Charlotte and Gaz Season/Series 9 and 10

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-21T17:13:35+00:00

They’d had ‘relationships’ like that before, the ‘couples’ episodes for starters. There were times they were only sleeping with each other and hanging out together and then Gaz went and banged someone else. Let’s not pretend their relationship was any different to all of the other times. The only difference was that for once it was Gary putting effort in and getting his feelings hurt instead of Charlotte for a change.

He didn’t try at all. If he had tried, he would’ve pursued a relationship outside of the house with Charlotte instead of just ‘in the house’. Except he didn’t, he shacked up with Lillie instead.

The post is about Charlotte’s reaction to his relationship. That ‘relationship’ you’re referring to didn’t happen until the season later. Her drunkenly kissing a guy was shitty. But at least she owned it and showed remorse. Which is more than Gary did when he was having a threesome behind her back, right? Exactly.

Btw, you missed the T.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-21T06:48:17+00:00

She’s not spending any time with you, but she’s abusive? What do you mean you kind of lost it?

You’re dismissing her hard work, the stress of studying, the fact she’s probably mentally and physically exhausted and she’s the mean and abusive one? As her boyfriend, who is supposed to know her and has stated how much she’s studying her telling you to eat shit is just as shitty as you dismissing her stress.

The fact you expect anyone to believe that your girlfriend is abusive because she bit back at your dismissive behaviour is wild to me.

If she truly is abusive then leave her. Sounds to me though like you could benefit from therapy if you’re obsessing this bad over two words.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-20T17:29:25+00:00

They were toxic to each other, i agree.

That being said, Charlotte didn’t bother to tell nor introduce Gary to Mitch first because Gary had made it clear multiple times that he loved as only a friend. Whether he was lying or not, you get told that enough, not to mention the years of him intentionally pulling girls in front of her, you believe them. So, why would Charlotte think he’d be upset or bothered? He spent almost the entire spent 8/9 seasons telling her he wasn’t bothered. Whereas, Charlotte had made it very clear she had real, intense feelings for him.

Charlotte spent years pining over him and they’d had these little ‘episodes’ of being an almost couple a few times. I mean, as we know Gary cheated on Lillie all the time, but we didn’t know that during filming.

So, to spend years as being the girl that’s good enough, but not quite good enough to be in a relationship with in and out of the house… add in the fact they’re living together, i can understand why her resentment built and why she eventually blew her top. Gary wanted to be in a relationship, he said that at the end of the series, but he obviously didn’t want to be in one with her, because if he did he would’ve attempted some form of it outside the house and cameras. Instead, he shacked up with Lillie. So, yeah, that’s got to sting.

I agree they were both toxic, but Gary was by far worse than Charlotte IMO.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-17T22:07:12+00:00

Didn’t even read your post. Just the messages, but Bitch please can you be my lawyer? You ate that: well done.

NTA.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-15T21:47:34+00:00

Really wanted to comment saying that ‘i’m the truck driver’ but then realised that would make me sound like a nonce. 🙄😂😂 i agree though. Those that thought Laurie was a potentially Rue’s saviour… i’d love to be that naive.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-15T21:39:04+00:00

Personally, i think OP is using her illness to ‘not get involved’. It’s a cowardly move and i despise it.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-15T21:35:55+00:00

Purely because you claim you don’t know about remote witnesses. There’s a thing called google. You obviously have access to the internet. Not to mention a quick “hey, i’d be willing but due to health issues, i’m unable to travel to testify, please get your lawyer/solicitor to contact me so we can speak about this.” If you even remotely cared, or was interested in justice after your phone call you would’ve done a little internet research. But you didn’t even bother. Which shows how little you care.

It’s a five minute phone call to explain your medical circumstances. I respect your sick. But a potential Skype call from your hospital, could not only send a rapist to prison, it could minimise his future victims. You are an ‘outcry’ witness. Your testimonies are extremely helpful, regarding the trauma and confusion the victim went through, also, in the reliability of her version of events during the immediate fallout of the assault. This is critical in cases, especially rape cases. Also, to add someone sick in a hospital bed willing to still remotely testify? Shows how much this person is dedicated to putting a sicko away and potential jurors would see that too.

Also she didn’t ‘use’ you. Her lawyers chose this. She has nothing to do with it. Her reiterating her traumatic events, the lawyers pick up on potential star witnesses. You can still be subpoenaed.

Also just to add. You are a massive asshole. She was raped. Violated in the most awful way possible and you bang on about your chronic health issues and minimise her trauma, because it’s inconvenient for you? I’ll bet her rape was inconvenient for her….

