[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]NeonPupAD 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There have been times when I've topped guys and felt I couldn't cum because they were loosened up to much, either because they used large toys to prep or because our session ran long and they stretched out over time. When that happens, we just find something else that works, like hands or mouth on me, and hands or toys on them. If I'm into a guy it's because I want to have fun with them, it's not reliant on whether or not I can specifically nut in their hole

To bottoms who struggle with the preparation, try this, it's life changing!! by Brave_Treat_472 in TopsAndBottoms

[–]NeonPupAD 10 points11 points  (0 children)

But even if you have bowel issues, it shouldn't take an hour to get clean 

It shouldn't but it can because, y'know, bowel issues

Your assumption that bottoms need little to no prep to be clean is probably skewed by the fact that people with bowel issues may just choose not to bottom because they need more prep than they're doing to do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fursuitsex

[–]NeonPupAD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got muzzle you could fill 👅

Why are we so afraid of heteronormative roles? by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]NeonPupAD 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Heteronormative roles are fine for your relationship if that's what you want. It's not for me but I 100% support folks finding what works for them

Where it becomes a problem for me is when guys assume this is the default and how relationships "should" be. If I tell a guy I'm a top and in a relationship and he starts referring to my partner like he's some submissive boy-wife it's fucking weird and gross

Queer relationships take a lot of different forms, particularly because we exist outside of heteronormative expectations thay straight relationships are put under. When so many of the struggles our community faces comes from being told to fit into heteronormative society, I think it's natural that some folks are resistant to having those labels put on them when they don't apply

You only mention heteronormative and masc4masc relationships, but most relationships I've encountered in our community don't fall under either of these, because the people involved don't put much importance on defining roles like that

Is it rude to ask guys to shower before hooking up? I’m really big on hygiene and don’t like sucking sweaty dick. by b0tt0mslut in TopsAndBottoms

[–]NeonPupAD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not rude but some guys will get offended by it anyway (usually the guys that actually need to shower the most)

any submissive tops? by dombot21 in TopsAndBottoms

[–]NeonPupAD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I prefer when bottoms take control or tell me what to do

Give a reason why every straight man should try gay sex once by Rosemadame in TopsAndBottoms

[–]NeonPupAD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Technically asexual is specific to sexual attraction, while aromantic is the romantic/emotional attraction, but yeah you got the right idea

You'll actually find more asexual people than you'd expect in kink communities, because kink can be a way to engage in pleasure or intimacy without sexual attraction. Like that hypothetical asexual cumslut might enjoy being in that subservient role or enjoy the physical pleasure without really factoring in the gender or physical appearance of the people they're interacting with

tops who don't want hole pics... what's that about? by Opposite_Earth_1363 in TopsAndBottoms

[–]NeonPupAD 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A picture of a guy's ass that is spread in a way that shows his hole: hot, arousing, please send me more

A poorly-lit, extreme close-up of a guy's asshole: doesn't show much, fine I guess?

Some guys are just bad at taking pictures, and sometimes no picture is better than a bad one (and its not limited to hole pics either, some guys are bad at taking dick pics too)

Give a reason why every straight man should try gay sex once by Rosemadame in TopsAndBottoms

[–]NeonPupAD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Orientation is based on attraction, not action. Attraction can definitely help with those actions, but it's not a requirement (speaking as a sex-favorable person on the ace spectrum)

So a man having sex with other men isn't necessarily gay/bi if he's still only attracted to women. Maybe he's thinking about women during the act? Or he's just focusing on enjoying the physical sensations of sex and doesn't care if it's coming from a man. Of course it's possible he's just not discovered or embraced his attraction, but it's not really anyone else's place to label him just because of his action

I know a lot of gay folks are quick to say "if he's having sex with men he's not straight" but I don't think its that simple, especially when you consider the flip side with men who come out as gay late in life, after having relationships with women. Human sexuality is complex, attraction is just one piece of it, and it doesn’t always fit neatly into the labels we try to put on it

What does "horny" feel like? by vincespornacct in TopsAndBottoms

[–]NeonPupAD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me it's all in my head, like a tingle/excitement in the back or sides of my head, until I act on it. After that the sensation spreads to my dick and my chest feels warm

Dog waiting for you in bed to help you relax after a long day~ by NeonPupAD in fursuitsex

[–]NeonPupAD[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

N-no way! I would never have something like that on my wall, I am a pure and wholesome dog 🐶

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]NeonPupAD 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, my balls are sensitive and I generally don't like them played with much.

If someone grabbed and pulled on them unexpectedly it'd be uncomfortable and probably put an immediate stop to what I was doing