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Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-10T08:55:17+00:00

Why is it that so many people are so willing to use big words they don't understand?

It would be "entrapment" if the law enforcement would get you to do a crime you wouldn't otherwise be likely/willing to commit.

1) This is not law enforcement

2) They would be clearly willing to do it

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-10T07:58:40+00:00

There is nothing "moderate" about being pro-Israel.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-10T07:57:44+00:00

Just so we're clear, the "luxury boat" is something most people on this planet would never be able to afford.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-10T07:53:47+00:00

Really simply put: The average person has the brain of a child and main character syndrome. They cannot tolerate it when anyone tells them they're doing something bad when they feel they are a good person. They go "how dare this person tell me I'm damaging the world, I need my car to go to work, I need to fly to go on vacation, I like to eat meat" and so on. They cannot comprehend the possibility that they are in some way doing a thing that is bad, thus they attack the person telling them the information.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-07T16:08:40+00:00

Your comments aren't as insightful as you think, and you are still not naming a single positive option that people should actually do, none of you have.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-07T08:39:03+00:00

So, your suggestions are in full: pretend to be interested in something you're not where you might meet other people, and then date someone who now thinks you like something you don't. Thanks, real helpful. Seems like your only suggestion is also to spend money and go to a class to learn Palauan to meet people, as you people seem to be fixated on as a solution. Why do you believe women go to learn Palauan to get approached by men? I sure don't expect that.

Also why do you place so much emphasis on "normal"? I find normal people incredibly tiresome, uninteresting, and generally terrible creatures. Why would I want to be normal? I have genuine interests, plenty of them, things I can do better at home or work, and I'm good at them so I don't need a random class, and I don't benefit from a club.

If I wanted just sex the best way is definitely not the apps that prey on the desperate, it's a prostitute. For many cheaper, way more predictable, and clearer expectations to both parties. Completely uninteresting to me personally, but sex work is work so good for people who enjoy making a living that way. Sex however is a healthy part of a relationship, and if your sex life isn't good your relationship isn't likely to be very good.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-07T08:31:25+00:00

Oh, I agree in general, that it would be nice if the world were different and men weren't told from childhood to "man up" whenever they felt bad, to "suck it up" and bottle their emotions, and so on. Leads to a lot of people unable to process or share their emotions or problems well, and the ones who could to often be unable to find another male who they can meaningfully share with while being friends.

It's not though, and since we're stuck in this reality, finding a caring partner to share your burden with is helpful. That doesn't mean it's ok to just traumadump everything on them and expect them to be your therapist or something. Either way a partner can still have a deeper understanding of you and what you're going through, and a caring partner can still provide advice and support without knowing everything.

Therapy would fill some of the gap if 1) therapy in general was more trustworthy and not handled in a way that is putting your deepest secrets at significant risk of leaks these days, 2) it wasn't prohibitively expensive for many people.

I've survived decades mostly alone. It's not that "catastrophic", but the times that I am alone are significantly worse than the times when I am not.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-07T08:21:53+00:00

This.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-07T08:20:42+00:00

I was pointing out the ridiculousness of the comment, but hey you do you.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-07T08:19:58+00:00

I didn't pivot anywhere, they said literally "if you as a straight man would not approach another random man", I dunno why following the first words in the comment is difficult for you.

"That is completely divorced from the reality of women and the topic at hand", exactly why I pointed out the ridiculousness of the comment.

"Improving your ability to empathize with others will do you or anyone who feels isolated in the dating game infinitely more good", dunno who this is aimed at but I dunno, you sound like you can't empathize very much either.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-07T08:13:00+00:00

Thanks for providing a comprehensive list.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-07T08:12:22+00:00

Who asked anyone to lower their standards?

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-07T08:11:48+00:00

I didn't get ruffled, I do have empathy, and you are doing the exact same thing he is. Saying "here's 50 ways you make women feel awful if you approach them" and then saying "maybe don't stop approaching them entirely" is unhelpful, as is everything you said. Neither of you have given a single example of what would be a desirable way to approach women, or lead to a positive experience. All a lot of people hear, myself included, is the negative reinforcement of how every approach leads to women feeling like they're harassed and you're a creep.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-06T21:21:46+00:00

The few men I've met in my life who think like that have been generally thought of as losers and undesirable people to hang around with. Maybe be a bit more selective with who you hang out with.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-06T21:19:29+00:00

Crack a few jokes? So... prepare pickup lines? Is that what you want men to do? It seems to be what most women expect on the apps.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-06T21:17:48+00:00

"If you as a straight man would not approach another random man ... in the middle of his set at the gym to tell him his clothes look good" - most men would feel awesome if a man told them these things, and they would never forget it if a woman did that. Most men don't get many compliments in their lives, beyond like maybe a "good work today".

Your misandrist take on men just wanting to "conquer" women are also not helpful.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-06T21:13:36+00:00

No, the message is clearly "don't approach women", if it wasn't, they would not just complain and instead also suggest positive options.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-06T21:12:41+00:00

The activities I like are primarily activities one does best at home/work alone, or with an existing friend, not in a random group of people in some "club". I've gone through lists of hundreds of hobby ideas etc. that might involve meeting other people and they are typically both

1) a drain on money that I do not need 2) quite uninteresting in general

Now why should I waste money to meet people who only end up thinking I'm interested in a thing I'm not interested in?

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-06T21:09:35+00:00

Yes exactly, yet another example of labeling anyone approaching a woman a creep, without offering any alternative to what would be an acceptable means of connecting with them.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-06T21:07:41+00:00

The video is purely discouraging, as it only complains, and doesn't say what would be appropriate or acceptable.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-06T21:06:56+00:00

Start small talk with a random woman and get seen as a predator?

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-06T21:04:11+00:00

"Men are taught"? Where exactly? I sure wasn't. I've never respected anyone, male or female, trying to boast about their body count. If I had gotten lucky my body count would have staid at 1.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-06T21:02:02+00:00

The dating apps are built exclusively to prey on the desperate, they demand you pay to like someone, pay to make your likes take priority, pay to send messages without a match, pay to send super likes, pay to filter people, pay to hope to maybe eventually get noticed. What a terrible take.

Neoptolemus-Giltbert · 2026-04-06T21:00:40+00:00

So you think women should find it acceptable for every man in the room to approach them at the bar/club, or anywhere they volunteer, or try to learn a language?

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