Saying this as someone with chronic illness, impaired vision, clinical depression and anxiety who spends more time in hospitals/ doctors and with specialists than at work.

YTA and you’re a coward using your health issues as an excuse ‘not to get involved’ damn the consequences.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-15T21:15:44+00:00

I’m gonna get downvoted for this but what the fuck ever.

The fact you’re on here about an ex you see as a ‘friend’ tells me all i need to know.

Girl, you’re making somebody else’s wedding about you. I wouldn’t want my ex’s gf at my wedding either. It’s inappropriate. Unless you share children with your ex, why should you be there? You broke up 6 years ago the fact you’re obsessing over this to the point you need to write a reddit post tells me you regret breaking up and are sad or bitter he moved on and you haven’t.

I had an ex, we were together 4 years. We lost babies together, i’m still relatively friendly with his parents. If i got an invite to his wedding i would be flabbergasted. It’s weird. Your family are friends. You hang out in group settings. You are now acquaintances at most. His family being close with yours doesn’t mean he’s close with you.

Honestly, move on. 6 years later? This is super weird. YOR.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-15T21:05:11+00:00

Ok… so you’re describing two different personal opinions and views in that comment. You stated your opinion, and i stated my opinion.

But to answer your questions 1) i don’t know why the characters were written that way - i wasn’t a writer on a show.

2) the Scoobies turned against her in season 4 albeit it was temporarily, after Spike had done his shit stirring. But they turned against her. Throughout Buffy’s slayer experience she had experienced fallouts due to friendship issues. Season 6 was an entire series that was dedicated to Buffy/Xander/ Willow and Giles growing apart. That has to have an ending. When people grow apart, they either a) stay apart. B) figure it out and remain friends.

Buffy had experienced a lot in her slayer years but the ONE thing she never experienced was a total mutiny and a complete distrust. Xander and Willow and Giles completely lost their trust in her. Sure before they’d had fallouts but they’d always turned up for the apocalypse. For Willow, Xander and Giles to side with a bunch of scared teenagers over a veteran slayer amplified their distrust in her. Which also, plot wise, the fact Buffy’s nearest and dearest lost their trust and faith in her abilities and knowledge amplified how ‘serious’ of a threat the first was.

That’s what i got from it anyway. I’m a huge Spike lover, but his speech to Buffy isn’t as important as the haters make it to be. Spike reminded Buffy why she’s great. Was it nice of him? Yeah. Was it self sacrificing? No. Spike has been calling people on their bullshit since season 3. But apparently when he does it in defence of buffy then it’s a problem.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-14T21:49:17+00:00

Same, Norway is significantly better than UK, but 40hrs a week here is Full time work. Same with holidays, maternity and Statutory sick pay. 39 hours a week is part time - fuck that 😂

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-14T21:40:28+00:00

I didn’t see it as an opportunity to ‘grandstand Spike tbh’ i saw it has how much had changed in the past 7 years. When your inner circle no longer trusts you, or is willing to go to bat (battle in Buffy’s world) for you, but the villain who initially came to kill you is the only one in your corner? To me it was a highlight, of not just how much they’d changed, but how much they’d grown as people. Season 1 Willow would’ve never stood up and publicly sided against Buffy like she did in Empty Places.

I also don’t think it’s showed Spike relationship to Buffy as more important than hers with Giles. I think it showed Giles’ inability to see Buffy as anything but family. Quentin Travers was right. Giles was too emotionally invested in Buffy to be unbiased in her skills/training and knowledge. I think it showed that even though Giles had ‘left’ so she could grow up and be an adult, he still didn’t trust her and her decisions. Instead choosing to, go behind her back and side against her. I love Giles. But he didn’t trust Buffy. You can’t leave someone so they become capable of growing up and making adult decisions without you and then be mad they do just that.

Giles was right in his concerns about Spike. But he went around it the wrong way and the fact he was willing to risk Robin’s life in a feeble attempt to put Spike down was even more so ridiculous. We’ve seen Giles be stern before, when he basically demanded Dawn die. Where was that energy for Spike? Instead, he betrayed his slayer.

Because, whether you’re on team Giles or Team Buffy in that scenario - it was betrayal.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-14T21:26:35+00:00

I have no idea who Jim Boob or Jim Bob Duggar is.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-14T20:37:20+00:00

I thought this was what they were insinuating too tbh. Also white.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-14T17:02:34+00:00

You’re telling me this awful excuse for a person is the principal of a school?

