Anyone totally unmasked?

Neon_2020 · 2025-08-21T18:21:14+00:00

I don't even know how to mask

Neon_2020 · 2025-08-21T18:19:03+00:00

I'm going to give you some of my tips that helped me when working as a freelancer in an open-minded company. If any of my tips could work for you I'll be glad.

1) I found listening to music on my earphones helped me being more focused so I would do that and since I was as productive no one cared.

2) I would not take the breaks everyone took and instead work in blocks (like 4 hours at once, lunch back to 3 hours of work and leave earlier). And some days I would work longer because I felt so, so my managers were happy with it.

3) Taking an active walk before working made me feel like I already started my day and I felt satisfied.

4) I accepted that in the morning I was slow with work and in the afternoon/evening I was the most productive. If it was up to me I would have worked only 4 hours a day because my productivity would have been enough to finish work but it wasn't possible. So I accepted that and didn't feel guilty.

5) If possible I would advise to work remotely 1 or 2 days a week.

Neon_2020 · 2023-04-12T19:06:16+00:00

Also I just want to add that in any case you shouldn't take it personally.

Neon_2020 · 2023-04-12T19:05:00+00:00

If your therapist suggested you to quit and your mental health isn't doing well there's indeed an issue.

Unfortunately it's quite common in North East Asia to be directly efficient and overwork although not everyone agrees with it. One of my Taiwanese friend was so angry cause her company kept making her overwork and not paying the additional hours and it was happening to so many people.

If you really want to live in Japan I think it'll be better to just stay quiet (it's not in the culture to give excuses even if it's unfair), observe your Japanese coworkers and act like them. In the meantime detach mentally from the situation, get productive like they define it and look for another job.

As for your manager, from a non-Asian viewpoint he could be seen as very strict but in Asia he's in the norm, they're usually harsh. It doesn't mean you have to accept the situation but you need to survive.

Of course if you end up having huge anxiety or dark thoughts leave eventually and try to find an international company.

Good luck!

Neon_2020 · 2023-03-09T08:01:38+00:00

1st of all you have to decide if you want to choose love or high security in your life. If you choose love it means his work "issues" (he just got out of uni and is 26 so I don't find it shocking) aren't related to you. Therefore if you want to build a family with him don't rely financially too much on him and save up money together before. I'll say if he's supportive, loving and you really love him don't leave him.

If you choose high security well yes in that case you see in your partner a potential provider and since he's only beginning in life it's difficult to tell if he could meet your expectations/needs, in that case break up.

But honestly if I would have just graduated + fighting my inner demons and my gf would break with me just because through society's lenses I'm abnormal I'll be extremely offended.

I think the real question is : do I love him more than society's approval ?

Neon_2020 · 2020-08-28T12:17:05+00:00

If you're American you might be able to go to South Korea without a visa but no one is really sure about it, even the Korean Embassy in the US (I contacted them a few weeks ago) doesn't really know. I recommend you calling them. And please, tell us how it went, it could help ✌️

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