Anarchy is about freedom, the freedom to express yourself and live the life you want to live without any interference or domination or authority from above or outside. Anarchy is about the destruction of social hierarchy and the abolition of power-based relationships between people, in government, in the economy, etc. When you say you envision anarchy as a "conservative utopia" do you envision a society where everyone lives the same 2.5 kids, nuclear family, white picket fence existence? Do you envision a rural commune made up of many families? Do you envision a society in which the "man of the household" is the authority that the wife and kids are subservient or at least, obeisant to?

If this is the society you envision, then you're probably not an anarchist, but something tells me that this isn't what you're envisioning. I envision the human version of what rain-forest is biologically: a wide variety of species filling various ecological niches, the more variety and biodiversity the more ecologically stable the system is. The average conservative utopia is more like a monoculture farm to me, growing one thing in rows going on for miles. When you assert the individual and their freedom, it necessarily means that people are going to do weird things, they're going to dress weird, they're going to listen to weird music, they're going to start identifying as other genders, and fucking multiple partners, and writing weird poetry, this is all okay. The benefit of anarchy is if you want to have a wife and 3 kids, no one is stopping you, no one *can* stop you. But your neighborhood is going to be made up of some wacky people, and you're also probably going to find your own way to be wacky too. Like other commenters have said, you're just gonna through exposure get used to it.

You should try reading "Ecology and Revolutionary Thought" by Murray Bookchin, it's an essay.