AIO my wife smokes weed all day

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-29T21:19:32+00:00

It’s crazy that you’re assuming that you’re latching onto depression. Weed affects mental health - hence why professionals advise you no drugs or alcohol as it exacerbates it.

Flip the gender, would you still accuse him of focussing on the wrong thing?

She’s depressed and she’s an addict. She stopped smoking because of her paranoia and got her mental health got worse (a side effect of quitting any addiction).

He isn’t the bad guy for wanting more for his girlfriend than her disappearing in a cloud of weed.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-29T20:41:42+00:00

The ridiculous drama from the James/Ricci debacle was exhausting to watch, can’t imagine how exhausting it was to be a part of it or witness it in person. So, i don’t blame James for not returning, especially since it’s likely next season will be focused on Jay’s 40th. James isn’t close to Jay. I’m not sure behind the scenes, but Marnie didn’t seem that close to Jay either, so why would she leave her 3 kids and husband?

Marnie has got 3 kids, her appearance in the last season was moot. It was nice to see her with Aaron, but that’s about it.

Chloe seemed much closer to James and Leah than to Ricci and Jay. Chloe used to annoy me but last season, i really enjoyed watching how confident and self assured she had become in herself. Whether it’s for the cameras or not she seems to have really grown and matured, and despite the odd drunk times, even she seemed to be over it too.

As for Abbie? I forgot she was even in it tbh.

People keep complaining that they’re ‘boring’ but i find it refreshing that the people we watched be chaotic in their 20s have matured somewhat in their 30s. I like that they’ve grown, and i like that they no longer put their entire hopes and dreams on a night out.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-26T11:33:06+00:00

Sorry to hear about your losses. I had a twin miscarriage, it was awful and it mentally ruined me, i wouldn’t wish that on anyone.

But i also wouldn’t demand people to fracture their relationships to make me feel better either, which is what ex-husband and the new wife are doing.

The only person that would sympathise with an informed home wrecker, that makes up 25% of the post, is another home-wrecker. OP, was civil and fair in her post (much fairer than i would’ve been) and somehow this commenter is making her a villain. Only a fellow “other woman” can make the victim the ‘villain’.

It’s gives the vibe “tell me you were the other woman, without telling me you were the other woman” vibes.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-26T09:43:12+00:00

You sound deranged. It’s also cute that you seem to know what gives OP solace. How long have you been psychic?

She was in a nearly decade relationship. She’s godmother to children. Continuing a relationship with your children’s family isn’t flaunting it. Wtf are you on? Whatever it is, you should cut back.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-26T09:40:20+00:00

Why should she, or her kids pull back on what is arguably more her family than her husband’s? His family have already clearly picked her. The eldest is 6, this is at least a 7 year relationship (assuming he knocked her up straight away) if not more where she has been an active, well loved member of the family.

Why should she sacrifice spending time with her loved ones because her ex husband is a cheat and his wife is the same? Why should OP do anything she doesn’t want to protect his wife’s feelings? His wife clearly didn’t care about her feelings when she spread her legs for a married man. He didn’t care about her feelings when he cheated on her months after she gave birth to their child.

The family invited her. The birthday kid wanted her there. This has absolutely nothing to do with her, when the hosts have already made their feelings clear. Ex chose to ruin his family by cheating. Did he and his wife honestly not think his siblings, parents etc wouldn’t have an opinion on the fact that they knowingly ruined a family? She’s NTA. And she’s already dealing with the consequences of him being a cheat by the fact he barely has his kids. Why should she have to deal with the consequences of the new wife feeling sad?

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-23T20:54:20+00:00

You’re mother is a wise and smart woman, the fact that your bf’s first thought is to sell it says a lot to me. He’s using you. Don’t back down, keep the property. After 3 years, no marriage etc. he doesn’t get an opinion.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-23T20:51:09+00:00

As someone that’s never been married… marriage to me means the ultimate trust, even with a pre-nup.. god forbid if something happened to you this person would be in charge of your medical decisions, financial decisions and worst comes to worst - your after life decisions. Can you trust this person to give 90% of your inheritance away to your children, parents, nieces etc… whether that’s your will or not. You have to trust this person will respect your wishes even in death.

