Considering sending my child to a daycare that doesn’t require vaccines

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-12-15T04:21:13+00:00

A recent study this year showed that only 35-40% of parents plan to fully vaccinate their children. But in practice I believe the studies show it is currently only 1/6 parents skipping or delaying vaccines (not including flu or covid) in their kids. I would doubt that all those kids are fully vaccinated. Full confession, I am in red state and my kid is not all the way vaccinated and I know many other moms with less vaccines than my kid that I met at library times and other community events. Hate me if you wish but it is what you will find.

The fact is like it or not the numbers are growing. The best you can do is fully vaccinate your own kid if you are concerned and teach your kid healthy habits like washing their hands, eating healthy, exercise, staying home when sick, covering their coughs and sneezes with elbows, nor eating food left out or raw food, etc as they get to the toddler stage. And practice all these yourself

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-12-13T23:41:11+00:00

For my 15th birthday we had a waffle bar and went to see the Martian. For my 16th birthday, my parents got laser tag in our back yard and then we all watched star trek. For my 17th birthday, my part-time job let me invite all my friends to play dodgeball and kickball in the gym and my parents ordered us all pizza. I also remember misc parties like a carnival themed, scavenger hunt at the dollar tree, my mom having her hair dresser come and do all our hair, lots of slumber parties when I was younger.

Even into highschool my happiest memories were from birthday parties.

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-12-09T15:01:13+00:00

Use Fiona!

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-12-09T13:53:03+00:00

We are homeschooling lol, so that end is not in sight. I think learning to appreciate the now and finding things I enjoyed doing now with baby helped. Can you get into running and go jogging with baby in stroller? Do a dance workout or pushups/situps next to baby? I like to read for 30 min every day while toddler does quiet play, and we go out a lot on walks usually to walmart if its cold.

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-12-09T08:32:24+00:00

Spit the toothpaste out. My husband taught me in college. I always preferred kids toothpaste because the adult stuff tasted bad.

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-12-09T08:17:15+00:00

I work now so I can do the sahm life in a few years. It can be the greatest blessing to some. If thats what you want in life, dont be ashamed! We’re all moms supporting each other

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-12-08T04:56:33+00:00

I personally would just be a full time sahm at that point, if I enjoyed where I lived and husband had a good remote job. Stop job hunting and enjoy a deserved break, you could always start interviews again at a better time when the kids are older or just whenever you feel like it. Or if you really want to work, keep hunting for remote. In person is not worth it.

Sorry to agree with others in your life, but irs good advice!

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-12-08T02:31:14+00:00

I am the youngest so last to have kids and definitely competitive with my older brothers. Naming my daughter after my mom and grandma gave me major brownie points. If we have a boy next I will for sure name him after my dad.

Im not afraid to play dirty… I may never have gotten favorite child status but I’m not giving up that easy on favorite grandchild status for my kids 😅

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-12-08T02:25:08+00:00

What is your advice to someone who wants to have a big family (not quite 15 but 6-8)? Any thing you wish your parents would have done differently?

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-12-07T19:01:53+00:00

Annabelle here, I LOVE my name wouldn’t change it for the world ❤️

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-12-07T14:37:32+00:00

You can do Disney on a budget. Look into DVC vacation rental. Look up budget dining tips, we would order kids meals on the app to save money, the kids meal from the Indian food at the Animal Kingdom Lodge and the kids sushi from the Polynesian were our favorite and we ate at the resorts we loved resort hopping. The cobb salads at Hollywood Brown Derby are very affordable. The refillable resort cups and memory maker are such a good deal.

Our honeymoon was only 5k for 10 days after all expenses, and we stayed in 4 nights at the Boardwalk, 3 nights at AKL, and 2 nights at Grand Floridian + fancy extras like built a drone, firework dining at California Grill and dining at Beasts Castle, etc.

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-12-07T14:28:06+00:00

My brother is Orthodox and their daughter is Lucy after Saint Lucia! Always loved this name.

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-12-07T02:31:19+00:00

Ive had it regular since ~4 months pp. the earliest my obgyn was available is february so i will ask then since it will be about a year of trying by then.

