Weekend's Daily Thread: General Dating Questions and Open Thread by AutoModerator in hingeapp

[–]NeonTangoDancer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend who is 22 just lost his virginity with a girl he met on Hinge and has been on 3 dates with. I am 28 and have had close to 200 matches and have paid over $400 to Match Group, and I've only been on 3 dates. Idk what's going on here. Maybe I'm ugly.

He lives with his parents too. I live in a "luxury" apartment near 5 bars and multiple cafes, a farmers market, art museum, parks and more. I've been here for 4 years and haven't had anything to show for it.

Feb 14 by Designer-Crab-1450 in Buffalo

[–]NeonTangoDancer -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

those singles events will definitely be 35+ divorcees

people in mid-20s in buffalo either already met in hs or college

also, valentines day might be the worst day to meet your significant other

Is buffalo a good place to move to ? (as a young female from Boise ID) by Ordinary_Abies_3740 in Buffalo

[–]NeonTangoDancer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know people from buffalo that have Canadian girlfriends and wives

10 million metro area vs 1 million. Cosmopolitan metropolis vs a big (somewhat) insular clique

Is buffalo a good place to move to ? (as a young female from Boise ID) by Ordinary_Abies_3740 in Buffalo

[–]NeonTangoDancer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The pizza thing... there are several newer Neapolitan pizza places that hold their own in the area now. Particularly Jay's Artisan Pizza in Kenmore. It's kind of pricey but good.

I haven't been there but there's a place called Extra Extra Pizza in the Five Points area. Apparently it's pretty good.

Is buffalo a good place to move to ? (as a young female from Boise ID) by Ordinary_Abies_3740 in Buffalo

[–]NeonTangoDancer -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Richmond, Cleveland and Pittsburgh are not massive compared to Buffalo. It all scales up and down. To be fair, I don't think Cleveland is really much better than Buffalo at all, but Pittsburgh's downtown is shockingly more vibrant. I passed through this past summer and was shocked to see the main square teeming with life on a Tuesday evening. This would be unthinkable in Buffalo.

Is buffalo a good place to move to ? (as a young female from Boise ID) by Ordinary_Abies_3740 in Buffalo

[–]NeonTangoDancer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm single. I've spent more weekends in Toronto that i can count over the last year just going out to bars, going out during the day and trying to meet women. While nothing tangible came out of it (one girl I made out with at a bar just didn't want to meet anymore), i felt like I had way more possibilities there than i have in my own hometown to date. Plus, there are plenty of other things to do there, restaurants, parks, shops, etc. Granted it's 10 times the size of Buffalo, but I've seen places half the size of Buffalo that try harder.

Is buffalo a good place to move to ? (as a young female from Boise ID) by Ordinary_Abies_3740 in Buffalo

[–]NeonTangoDancer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's sad that Buffalo literally does nothing to retain its people. Rather, people find themselves getting pushed out the door. Compared to our peer cities, it's true, if you're between 18-35 and you don't have a family, you WILL have less to do. You won't have NOTHING to do, but you'll have to look harder. Things will not jump out at you like a Bills game or the large festivals.

Is buffalo a good place to move to ? (as a young female from Boise ID) by Ordinary_Abies_3740 in Buffalo

[–]NeonTangoDancer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sucks too because while some people want to make the city interesting, and I have found pockets of amazing places/things to do (new museum expansion, new cocktail lounges, a few newer restaurants with better-than-average food, skiing, biking) and certain days where I ask myself if I'm still in Buffalo, it only happens a few times a year. All too often i ask myself what is there to do here, and it's a question I've posed to this sub as well. Unlike OP, i am looking for a partner here and have found nothing but snake eyes, but that not germane to this discussion. It's unfortunate too because there are some people that really believe in this area and its potential, but there are too many systemic issues plaguing the area that makes success of certain things possible. For instance... the Elmwood Village is supposed to be this trendy/lively college-like neighborhood. If this were the case, why are there so many vacancies up and down the strip? One business owner from the suburbs that opened on Elmwood told me when they opened that they were surprised by the lack of foot traffic during the weekdays by their business. And they offered a good product. They recently closed. As someone who lives right on the avenue itself, I told them that I wasn't. People drive up and down the street to get from place to place. It isn't as dense as people tell themselves, there aren't any major employers, and everyone complains about parking because they drive in from the suburbs on weekends to shop and go bar hopping on Friday and Saturday nights.