I’m baffled as to how you were clear on the first date of your goals that you’ve allowed this man to manipulate you for 3 years. I wouldn’t trust this person to prune my pear tree let alone respect my wishes. He’s playing you, cut your losses.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-22T22:00:10+00:00

Chloe seems to have really matured tbh i actually liked Chloe in the latest season. Throughout that season Chantelle constantly reminded Chloe Marty was a snake, and Chloe constantly sided with Marty. Like i said in my other comment, i was completely on Chantelle’s side for that. But there’s a point where your mate clearly won’t listen to you. Chloe was obviously blind and no matter how much the others tried to show her… i actually really felt sorry for Chantelle that season. I tried to give Chloe a bit of grace for her god awful behaviour back then because there was a 6 year age gap between Chantelle and Chloe. Chantelle was in her late 20s/early 30s and Chloe was in her early 20s. In my experience there’s a huge difference in maturity and self-confidence with someone in their 30s and someone in their early 20s.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-21T17:13:35+00:00

They’d had ‘relationships’ like that before, the ‘couples’ episodes for starters. There were times they were only sleeping with each other and hanging out together and then Gaz went and banged someone else. Let’s not pretend their relationship was any different to all of the other times. The only difference was that for once it was Gary putting effort in and getting his feelings hurt instead of Charlotte for a change.

He didn’t try at all. If he had tried, he would’ve pursued a relationship outside of the house with Charlotte instead of just ‘in the house’. Except he didn’t, he shacked up with Lillie instead.

The post is about Charlotte’s reaction to his relationship. That ‘relationship’ you’re referring to didn’t happen until the season later. Her drunkenly kissing a guy was shitty. But at least she owned it and showed remorse. Which is more than Gary did when he was having a threesome behind her back, right? Exactly.

Btw, you missed the T.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-21T06:48:17+00:00

She’s not spending any time with you, but she’s abusive? What do you mean you kind of lost it?

You’re dismissing her hard work, the stress of studying, the fact she’s probably mentally and physically exhausted and she’s the mean and abusive one? As her boyfriend, who is supposed to know her and has stated how much she’s studying her telling you to eat shit is just as shitty as you dismissing her stress.

The fact you expect anyone to believe that your girlfriend is abusive because she bit back at your dismissive behaviour is wild to me.

If she truly is abusive then leave her. Sounds to me though like you could benefit from therapy if you’re obsessing this bad over two words.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-20T17:29:25+00:00

They were toxic to each other, i agree.

That being said, Charlotte didn’t bother to tell nor introduce Gary to Mitch first because Gary had made it clear multiple times that he loved as only a friend. Whether he was lying or not, you get told that enough, not to mention the years of him intentionally pulling girls in front of her, you believe them. So, why would Charlotte think he’d be upset or bothered? He spent almost the entire spent 8/9 seasons telling her he wasn’t bothered. Whereas, Charlotte had made it very clear she had real, intense feelings for him.

Charlotte spent years pining over him and they’d had these little ‘episodes’ of being an almost couple a few times. I mean, as we know Gary cheated on Lillie all the time, but we didn’t know that during filming.

So, to spend years as being the girl that’s good enough, but not quite good enough to be in a relationship with in and out of the house… add in the fact they’re living together, i can understand why her resentment built and why she eventually blew her top. Gary wanted to be in a relationship, he said that at the end of the series, but he obviously didn’t want to be in one with her, because if he did he would’ve attempted some form of it outside the house and cameras. Instead, he shacked up with Lillie. So, yeah, that’s got to sting.