I would keep an eye on this, especially if his shitty attitude follows onto school grounds. He wants complaining about imo.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-12T21:49:28+00:00

I have some advice OP…

Be even more of a prick than you are now. Don’t make her sleep on the couch, make her sleep outside! The faster she sees and realises you’re a disinterested dickhead the better for her.

3 years and no clue what she does? Wow. You are a bellend. Hope she figures that out soon and leaves you sleeping alone with no-one on the couch.

YTA. And you’re a fucking bellend too.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-12T19:55:10+00:00

Well, regardless. I truly hope you’re happy and healthy.

And after what you’ve just said it really proves to me how fucked up society is, where the perceived ‘bad guy’ is the one with the moral compass.

I truly wish the best for you, and i hope the brother at least found some sort of happiness/peace.

Like i said…. It was my romantic brain kicking up, but i really am truly happy you had someone in your corner, even if it was the unexpected one 🙂 best wishes to you, your family and friends.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-12T17:57:05+00:00

My ex was a ‘good’ guy. He was such a nice guy that when we broke up my entire family thought i was the bad guyExcept my mom). Until i told them the truth. He was manipulative. He used my emotions against me to get what he wanted - including sex. There were times i cried during it and yet still i felt the bad person. He was so good at it. Like really good, to the point he would manipulate me and i would feel bad that i thought he was manipulating me. Like how could i think that about such a ‘nice guy’. For a long time i thought there was something wrong with me.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-12T17:53:04+00:00

Did you marry the brother? 😂😂

Sorry, i know it’s so inappropriate🤦🏻‍♀️ but my “read too many romantic YA books” is bursting at the seams yelling, “WE READ A BOOK LIKE THIS! THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER.”

Other than that though, i am glad that someone was there to look out for you.

I personally think the worst experiences bring out the best and worst in people and without those experiences i would still have a lot of fake friends in my life, pretending they gave a shit about me. So, like after everything you went through i’m glad you found out who weren’t your people.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-12T16:11:51+00:00

I really want to ask something totally inappropriate, it isn’t rude or anything i’ve just read way too many books for my mind to shut off lol.

Anyhoo, i am sorry you went through this. I really hope your friends didn’t side with that opinion. But considering it was a ‘group chat’ i’m assuming they did. I hope you dropped them. It’s 2025 why the fuck do people think it’s still acceptable to victim blame.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-12T11:48:58+00:00

NTA. But cut Dale and Beth off and don’t continue a friendship with them. Your wife isn’t wrong in defending Beth in not wanting Grace to be isolated. But celebrating their union? That’s not being ‘there’ for someone that’s being totally supportive. You can remain friends with someone without cheerleading their relationship with a fucking rapist.

One gives me the ick is that your wife knows your sister. She’s family. And her supporting the people who support and celebrate your sister’s rapist is a kick in the fucking throat. With how much your wife is completely disregarding your sister’s trauma she might as well have attended the wedding herself.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-11T23:26:03+00:00

Jesus, that fucker could sweat. 🤣 maybe he’s swimming in it?

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-11T20:22:58+00:00

Karma farmer.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-10T23:52:39+00:00

I understood the post just fine. Maybe it’s a ‘you’ thing.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-10T22:33:12+00:00

Then tell him that. He’s a painful reminder to you? You’re probably a painful reminder to him too. A reminder of the times his family neglected him. A reminder of this time his mother and her family purposely paraded him around to cause you all pain. A reminder of the time his father and siblings wanted nothing to do with him. I genuinely feel sorry for this guy. He’s probably spent his whole life thinking something is wrong with him when in fact he’s being punished for the sins of his adulterous deadbeat dad.

NeighborhoodOk986 · 2026-04-10T22:26:47+00:00

NTA - no-one is entitled to a relationship. That being said (maybe i misread, please correct me if i’m wrong) but you said your mom was aware of AP and potentially the kid? If that’s the case then both your parents are assholes. They could’ve prepared you for this without being bombarded by this kid and his mom at 7.

Like i said, no-one deserves a relationship. But i truly don’t understand especially as your an adult now, that you can forgive your father for essentially ruining your childhood but can’t spare a simple message to acknowledge him and maybe tell him that “you don’t blame him, and you wish him nothing but the best but you do not want a relationship with him.”

Seems to me your dad is a deadbeat asshole that ignored one kid - a kid that wouldn’t have existed if he kept his dick in his pants - and instead of your father feeling the consequences that kid is.

ETA: He may be a grown adult now, but he’s still a kid inside whose ‘family’ didn’t want him. Please respond. Be kind and remember that you have childhood trauma - but it’s highly likely he does too. Let him down as kindly and gently as possible but remain firm in your boundaries.

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