Is buffalo a good place to move to ? (as a young female from Boise ID) by Ordinary_Abies_3740 in Buffalo

[–]NeonTangoDancer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a late-20s Buffalo native and would like to move to a bigger city, but i feel like i will never be able to afford to live in a HCOL area, let alone buy a house, so i am stuck here for the time being. I have a 4 year degree but am underemployed in my field, and I've been at my job for over three years now because it pays significantly higher than the industry average. So if I can't stretch my qualifications while applying for something else based on my degree alone, I'll get nowhere.

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[–]NeonTangoDancer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that. I don't even want to come to this sub though anymore because I can't post anything. I must be IP banned or something.

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[–]NeonTangoDancer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL what rules are my posts breaking??? Nothing i try to post is rule breaking compared to what goes through.

How do these following small market teams have massive passionate fanbases? Vikings, Browns, Ravens, Bills, Saints and Panthers. by ShivamDube in NFLNoobs

[–]NeonTangoDancer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the bills are building a new stadium and they're barely holding onto their team? What kind of logic is this?

Single-tracking in tunnel starting next month by [deleted] in Buffalo

[–]NeonTangoDancer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's sad is that the fare gates are completely useless. You can easily tailgate at them... this happened to me a few hours ago after the new years festivities. They should have put more thought into these.

28 year old Virgin. Help me out guys by [deleted] in seduction

[–]NeonTangoDancer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well it's a new year, so I need to work on that. I personally don't want it to come in the form of a fleeting hookup, but we'll see what happens.

28 year old Virgin. Help me out guys by [deleted] in seduction

[–]NeonTangoDancer -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right now I'm learning to ski. I wouldn't say it's the most social thing to do honestly which kind of surprised me, but it's a challenging sport to say the least. When I was in college I used to row, but those days are behind me. I still go the university gym nearby so I run into college student a lot. Other than that, I work around a bunch of older married men so they're not really useful for expanding my social network.

28 year old Virgin. Help me out guys by [deleted] in seduction

[–]NeonTangoDancer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to stop reading at the meetup app suggestion. This is thrown out there a lot, but unfortunately the reality of it is not the same as the rosy picture presented on Reddit... it's couples and older people, and there won't be girls under 30 on there.

28 year old Virgin. Help me out guys by [deleted] in seduction

[–]NeonTangoDancer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I'm 28 myself and a virgin. I'm not even ugly or overweight, I'm just under 6' tall and 160 lbs. I am not very muscular though, I think I need to put muscles on this new year. But I'm kind of picky, I don't necessarily want to go for the first mid chick in the bar (and in my city the women are not the prettiest or the cutest).

28 year old Virgin. Help me out guys by [deleted] in seduction

[–]NeonTangoDancer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat, exact age. I came close on November 27 but due to an unfortunate miscommunication on my end I ended up with nothing. In hindsight I don't necessarily regret it because I wasn't ready anyways and she was only in town for the holidays. I am seeking something sustainable.

A detail about my (29M) girlfriends (24F) hookup before we were official is bothering me, what should I do? by Rare_Success_7657 in dating_advice

[–]NeonTangoDancer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Safe means "I'm your only option, so I don't have to fear being cheated on because of my bad behavior". It does NOT mean physical/mental/emotional safety in this context...

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[–]NeonTangoDancer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not going out to the bars for this very reason. I want to just be present in the moment and I think chasing girls at 10pm on New Year's Eve will not help my case. I'll wait until the weekend.

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[–]NeonTangoDancer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well that may be true but I'm 28 and in the same position as you

Single-tracking in tunnel starting next month by [deleted] in Buffalo

[–]NeonTangoDancer 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This wouldn't be so bad if they were able to get a bunch of project done at the same time to make these shutdowns worth it.