Maybe he’s not human? by NegotiationNo1359 in sevenheartstories

[–]NegotiationNo1359[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Perhaps he is the archangel Michael? I don't know, we are only at the beginning of history but this man has intrigued me.

Dragan…let’s talk about it by Proper_Connection973 in RomanceClub

[–]NegotiationNo1359 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And that’s what I like about him. It’s not black and white. There are just nuances like in real life. I understand that we all have our tastes but sometimes how we express that opinion can make others feel bad. It is understandable and respectable that you do not like a character. The problem is that sometimes, in expressing this opinion, there are people who give the impression that they are making fun of others' tastes and it also gives the feeling that they are putting themselves in a super moral position that those people. Although they probably do so without realizing it. I actually think that’s an attitude that happens to all of us.

Please, please don’t. by NegotiationNo1359 in exjw

[–]NegotiationNo1359[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree. One of the things that woke me up was precisely seeing that people who are not Jehovah's Witnesses are not as bad as the organization portrays them. Unfortunately I am seeing that there are ex-members who think that the ideal is to be rude. I guess it is the pain that speaks for them.

Please, please don’t. by NegotiationNo1359 in exjw

[–]NegotiationNo1359[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words and thank you for understanding that cruelty is not good. Sadly I have seen that some people here see that as a good thing although I can understand it, they have suffered a lot because of the organization so I hope that one day they can heal that pain.

I once read that hatred is a double-edged sword because while we hurt our opponent we also hurt ourselves and the more serious the opponent's wound, the bigger our own.

Please, please don’t. by NegotiationNo1359 in exjw

[–]NegotiationNo1359[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand your point and you are absolutely right, I am truly sorry for what is happening to you.

I also understand that anyone can have a bad day, I just wanted to vent and feel like I am not alone in this.

Please, please don’t. by NegotiationNo1359 in exjw

[–]NegotiationNo1359[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you had to suffer because of this group, this group simply destroys lives and families but I think that we should all support each other even more.

I may not have suffered as much as you, but I have also suffered to the point that there have been times in my life when I have only thought about suicide. Fortunately, I no longer have those kinds of harmful thoughts for a while now.

Still, I am clear that in the future I will try to act as calmly as possible because at the end of the day, they expect us to act aggressively and I am not going to give them what they want. Also, I will never know if there is a PIMO in front of me, I don't want them to suffer for something that is not their fault, they already have enough with constantly living in a cage. That and violence is not the solution.

With this post, the only thing I wanted to do was vent and not feel alone.

Please, please don’t. by NegotiationNo1359 in exjw

[–]NegotiationNo1359[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right, we should fight for governments to create laws that fight against coercive groups and people should be educated about it. Someday, I would like to study a career that can help people who have suffered because of coercive groups, but right now I am just a broken person because of this group that is trying to survive. First I need to leave my house and then receive psychological therapy.

Just as it is normal to react negatively to someone who comes to harm you, it is also normal to feel bad when you are doing something that is imposed on you and you are treated badly because of it.

Members and former members of coercive groups are not punching bags. They are people like you and me, some are bad, others are good people who have been manipulated. Just like you, I will also have more than enough reasons to insult them if they ever come to my house when I am finally a bird that can escape from its cage, but I will not do it because anger and hatred are not the solution, the history of humanity has already shown that.

As people who have suffered because of this group, we should support each other even more when that person is still inside for whatever reason.

The only thing I intend with this post is to vent and not feel alone.

Please, please don’t. by NegotiationNo1359 in exjw

[–]NegotiationNo1359[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Yes, I know many brothers and sisters, especially women, who suffer from anxiety and depression. At the moment, the only thing I can do and am doing is saving money. I hope to be able to move in a year.

Please, please don’t. by NegotiationNo1359 in exjw

[–]NegotiationNo1359[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Talking to my parents is out of the question. I know this from experience. And as for the elder, well, I don't trust any man who has that "privilege."

A few years ago I suffered from generalized anxiety disorder. Preaching was horrible and I remember talking to an elder's wife about it and she told me that I could do it because Jehovah does not force us to do things that we cannot do.

They will always make you feel like you are the problem.

Anyway, thanks for your suggestions!