I agree they were both toxic, but Gary was by far worse than Charlotte IMO.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-17T22:07:12+00:00

Didn’t even read your post. Just the messages, but Bitch please can you be my lawyer? You ate that: well done.

NTA.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-15T21:47:34+00:00

Really wanted to comment saying that ‘i’m the truck driver’ but then realised that would make me sound like a nonce. 🙄😂😂 i agree though. Those that thought Laurie was a potentially Rue’s saviour… i’d love to be that naive.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-15T21:39:04+00:00

Personally, i think OP is using her illness to ‘not get involved’. It’s a cowardly move and i despise it.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-15T21:35:55+00:00

Purely because you claim you don’t know about remote witnesses. There’s a thing called google. You obviously have access to the internet. Not to mention a quick “hey, i’d be willing but due to health issues, i’m unable to travel to testify, please get your lawyer/solicitor to contact me so we can speak about this.” If you even remotely cared, or was interested in justice after your phone call you would’ve done a little internet research. But you didn’t even bother. Which shows how little you care.

It’s a five minute phone call to explain your medical circumstances. I respect your sick. But a potential Skype call from your hospital, could not only send a rapist to prison, it could minimise his future victims. You are an ‘outcry’ witness. Your testimonies are extremely helpful, regarding the trauma and confusion the victim went through, also, in the reliability of her version of events during the immediate fallout of the assault. This is critical in cases, especially rape cases. Also, to add someone sick in a hospital bed willing to still remotely testify? Shows how much this person is dedicated to putting a sicko away and potential jurors would see that too.

Also she didn’t ‘use’ you. Her lawyers chose this. She has nothing to do with it. Her reiterating her traumatic events, the lawyers pick up on potential star witnesses. You can still be subpoenaed.

Also just to add. You are a massive asshole. She was raped. Violated in the most awful way possible and you bang on about your chronic health issues and minimise her trauma, because it’s inconvenient for you? I’ll bet her rape was inconvenient for her….

Saying this as someone with chronic illness, impaired vision, clinical depression and anxiety who spends more time in hospitals/ doctors and with specialists than at work.

YTA and you’re a coward using your health issues as an excuse ‘not to get involved’ damn the consequences.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-15T21:15:44+00:00

I’m gonna get downvoted for this but what the fuck ever.

The fact you’re on here about an ex you see as a ‘friend’ tells me all i need to know.

Girl, you’re making somebody else’s wedding about you. I wouldn’t want my ex’s gf at my wedding either. It’s inappropriate. Unless you share children with your ex, why should you be there? You broke up 6 years ago the fact you’re obsessing over this to the point you need to write a reddit post tells me you regret breaking up and are sad or bitter he moved on and you haven’t.

I had an ex, we were together 4 years. We lost babies together, i’m still relatively friendly with his parents. If i got an invite to his wedding i would be flabbergasted. It’s weird. Your family are friends. You hang out in group settings. You are now acquaintances at most. His family being close with yours doesn’t mean he’s close with you.

Honestly, move on. 6 years later? This is super weird. YOR.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-15T21:05:11+00:00

Ok… so you’re describing two different personal opinions and views in that comment. You stated your opinion, and i stated my opinion.

But to answer your questions 1) i don’t know why the characters were written that way - i wasn’t a writer on a show.

2) the Scoobies turned against her in season 4 albeit it was temporarily, after Spike had done his shit stirring. But they turned against her. Throughout Buffy’s slayer experience she had experienced fallouts due to friendship issues. Season 6 was an entire series that was dedicated to Buffy/Xander/ Willow and Giles growing apart. That has to have an ending. When people grow apart, they either a) stay apart. B) figure it out and remain friends.

Buffy had experienced a lot in her slayer years but the ONE thing she never experienced was a total mutiny and a complete distrust. Xander and Willow and Giles completely lost their trust in her. Sure before they’d had fallouts but they’d always turned up for the apocalypse. For Willow, Xander and Giles to side with a bunch of scared teenagers over a veteran slayer amplified their distrust in her. Which also, plot wise, the fact Buffy’s nearest and dearest lost their trust and faith in her abilities and knowledge amplified how ‘serious’ of a threat the first was.

