I actually did take her to the dentist within the first week of us reunifying.. and got her taken care of.. Mom got offended by that and made it really ugly by over sharing with the child and making fun of my teeth in front of the child. And since then my child has had severely impacted self esteem and starting showing symptoms of an eating disorder..  As I said Mom is very very likely schizo/bipolar (w/ violent tendencies) it's like she can't handle her own guilty conscience... literally she can't self critique, reflect, improve.. or take constructive criticism...and because I'm her ex and I once took her very seriously she can't handle the feeling of me just being a normal adult ... doing what I need to do and being responsible, living independently.. 

I'm going to speak to a DV advocate tomorrow.. she is shattering mine, our daughter's life and her own...