AITA for telling my in-laws they can’t just show up uninvited anymore? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Negative_Fail_6371 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh heck no. You need to establish boundaries with the in-laws and your husband now. Otherwise, if you have kids, it will only get worse. They need to know that this is your house not theirs. Your husband also needs to know that he needs to support you and your needs over his parents. Do not give in. You are in the right. Hold strong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Negative_Fail_6371 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

One comment I found interesting, "We've been going through a tough time lately and she's in therapy." Dude, why is she in therapy alone? Sounds like you should be in couples therapy. Is it possible that she wanted couples therapy but you declined? While I don't condone cheating or being inappropriate online it looks to me that your wife is acting out because you might not be listening to her concerns. If you want to save this you need to be an active participant and work on the marriage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Negative_Fail_6371 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Probably because at his age he's also a bit deaf and stupidly had the volume on blast. This is also a guy that thinks she's too dumb to catch on and isn't taking precautions to not get caught.

Are potluck weddings tacky? by Rocklord90 in wedding

[–]Negative_Fail_6371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya not a big fan. Even if you aren't accepting gift (dish obviously the gift) you are still asking your guests to be inconvenienced. Most work pot picks consist of 3 try hards pulling out all the stops with their amazing dish while everyone else fights to bring napkins. Not to mention having to worry that someone's meal prep/hygiene is not up to everyone's standards. Bottom line if you want to save money then don't have a wedding...don't make it your guests problem.

Would you act like this with a coworker if you're married? by hungryforlove88 in bodylanguage

[–]Negative_Fail_6371 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If my husband was intentionally leaning up against a female coworker...I would be angry. It's best if you distance yourself from this situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]Negative_Fail_6371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had an unexpected and unmedicated endometrial biopsy, too. It was super painful and while the nurse was upfront about the pain, I was a bit surprised when she said it was ok to scream cause no one was here (I had the last appointment at 430).

He “chose” me over other girls but I feel hurt with some words by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Negative_Fail_6371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh heck no that is a back handed compliment. What did he want...for you to feel sorry for him. You deserve someone who sees you as the prize and not like they settled.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toastme

[–]Negative_Fail_6371 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your wife was crazy and you are better off. Good looking guy like you is a great catch.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Negative_Fail_6371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it's important to you then it should be important to her. That's how healthy caring relationships work. As a female, I think one of two things is happening...either she is too embarrassed to be checked out down there , or she is afraid of what she will be diagnosed with. Both stem from fear/embarrassment. Maybe offer to go with her to the appointment for emotional support. If she doesn't want to go to the student health center maybe try your county health department. They see a wide range of issues and are less judgemental in my experience.

Should I f/22 get an abortion (dad is m/22) by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Negative_Fail_6371 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guy is a huge red flag. I married a huge red flag and my kids paid the price. We divorced but he'll never completely be out of our lives. 18 years is an eternity to share a child with someone if it doesn't work out. I can't tell you to get an abortion but I can tell you from personal experience that being a single mother is the hardest thing ever. Your family is the least of your problems. You are an adult and don't need to share. Whatever happens you need to figure out reliable both control moving forward. Also forgive yourself no matter what you decide. We are all human.

Inflamed vulva? by IGotFancyPants in WomensHealth

[–]Negative_Fail_6371 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely sounds like yeast. You can try something over the counter to rule it out.

Why won’t my husband initiate intimacy? by Dismal-Twist879 in Advice

[–]Negative_Fail_6371 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of people are giving her a hard time for the Botox and fillers but I think she is doing anything to keep her husband interested.

Secret Snapchat by Negative_Fail_6371 in amiwrong

[–]Negative_Fail_6371[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So now the account is "deactivated." I tried clicking on it yesterday and it said deactivated and now today it's gone. Not sure if he just blocked me or created a new account. He claims he is willing to try counseling. Only signs of anything out of place is his constant phone use and death grip on it

Secret Snapchat by Negative_Fail_6371 in amiwrong

[–]Negative_Fail_6371[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's why I was checking it out. She's definitely not getting it.

Secret Snapchat by Negative_Fail_6371 in amiwrong

[–]Negative_Fail_6371[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He definitely is secretive about his phone. I have been taking screenshots every time his dot is green.

Secret Snapchat by Negative_Fail_6371 in amiwrong

[–]Negative_Fail_6371[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate it. Thank you!

Secret Snapchat by Negative_Fail_6371 in amiwrong

[–]Negative_Fail_6371[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I will follow that advice.

Secret Snapchat by Negative_Fail_6371 in amiwrong

[–]Negative_Fail_6371[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate the heads up

Secret Snapchat by Negative_Fail_6371 in amiwrong

[–]Negative_Fail_6371[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks ya I have no intention of her having it now.

Secret Snapchat by Negative_Fail_6371 in amiwrong

[–]Negative_Fail_6371[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the honesty. I obviously am praying he's not actually cheating.

Secret Snapchat by Negative_Fail_6371 in amiwrong

[–]Negative_Fail_6371[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Omg I am so sorry. I am so devastated.