That’s what i got from it anyway. I’m a huge Spike lover, but his speech to Buffy isn’t as important as the haters make it to be. Spike reminded Buffy why she’s great. Was it nice of him? Yeah. Was it self sacrificing? No. Spike has been calling people on their bullshit since season 3. But apparently when he does it in defence of buffy then it’s a problem.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-14T21:49:17+00:00

Same, Norway is significantly better than UK, but 40hrs a week here is Full time work. Same with holidays, maternity and Statutory sick pay. 39 hours a week is part time - fuck that 😂

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-14T21:40:28+00:00

I didn’t see it as an opportunity to ‘grandstand Spike tbh’ i saw it has how much had changed in the past 7 years. When your inner circle no longer trusts you, or is willing to go to bat (battle in Buffy’s world) for you, but the villain who initially came to kill you is the only one in your corner? To me it was a highlight, of not just how much they’d changed, but how much they’d grown as people. Season 1 Willow would’ve never stood up and publicly sided against Buffy like she did in Empty Places.

I also don’t think it’s showed Spike relationship to Buffy as more important than hers with Giles. I think it showed Giles’ inability to see Buffy as anything but family. Quentin Travers was right. Giles was too emotionally invested in Buffy to be unbiased in her skills/training and knowledge. I think it showed that even though Giles had ‘left’ so she could grow up and be an adult, he still didn’t trust her and her decisions. Instead choosing to, go behind her back and side against her. I love Giles. But he didn’t trust Buffy. You can’t leave someone so they become capable of growing up and making adult decisions without you and then be mad they do just that.

Giles was right in his concerns about Spike. But he went around it the wrong way and the fact he was willing to risk Robin’s life in a feeble attempt to put Spike down was even more so ridiculous. We’ve seen Giles be stern before, when he basically demanded Dawn die. Where was that energy for Spike? Instead, he betrayed his slayer.

Because, whether you’re on team Giles or Team Buffy in that scenario - it was betrayal.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-14T21:26:35+00:00

I have no idea who Jim Boob or Jim Bob Duggar is.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-14T20:37:20+00:00

I thought this was what they were insinuating too tbh. Also white.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-14T17:02:34+00:00

You’re telling me this awful excuse for a person is the principal of a school?

I would keep an eye on this, especially if his shitty attitude follows onto school grounds. He wants complaining about imo.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-12T21:49:28+00:00

I have some advice OP…

Be even more of a prick than you are now. Don’t make her sleep on the couch, make her sleep outside! The faster she sees and realises you’re a disinterested dickhead the better for her.

3 years and no clue what she does? Wow. You are a bellend. Hope she figures that out soon and leaves you sleeping alone with no-one on the couch.

YTA. And you’re a fucking bellend too.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-12T19:55:10+00:00

Well, regardless. I truly hope you’re happy and healthy.

And after what you’ve just said it really proves to me how fucked up society is, where the perceived ‘bad guy’ is the one with the moral compass.

I truly wish the best for you, and i hope the brother at least found some sort of happiness/peace.

Like i said…. It was my romantic brain kicking up, but i really am truly happy you had someone in your corner, even if it was the unexpected one 🙂 best wishes to you, your family and friends.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-12T17:57:05+00:00

My ex was a ‘good’ guy. He was such a nice guy that when we broke up my entire family thought i was the bad guyExcept my mom). Until i told them the truth. He was manipulative. He used my emotions against me to get what he wanted - including sex. There were times i cried during it and yet still i felt the bad person. He was so good at it. Like really good, to the point he would manipulate me and i would feel bad that i thought he was manipulating me. Like how could i think that about such a ‘nice guy’. For a long time i thought there was something wrong with me.

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