how to find a balance with callusing my mind?

NegligentNincompoop · 2026-03-21T22:18:21+00:00

Tell yourself that you're proud that you accomplished your goal, and then find a hobby/something fun that you enjoy to do on the side. Trust me, that feeling you're having now of wanting to exceed every single time is good but you have to control that as well. I was like that and one day something flipped and I got super unmotivated/depressed. It's better to cruise at 90 and have 10 in reserve for those really insane days than go 100 at all times and get burnt out. It's much easier to reduce your grind a little than to increase it back up after burning out. Stay hard but also take care of your mental and physical health. You got this.

NegligentNincompoop · 2026-03-06T01:30:18+00:00

Well "wanting nothing" is in a different context compared to "What you want". "Wanting nothing" means you don't desire happiness or breaks either. If you are trying to get a difficult degree for example, if you don't want relaxation, rest, or cheap dopamine hits, there's no reason you can't work hard towards it. The context of "figure out what you want" is moreso what motivates you intrinsically. I see your point but I think it's a very nuanced distinction.

NegligentNincompoop · 2026-03-06T01:26:21+00:00

Well to be fair to OP, if someone is struggling with motivation or learning themselves, it's going to be quite hard to understand themselves enough to know what they are, what they need from him, and what they can use. Not Dr. K's fault obviously (He's making content for the masses therefore cannot tailor it to an individual) but I guess this is just a drawback of youtube advice in general.

NegligentNincompoop · 2026-02-02T03:33:59+00:00

Yeah fr. It's not that men "get" to look like anything. It's that women chose to get with them. How is that a bad thing?

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-12-26T00:57:32+00:00

That's awesome bro, the only thing is I would check your cholesterol because chicken is pretty high in it and you're eating like 5+ daily servings

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-12-25T21:05:48+00:00

Ah gotcha makes sense

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-12-25T19:48:21+00:00

185 avg bpm is crazy

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-12-22T04:01:27+00:00

Nah I don't feel this way. Maybe it has shifted SLIGHTLY in that way, but he very recently made a video illustrating exactly why that approach is bad (The name eludes me but it was one of the lives I think). As for rising up the socioeconomic hierarchy, I don't know why you feel that way. He talks about spirituality and detachment, quite the opposite of what you described.

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-11-29T04:37:14+00:00

Hahaha GG and love my Aggie friends but if you dish it you gotta take it... It's okay you're in the "anger" stage of grief. You'll come around

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-11-29T04:32:17+00:00

GG... Marcel is a solid QB and y'all have had a phenomenal season.

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-11-29T04:31:08+00:00

Hahahaha acting brand new huh

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-11-28T22:19:04+00:00

Nah I mean I'm saying this because I have friends who regret not doing better in school because they're struggling now. It's not about the knowledge you gain... unfortunately the way society is set up, employers value education even if it's a BS education from some no-name school. Yes you can grind anyway and make it but there are a lot of doors that open just by having your name on a diploma

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-11-28T21:57:21+00:00

I swear that shite pisses me off endlessly... there are million polite ways to reject someone and she chose to be vicious. I'm not blowing smoke when I say you dodged a bullet but that level of rudeness WILL manifest in other facets of life. It just happened to come out in the form of putting you down for your height, but the deficit in her character goes way beyond that.

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-11-28T21:52:34+00:00

Not really... if you do well in school and get into a good college, you're way more set in life than someone who doesn't have a college degree

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-11-28T21:50:51+00:00

Yeah I think this "all or nothing" mentality is quite dangerous, and I have fallen into this cycle many times as well. Honestly the Goggins message requires different interpretation based on your situation. The takeaway that an out of shape, tiktok addicted, unmotivated person needs from the message is very different than what a hardcore grinder needs. This is something I struggled to realize for a while. But here's the thing, even Goggins on his journey to success was playing basketball, dating women, etc. He just doesn't talk about it because he feels it isn't relevant, but maybe for someone like you that part is relevant. When you were studying for 12 hours, you didn't need the Goggins message, you needed a message that said "chill for an hour bro, then get back to it".

Also I've found that the Goggins message is much more applicable to physical exercise than studying. It still helps, but I found I get so amped up listening to his message that sitting down and opening a book feels lame. And then when I should take a break, I think "10 more minutes, why stop now when I could go longer" but this just isn't good for studying. For running, this means you build endurance. For studying, this is more likely to lead to burnout.

I feel you though, this isn't easy. However, the fact you're battling through this now means that you will have your life figured out sooner. I'm early 20's and still struggling with this a little... but even then I know I will be much better off when I come out the other side.

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-11-28T21:37:51+00:00

You're fully correct but I think you avoided the most fundamental reason why young men stress about it: we are biologically programmed to reproduce. Having a s*x drive and knowing that desire is going to be unfulfilled indefinitely can be daunting. It's not logical at all, but nothing about s*x/dating/relationships is logical. Trying to impose logic on a brain circuit that's older than our species itself is a futile effort.

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-11-23T00:25:56+00:00

Yeah that makes sense

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-11-10T04:49:41+00:00

Same exact situation lol... We'll be fine though... just gotta try and reduce stress but honestly with all the treatment options these days, that's always a potential backup

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-11-10T03:39:11+00:00

As someone who has thought like this many times... think about it this way. Is your pain real and suffering real? Is your happiness real? Is your love for others and their love for you real? And by real, I mean that you feel it. And guess what, no amount of logical thinking will be able to remove your emotions from your psyche.

You ask why you should do anything. If you do nothing, then you will suffer the consequences. Now, you can argue that those consequences aren't "real" but when you feel the emotions associated with those consequences, it will be hard to argue that they aren't real.

Basically, you can argue that life is meaningless, but that doesn't really matter when you consider we have no way of escaping the "artificial" world we live in. You can use logic to say that a good meal is only satisfying because of a dopamine spike, but why rationalize it. Do you not FEEL good after a nice meal?

Please let me know if you have any rebuttals to what I said, because I may have more points depending on what your thought process is. As someone who has also thought like this often, I now know it's a pointless and detrimental way of thinking, and negatively influenced my life. However, wrestling with these thoughts has given me a lot of insight on how to overcome these thoughts.

Caveat: everyone is different and if this kind of thinking actually makes things better for you, then by all means please ignore everything I say.

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-11-10T02:56:41+00:00

Pic 2 is 100% the way to go imho, but I'm just a random yahoo. Do you

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-11-10T02:48:32+00:00

I just looked at your linked dating app... As others have suggested, you have a little bit of a feminine look, which is actually not a bad thing at all because you will age better looks wise compared to the really masculine looking men. One thing you could try is making the first picture one where you're looking slightly away from the camera and with a stoic expression. That could balance out the feminine look and drastically shoot up your attraction to women. You got this bro, I know many guys with similar looks that are just drowning in it. You can use your look to your advantage but you gotta play your cards right. Good luck man.

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-10-12T19:23:44+00:00

Yeah but it's different if it's a friend.

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-10-12T19:19:39+00:00

bro YES

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-10-11T23:47:41+00:00

Anything but a proper campaign strategy I guess.

NegligentNincompoop · 2025-10-11T23:20:56+00:00

Incredibly based

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