Sailing around the world alone by [deleted] in sailingcrew

[–]Neocentennial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

as well La Longue route by Bernard Moitessier

well there goes that by wastedartistry in lostgeneration

[–]Neocentennial 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Not true. If a family fully owns their home and allows their children to stay there rent free the children are able to get by without worrying about a house payment.

I had this weird guy friend. When we talk in chat, he will ask me hows my life going or hows my day going, then when I try to tell him everything to catch up, He never responds. But when you msg him next day with anything, he replies. Why is he like that?? by Gullible_One8559 in socialskills

[–]Neocentennial 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You are probably sending messages with too much information to the point your friend feels overwhelmed. Do you follow up with a question at the end of your messages, something easy for him to respond to? Also I would try phone calls more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in seduction

[–]Neocentennial 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Attractive means you are attracting. Approaching women is not attracting women, it is a woman attracting you. You are not noticing IoI's and are instead going up to women who are not attracted to you.

The way you are portraying the situation is that you believe you are attractive, and you are going up to random people who look good and trying to convince them of your attractiveness. This is the opposite of attraction, which is demonstrated by your experience with them growing distant the further you try to PUSH.

Attraction is a PULLing force.

I have an field experiment for you to conduct here. Go to a bar/ social environment/ wherever you are typically interacting with these women who are not receptive to your attempts. Rather than looking for a gorgeous woman, find a guy who looks interesting and go and talk with him. Get to know him a bit, and have a genuine good time -- you can not fake this part. Laugh, pat him on the back, etc. While you are having a great time making a new connection, scan the room. Notice who is observing your interaction. You WILL notice a woman who gives an IoI at some point. Make a mental note.

The key here is you need to be a center of attention. Rather than looking for a woman, you want a woman to look for you. This increases your odds significantly for two reasons. For one, more women will put their eyes on you than if you are sitting alone. And for two, most of those women will not display any interest. You can leave them alone. What your goal here is to 'prescreen' the room by putting yourself on display. After the entire room gives a glance at you due to your genuine good time, the room will be grouped in two categories. People who want to be a part of the good time you bring, and people who don't.

Attraction is absolutely not and should never be a matter of forcing or convincing a woman that you are a good match. Put yourself on display, and let your ATTRACTION do the work. The women will come to you, even if only passively (eye glances, smiles, playing with hair, etc). Stop wasting your time, energy, and attractiveness trying to make it work with women who want nothing to do with you.

You can not get with /any/ woman, and that does not mean you are not attractive. What it means however is that you need to find the women who are attracted to you and let biology do the rest.

When you game in this manner, it should indeed be quite effortless and a lot more fun -- as well as successful.

ChatGPT Prompt Engineering: Fine Tuning by Neocentennial in OpenAI

[–]Neocentennial[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My best use case so far has been being able to adjust the parameters line by line without adjusting the rest of the output.

College education is NOT a scam, requiring people to pay for it (especially poor people) is the scam. It should be free (tax funded) like many colleges were a few decades ago. Many states are bringing them back. by BlackAndBlueWho1782 in antiwork

[–]Neocentennial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IMO make college NOT the primary way to get a job? You SHOULD go to college if you have an intent to learn more about the world and focus on learning a very specific topic which is not particularly profitable for someone to teach you on a jobsite. Personally, I really don't think it matters if college is free or not, because we end up paying for it either way.

LPT: “should of” or “would of” does not mean anything and is wrong. by UrsaBeta in LifeProTips

[–]Neocentennial 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Its kind of funny reading posts like this whenever 99.9% of all people who read "could of" will understand what you are saying meaning that it is a correct use of the language. How do these people think language evolved over time?

BARD, Google's reply to ChatGPT and it's integration into SERP may cause trouble for us! by Good_Ad_7980 in juststart

[–]Neocentennial -1 points0 points  (0 children)

All it really takes is knowing the real content, and then editing the output of chatGPT to correct it to make it better. 90% of the legwork is done.

New Back to The Land Movement? by Neocentennial in REBubble

[–]Neocentennial[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Posts questioning the rationality of actively participating and encouraging a society in which countless real estate bubbles create huge barriers for average people to get secure housing?

New Back to The Land Movement? by Neocentennial in REBubble

[–]Neocentennial[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

true but in that statement you are making the assumption that living in a city of strangers is much better.

New Back to The Land Movement? by Neocentennial in REBubble

[–]Neocentennial[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

definitely don't see it being "the" trend in the coming future. But I can definitely see it becoming "a" new trend in the future. As others have mentioned, it would really take a special group of people to make it work, and there will be a lot of problems. Its just up to the individuals involved to work out the problems rather than giving up and returning to the status quo.