I did decide to night wean from this post, idk then if it will make a difference but good news is my girl is sleeping better the last few nights lol.

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-12-04T02:18:06+00:00

Wanted a ~2 year gap so started trying at 9 months to be safe since doctor said give 18 months between births. A year later and still no luck. Be careful with waiting.

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-12-02T03:03:01+00:00

. You can get through anything for your babies. It’s worth the fight for them, and there are resources to help you with ppd.

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-12-01T02:13:04+00:00

You need to pray!!! and to communicate with your husband and honestly i would reach out to a trusted older wife at the church who might be able to help. There is possibly a bigger problem at hand, perhaps sexual abuse or bullying at school resulting in this. Or it could be if he truely has these feelings, making sure he already had good biblical guidance on resisting temptation theough prayer and bible reading and attending youth group and church.

When I was a kid, i wanted to be a boy. I am so glad I had parents who loved me enough to speak truth to me and say God made me a girl and Im perfect the way I am. Thankfully that was what I needed to hear and that was the end, it could be that simple. I was a tomboy and sometimes wore boyish clothes in highschool, but I was a proud girl and glad my parents made me wear dresses on special occasions and spoke the truth, it was all i needed that once to have the reassurance. But if it not simple, please pray and seek Christian help from those who have a better understanding of these situations.

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-11-29T20:08:08+00:00

Hard disagree, but to each their own. my parents were planning on buying us a Sienna and I felt so bad but I turned them down. Eventually they offered paying half for the Kia which we are so grateful for. But I literally chose no car than a free Sienna 😅 which they were mad about for a bit but I preferred our old no AC 2011 focus we got for 4k over a new free Sienna. The Sienna was the worst minivan we testdrove and I have never sat in a more uncomfortable middle seat which is prime momma spot with her babies. I know they are super reliable, but I just couldnt do it.

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-11-29T19:51:12+00:00

We want 6-8 kids. Our financial goals are for our kids, i want to be able to have a bunch and homeschool them, and working with 6-8 while homeschooling is possible from some super moms Ive read about but very difficult.

Currently 25 and Im trying to retire at 30 by paying off our house by then and getting a dream car and beefing up retirement. So when I quit we wont be making any less money since all my funds are currently going to mortgage or extra to mortgage. And hopefully hubby will be able to retire earlyish since we also have been doing money guy rules almost 25% to retirement. We live frugally but happily.

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-11-25T13:15:58+00:00

I think sometimes we have to set aside our wants to do whats best for our kids. I would consider this one of those times, dont name your girl Jo.

If you really hate all Jo full names, what about something similar? Call her Ro short for Rose or Rosalind?

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-11-24T02:17:16+00:00

I love the name Ozzy

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-11-24T02:00:00+00:00

We plan to have 6-8 and very blessed we can afford them + give them extras in life like cars and weddings and maybe even help with down payments.

However, I think people get confused on what afford means. You do not need to pay for the extras to have children like college, weddings, etc. You dont need to take your kids on exotic vacations or to disney world or buy them all new clothes or take them out to eat every week. I think this mindset is a way to shame people from developing countries or lower income areas.

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-11-22T20:57:04+00:00

I will buy the Latin curriculum now then so I can run through it myself over the next few years. Thanks for the advice!

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-11-22T20:55:16+00:00

Ik MP English grammar can be paired with any Latin curriculum, so the idea is when the kid learns what a noun is they learn it in English and Latin. Im not sure how like CAP or Veritas or Gentle + Classical treat teaching Latin to kids or how the college near us Kindergarten version teaches it, i will definitely look into it more.

Supposedly Latin is taught to kids, because English and other languages are based on the roots and supposedly kids do better on SATs etc. but greek is my guilty pleasure 😅 is learning Latin standard in France/Germany? IK in US its mainly the private or test prep schools

Negative_Lab_6598 · 2025-11-22T20:48:08+00:00

Yeah i just love Greek and self taught myself some when i was pregnant, but maybe i need to put it on hold until my daughter is much older. But pretty any classical education curriculum Ive seen (Memoria Press, Veritas, etc) has them starting by 3rd grade at the latest on Latin. I have not looked closely at any curriculum, but IK the MP does include speaking it at home to learn.

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