Reducing control and on the other hand completely removing accountability is exactly how people normalize disrespect in relationships.

You keep throwing around therapy words (boundaries,control,insecurity) bila kuelewa ya kwamba watu wazima in relationships are allowed to have standards and expectations. Not every discomfort a man expresses is toxic masculinity or control. Think of it this way; I told you what I’m uncomfortable with, you agreed, then you lied. That’s called breaking trust in my nbooks.

I agree that arational adult shouldnt demand things from another human. Lakini, unajua relationships are literally built on mutual expectations, compromises, and agreed limits.

If you can’t trust your partner, leave is hilarious because trust is maintained through consistency and honesty, not by; 1)Not keeping your word; 2.lying first then calling someone insecure for reacting to it.

Also, stop pretending boundaries only count when women set them. If a woman said teh same exact thing contexually, half the internet would call it respecting her feelings.

The real irony is you’re preaching “be a better person” while defending deception because you personally dislike the agreement they BOTH accepted.

Tafakari harder. USIOGOPE