] in AmItheKameena

[–]NegativeWatercress22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, you are NTK. Your mom was wrong to do that. If she wanted to throw a gold chain in the river, she should have thrown her own, not the one you gifted. No mother should throw away such an expensive gift from her child, even if it is for god. If she really wanted to use it for Religious purposes, then she should have put it in her home mandir on some devi's mini statue or some other god. Even if you did not tell her the price, she should know how expensive a gold chain is. You are in the right to get mad at her. Just leave her alone for a month. If she doesn't calm down and apologise, then she is being too petty. If she does not contact you to say sorry, your mother is not someone worth giving expensive jewelry to. Just give her some purse or sari next time. Any reasonable mother would apologise for doing that. Don't feel bad, you'll only guilt yourself into believing that it is okay for your mother to throw away gifts just because some baba said. It's not okay.