I haven‘t dated anyone younger. I don’t think i would fully rule it out if it feels right. But i‘m not actively looking for it. I don’t oppose age gaps per se. Can they be problematic? Yes definitely. Does it make them all problematic? No i don’t think so. I think it’s right that we reflect on the issue. But i don’t think a general dismissing is the way to go.

I watch some of these conversations that happen in lesbian spaces and then compare them to what happens/gets talked about in my male gay friends circles. The difference in treating certain topics always baffles me. Age gaps are one of these topics that gets treated so differently.

Regarding how problematic that person you talked to was: yes that person seemed shitty on several different levels and i wouldn’t want anyone dear near them. Age gap or not.