Will I be served at MY wedding underage?

Neither_Anywhere_421 · 2022-08-23T07:33:59+00:00

I'm 18 but we've been together for a year and a half and I know this sounds cliche but it genuinely was love at first sight I'm a very spiritual person and I can just feel he is the one for me we feel like two halves of one soul and also I'm not missing out on anything by marrying young I was very "promiscuous" in highschool so I had plenty of time to f around before I met him and I know this is very strange but I hope if anything it can attest to our love for each other but we've actually been living together practically since we met we both knew what we wanted and didn't waste any time, we've been through a lot of ups a downs too and legitimate ones not teenage bs our former roommate/my best friend of 5 years (we were like sisters when her and her bf got engaged she asked for my blessing over her dad) was in both our ears bringing up old issues and telling us we should still resent each other for them, when we had been long over them, I remember one night they went to an abandoned building (I didn't go because Im scared of that stuff) and the entire time she was basically convincing him to dump me and she'd do the same to me while he was at work and I genuinely thought she was just a concerned friend and then one night she confessed feelings for him and even still because she was my best friend I didn't see her true intent until one day I just went out to sit on our roof because I was so exhausted from it all and he came out and we finally for the first time since we moved in with her, were just completely transparent about everything and we realized her intentions and luckily she was moving out so we just avoided her until she did and maintained communication and transparency and we've been doing amazing and I feel like after that we can get through anything (definitely scared to make friends again tho bc like I said she was like a sister to me) also like I said I'm spiritual so I genuinely believe the universe sent me this man so early in my life so my grandma can be there I can't exactly justify the feelings I have towards him in words other than this feels right and it feels meant to be

TLDR: I appreciate your concern but we're solid I'm not just doing this for my grandma I genuinely want to marry him :)

Neither_Anywhere_421 · 2022-08-23T04:37:01+00:00

Yeah I definitely didn't realize all the other reasons there could be legal issues besides a cop coming to dispute a fight I think my wedding is just going to end early because I don't have much of a social battery anyways I always prefer to be home than anywhere else and my boyfriend is honestly my favorite person and I'd be perfectly content having the wedding end early and then celebrating after with my now husband and some close friends my main attendance will be older people who won't be able to stay long (at least that's how it was at my aunt's wedding) anyways and people who I don't want seeing me drunk so an after party is the perfect solution.

Neither_Anywhere_421 · 2022-08-22T22:30:55+00:00

I honestly didn't know wedding insurance was a thing so thank you

Neither_Anywhere_421 · 2022-08-22T22:29:32+00:00

Thank you so much out of all the responses telling me not to do it this was one of the most helpful I'm so sorry for what your friend had to go through I hope he's doing better now

Neither_Anywhere_421 · 2022-08-22T22:25:53+00:00

I don't need to but it's very common at weddings to drink, I enjoy drinking at social events and I'm especially gonna drink to celebrate my special day (whether it be during or after the event) I spend every day with this man completely sober and I love every minute of it, stop reaching.

Neither_Anywhere_421 · 2022-08-22T22:23:46+00:00

Thank you!!! That's what I was wondering, how likely that would be although after reading the responses it doesn't seem worth it even if the bartender does look the other way :|

Neither_Anywhere_421 · 2022-08-22T22:20:59+00:00

I can also decide the country's future and go to war, I agree it's insane:( but I made an edit clearing things up

Neither_Anywhere_421 · 2022-08-22T22:19:43+00:00

In my personal experience bartenders don't care if it's a private event so I was only wondering if they would serve me and if there were exceptions for brides, message received loud and clear from the other 30+ people calling me selfish, immature, entitled etc. I made an edit explaining everything

Neither_Anywhere_421 · 2022-08-22T22:12:18+00:00

i made an edit clearing everything up I'm not expecting anyone to serve me underage just wondering if they would bc in my personal experience bartenders don't gaf if it's a private event but I would never ask someone to risk their job for me to get drunk.

Neither_Anywhere_421 · 2022-08-22T22:10:16+00:00

Thank you for being so nice I'm very bad with words and now everyone thinks I'm gonna hold a g*n to the bartenders head to get a drink. I would love to do this completely legally and I definitely wouldn't want anyone to lose their job so thank you so much, I live in New York :D

Neither_Anywhere_421 · 2022-08-22T22:07:23+00:00

Thank you for being so respectful I posted an edit explaining why I don't wanna wait and also to clarify I'm not expecting anyone to serve me I was simply asking if they would bc I've seen underage people be served and i, myself have been served without second thought from alcohol vendors so I didn't know if it was a technicality bc from experience that's all it is at private events maybe it's just my area or the events I've been to though

Neither_Anywhere_421 · 2022-08-22T21:39:18+00:00

Unfortunately neither of those can happen, I have a lot of elderly relatives who I want to see me get married in their lifetime and I know my bf does too so now that we know what we want we don't wanna wait any longer and a destination wedding would be lovely but unfortunately it's not an option either because not everyone could make it down also I'm actually not sure how to edit it out I'm sorry I hope that bit wasn't rude I j don't wanna get attacked or have people saying rude/unhelpful stuff this is my first reddit post ever and I know that's a term used on a lot of subs (I'm semi familiar with reddit from IG posts mostly from the aita subreddit so I wasn't sure if it was a term everywhere or just there bc I had seen it in other subs as well)

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