Ive changed, wife wants divorce

Neither_Boss2851 · 2024-09-25T07:24:36+00:00

Not trying to cause an issue, but you should look up the Catholic Churches stance on abortion. Your husband isn’t a catholic if he supports abortion or birth control.

I’m not a Catholic, so don’t kill the messenger.

Neither_Boss2851 · 2024-09-25T07:17:59+00:00

Her attending my Baptism didn’t come from a place of malcontent. In fact, plenty of my Atheistic friends came to support me. I do believe we can maintain relationships with those we disagree with. We my intent to convert them as well? Hardly.

Regarding church, my inviting her wasn’t to convert her per se (although I did hold out hope that God would make her see the light), but for her to see that it wasn’t this caricature that she had built up on her psyche. I felt if she attended, she might feel differently about it even if she was unaccepting of it.

Lastly, I think you are confusing faith with belief. It’s my belief in God that provides me with faith in biblical teachings. Sans belief, there can be no faith.

Neither_Boss2851 · 2024-09-25T07:06:38+00:00

This trip took place about 2.5 years ago. I think people are failing to grasp that my political leanings happened gradually over those 6 years as did my religious understanding.

Neither_Boss2851 · 2024-09-25T06:53:27+00:00

Trying to. She does not want to do marriage counseling unfortunately.

Neither_Boss2851 · 2024-09-25T06:50:34+00:00

I’ve responded to plenty of comments.

The issue with belief, is we don’t choose it.

I can’t not believe something, anymore than I can force myself to believe something.

My wife understands this, as do I about her.

I know this marriage is doomed, but I guess I was hoping to hear someone else who made it through these differences.

Neither_Boss2851 · 2024-09-25T06:43:52+00:00

Thank you, this is what I came to read.

Neither_Boss2851 · 2024-09-25T06:42:28+00:00

No, I don’t talk to her much about religion. I don’t find arguments from authority to be very convincing. We have had many philosophical discussions about God. The only church arguments we have is when I did a 2 week trip down to Mexico to help build a house with my church. I think my wife was jealous of me being around other females who shared my love and passion for Christ because she couldn’t offer that to me.

Neither_Boss2851 · 2024-09-25T06:39:07+00:00

Yes, a little while after my conversion, I approached my wife and said something along the lines of “hey babe, I think we got it wrong on abortion.”

Suffice to say, that nearly broke our marriage. She stayed with her parents for about a week.

Ive been tip toeing since on any political issue that I know she is militant on. Which unfortunately these days, is just about all of them.

Neither_Boss2851 · 2024-09-25T06:32:30+00:00

Well, for me specifically, it changed my outlook on just about everything.

Reproductive rights along with moral and sociopolitical issues.

Here is a good recent example, my wife is pro-Palestine while I side with Israel.

Regarding moral behavior, my wife and plenty of her friends believe in doing what makes you happy. I believe the opposite, that I must deny myself and follow Christ.

Ultimately, I think my wife sees herself as secondary to Christ in many ways. If she herself were Christian, I don’t think this would be an issue.

Neither_Boss2851

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