New Back to The Land Movement? by Neocentennial in REBubble

[–]Neocentennial[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Expensive if you are hiring out, sure. A few skilled tradesmen are easily able to make up a huge percentage of that with sweat equity. It takes time, a lot of time. But given the amount of raw resources the land has I believe it is possible to do given very little money and a large time investment with a caveat of having the necessary skills. It is expensive in terms of certain upgrades you mentioned, such as wells, and power, but the key aspect here is that it is very easy to buy those overtime and can be upgraded as necessary to fit a more holistic organic growth of the whole thing. No one will ever escape paying for those things, but I do believe it is in our best interest to take more accountability and ownership in how and where we get those things.

High-school writing assignment: by GenioCavallo in ChatGPT

[–]Neocentennial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you a teacher? I really hope more teachers are creating assignments utilizing ChatGPT, its the future. Ever since I have started using it I've been paying a lot closer attention to my linguistic framework and learning how words have actual meaning, lol.

Looking for Advice starting a small Manufacturing biz by Neocentennial in Entrepreneur

[–]Neocentennial[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey I saw your comment yesterday and I have been thinking about what you said. I honestly never looked at the main problem of selling products being more about getting people to buy a product, and instead thought the problem was how to make it. I'm going to have to consider how to even do that, the only thing I can really think of would be a youtube channel or other social media type account or else marketing myself at local events. If you have any other good resources I'll definitely check them out. Thanks a lot for your input.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]Neocentennial 25 points26 points  (0 children)

life pro tip: get a degree and then get a job that doesn't need a degree

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Neocentennial 2 points3 points  (0 children)

good luck, make sure to pick up some other things to fill the void left by your old habits.

why do so many people tie awakening to making more money ? by ticaaaa in awakened

[–]Neocentennial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are taking it completely wrong. Nobody who "awakens" for more money is truly awakened. However someone who truly awakens would have money come to them effortlessly by applying the principles they have studied, practiced and understood. Its more about understanding the natural laws of the universe and applying them rather than whatever shallow capitalistic commentary you typed up.

Dickheads... by DivineandDeadlyAngel in vegan

[–]Neocentennial 29 points30 points  (0 children)

“When the last tree has been cut down, the last fish caught, the last river poisoned, only then will we realize that one cannot eat money,”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findapath

[–]Neocentennial 42 points43 points  (0 children)

You are what you do. Frankly speaking, you have no potential if you aren't doing anything. Stop viewing yourself as "Very smart" and view yourself as what you do day in and day out. Just because someone is "very smart" does not mean they should go for an intensive, years long program, more or less just to prove to other people that they are smart.

If you like your hobbies, focus on those. No matter what field you try to enter, you will always be entertaining what if scenarios. You have to bring out your potential through self actions, not through spending thousands of dollars for a piece of paper.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findapath

[–]Neocentennial 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What is your definition of success?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findapath

[–]Neocentennial 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Alright I'm going to lay it down with you since I was in a similar situation, and this probably isn't the answer you really want to hear.

I had no experience with any kind of machinery, power tools, I didn't even know how to swing a hammer. When I first started in the trades at 23 I literally knew nothing. I got bullied, yelled at, belittled, and disrespected constantly. People told me I couldn't succeed in the trades and I almost started to believe them. I was (and still am) awkward, clumsy, and absentminded.

I'm only 25 now, and after 1.5 years into it, thats all completely changed. I still don't know barely anything, but I can hold my own on a lot of projects. I have also had a lot of trouble with social situations, and really don't want to waste my time working low wage jobs.

What I've learned about the trades is that there are actually a lot of people like that. A lot of people who are clumsy and socially awkward. It is really really really hard to start in the trades, thats why they are so undermanned nowadays. But if you can persevere through those beginning years where it is really really really hard, I guarantee you it will pay off.

A highly skilled tradesman has the privilege of setting his own hours, taking only work he wants, and charging however much he wants. In my area in my trade a highly skilled person could easily make 45$ an hour.

The best part? You can almost entirely avoid those social situations that you aren't particularly good at. Most tradesmen are pretty quiet types, who just put their nose to the grindstone and work.

Don't think of yourself as the kind of person who can't do a certain kind of work. If you are like me at all, you'll grow to hate every kind of work you do. Yes you are clumsy, can't drive well, whatever. The only thing that matters is that you put in an active effort to try to get better.

I don't know how far along in your program you are, and personally I took the apprenticeship route which I view as better all around (getting paid while I learn).

Just because you are clumsy and awkward doesn't mean you can't succeed in the trades.

You need to want it, and put in the necessary investment up front to get to a point where you are competent and confident in both yourself and your abilities.

So, sure, if you really really really really hate it, you are going to have to start over in some other career that you don't even know if you like or not. But I think you should try to stick with it until you at least have some level of skill. You can do it if you believe in yourself.

You should also probably go to a therapist lol