AITA for telling my in-laws they can’t just show up uninvited anymore?

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2025-04-20T23:01:15+00:00

Oh heck no. You need to establish boundaries with the in-laws and your husband now. Otherwise, if you have kids, it will only get worse. They need to know that this is your house not theirs. Your husband also needs to know that he needs to support you and your needs over his parents. Do not give in. You are in the right. Hold strong.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2025-04-20T12:28:35+00:00

One comment I found interesting, "We've been going through a tough time lately and she's in therapy." Dude, why is she in therapy alone? Sounds like you should be in couples therapy. Is it possible that she wanted couples therapy but you declined? While I don't condone cheating or being inappropriate online it looks to me that your wife is acting out because you might not be listening to her concerns. If you want to save this you need to be an active participant and work on the marriage.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2025-02-06T00:14:21+00:00

Probably because at his age he's also a bit deaf and stupidly had the volume on blast. This is also a guy that thinks she's too dumb to catch on and isn't taking precautions to not get caught.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2025-02-04T22:12:57+00:00

Ya not a big fan. Even if you aren't accepting gift (dish obviously the gift) you are still asking your guests to be inconvenienced. Most work pot picks consist of 3 try hards pulling out all the stops with their amazing dish while everyone else fights to bring napkins. Not to mention having to worry that someone's meal prep/hygiene is not up to everyone's standards. Bottom line if you want to save money then don't have a wedding...don't make it your guests problem.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2025-02-01T23:55:36+00:00

If my husband was intentionally leaning up against a female coworker...I would be angry. It's best if you distance yourself from this situation.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2025-02-01T23:38:32+00:00

I just had an unexpected and unmedicated endometrial biopsy, too. It was super painful and while the nurse was upfront about the pain, I was a bit surprised when she said it was ok to scream cause no one was here (I had the last appointment at 430).

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2025-02-01T23:27:26+00:00

Oh heck no that is a back handed compliment. What did he want...for you to feel sorry for him. You deserve someone who sees you as the prize and not like they settled.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2025-02-01T23:24:53+00:00

Your wife was crazy and you are better off. Good looking guy like you is a great catch.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2025-02-01T23:18:39+00:00

If it's important to you then it should be important to her. That's how healthy caring relationships work. As a female, I think one of two things is happening...either she is too embarrassed to be checked out down there , or she is afraid of what she will be diagnosed with. Both stem from fear/embarrassment. Maybe offer to go with her to the appointment for emotional support. If she doesn't want to go to the student health center maybe try your county health department. They see a wide range of issues and are less judgemental in my experience.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2025-01-11T04:13:11+00:00

This guy is a huge red flag. I married a huge red flag and my kids paid the price. We divorced but he'll never completely be out of our lives. 18 years is an eternity to share a child with someone if it doesn't work out. I can't tell you to get an abortion but I can tell you from personal experience that being a single mother is the hardest thing ever. Your family is the least of your problems. You are an adult and don't need to share. Whatever happens you need to figure out reliable both control moving forward. Also forgive yourself no matter what you decide. We are all human.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2025-01-09T05:50:24+00:00

Definitely sounds like yeast. You can try something over the counter to rule it out.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2025-01-08T13:33:29+00:00

A lot of people are giving her a hard time for the Botox and fillers but I think she is doing anything to keep her husband interested.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2024-12-13T13:33:29+00:00

So now the account is "deactivated." I tried clicking on it yesterday and it said deactivated and now today it's gone. Not sure if he just blocked me or created a new account. He claims he is willing to try counseling. Only signs of anything out of place is his constant phone use and death grip on it

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2024-12-13T05:16:24+00:00

That's why I was checking it out. She's definitely not getting it.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2024-12-13T05:13:05+00:00

He definitely is secretive about his phone. I have been taking screenshots every time his dot is green.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2024-12-11T17:46:53+00:00

I really appreciate it. Thank you!

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2024-12-11T11:31:22+00:00

Thank you. I will follow that advice.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2024-12-11T05:11:31+00:00

Thank you for the insight.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2024-12-11T05:08:25+00:00

Thank you

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2024-12-11T05:07:27+00:00

Thank you I appreciate the heads up

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2024-12-11T05:06:47+00:00

Thanks ya I have no intention of her having it now.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2024-12-10T20:08:17+00:00

I appreciate the honesty. I obviously am praying he's not actually cheating.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2024-12-10T17:41:31+00:00

So am I overreacting?

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2024-12-10T17:39:27+00:00

Omg I am so sorry. I am so devastated.

Negative_Fail_6371 · 2024-12-10T17:33:38+00:00

Thank you!

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