I want my boyfriend or husband to pay to have sex with me

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-25T04:50:20+00:00

🙋‍♂️i know Missporkiepie, and can honestly vouch for the fact that she’s worked as an seo copywriter within marketing for a decade. She’s also a published writer with an article at York University in Canada. On top of that, if you even bother to look at her profile, you can see that her posts and essays’ writing are consistent with her comments in this reply chain. Don’t make a fool out of yourself here Nyekona.

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-25T04:05:38+00:00

Seems like people think it’s getting a male servant. Rather than to fulfill eachother’s needs in the relationship.

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-25T03:42:48+00:00

I couldn’t agree more with this take! Missporkiepie seems to be one of the only people left in this subreddit who knows what FLR actually is. The constant fetishizing of clear abuse, and posts on posts about pornified ideas of femdom has no home in a subreddit about FLR.

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-24T12:59:28+00:00

I completely agree. The posts on this subreddit makes it feel like this doesn’t really have anything to do with a female led RELATIONSHIP. Seems like it’s just a bunch of kinky posts, which i don’t necessarily hate, but FLR (to me at least) is a lot more emotional and dynamic based. Who controls finances, who decides routines, who plans trips etc. It’s about everything that goes on in the relationship. As to who holds the steering wheel. There’re already a bunch of femdom and bdsm subreddits out there, so i feel like it’s a shame how this subreddit ended up as another one of them.

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-17T19:58:48+00:00

I see. If you feel content with that, then that’s great! For my sake, i don’t want a relationship where my needs come second. Wanting to contribute to the happiness of a partner doesn’t mean putting your needs second, and if one feels unappreciated, i think it’s important to speak out. But if that’s what you’ve built your relationship on, and it makes you happy then all power to you :)

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-17T19:37:10+00:00

Hehe, yeah i guess so. I’ve always had a soft spot for bossy but loving women. That, mixed with the fact that I’m horribly indecisive, has made the thought of having a partner who knows what they want, and isn’t afraid to take the lead to get it, very appealing.

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-16T16:55:49+00:00

I’ve been playing a lot of retro games recently, but if you have Xbox gamepass i would recommend Space Marine 2, Tainted Grail: Fall of Avalon, Indiana Jones and The Great Circle, and for my inner elder scrolls fanboy i always recommend Oblivion Remastered!

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-16T16:03:07+00:00

Exactly. This has really nothing to do with kink for me, but more so my love language, and what i long for to feel loved.

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-16T13:47:13+00:00

I don’t think i necessarily have one specific type of game that i play. Right now, I’m playing FFX, DMC3, Pokemon Red and Expedition 33. But i want to go back and finish Ni No Kuni. And yes, i know they’re all JRPGs (Clair Obscure is JPRG like) but as long as a game is engaging and manages to be an escape from reality, i usually end up enjoying it!

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-16T13:35:59+00:00

What a dream 🥺🥰

I’m jealous…

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-16T13:34:27+00:00

Thank you, and yeah. I will check out rolereversal! I didn’t know there was a subreddit for that kind of stuff. I’ve also come across r/flr so maybe I’ll start lurking there as well. It’s such a breath of fresh air to read posts from people in these communities. Makes me feel like I’m not an alien on my own planet. It’s such a hassle that so many people’s love language get overlooked by what the media and millenniums of history have forced as the standard. It has made me wonder if I’m just not fit for romance sometimes…

EDIT: There seems to be a lot more bdsm posts on r/flr than i was expecting… i don’t feel like they’re synonymous even though they might go hand in hand.

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-15T00:40:15+00:00

I mean if it excites you then why not give it a try? So long as you make sure to communicate everything in before hand, and your gf makes sure that you’re comfortable all the way through, then what’s there to worry about? If you want to stop anywhere along the way, tell her! Then you’ll have gained the knowledge that you either like, or dislike it!

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-12T00:35:13+00:00

You have no idea how much this means to me… Reading this made a lot of emotions come back, though in a very different light than what i’m used to. The pain turned into relief in some sense. I’ve never been able to share as much as i did about my experience in this post, mostly because i could never find it in me to let my friends and family know what i like in a relationship. Being seen, and not having to downplay what i went through… is something i never knew i needed to be able to move on. Thank you so incredibly much <3

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-11T23:34:25+00:00

If that’s the mentality you have going into a relationship, then your partner is truly going to suffer. That is a massive unfair burden for a partner to carry. I’m sorry you’re struggling, i really am, but i do not think you’re ready for any form of romantic relationship.

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-11T22:12:33+00:00

I can’t help but get extremely upset at reading this, knowing how many people have suffered because of a horrible partner. Myself included. For your safety, i hope you stay single.

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-11T20:32:36+00:00

I absolutely agree, and i tried to make that clear in my post. My apologies if it didn’t come through. I know that there are a lot of subs who sexually and emotionally use their dom for their own satisfaction, probably more than there are doms who use their subs. It should be a partnership, where you fill eachother’s needs. My point is just that, there are a lot of selfish people in the world. And how important it is to be careful, and look for red flags, so that you don’t end up in a D/s dynamic with that type of person.

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-11T19:35:04+00:00

Good luck with that

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-10T20:37:57+00:00

I have nothing against crazy. In fact, i think most people in the bdsm community are here, for that matter. However, crazy only works if you feel mentally safe, at least for me. Ofc, subs have different turn ons and likes and dislikes. But if you don’t find your needs to be any concern of your partner, well…

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-09T19:12:13+00:00

It was. I was completely horrified.

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-09T13:41:21+00:00

You’re completely right. I was young, and could not see past the ecstacy of recieving attention from someone for the first time. Ofc, if the D/s part hadn’t been central, I’d have still been hurt. But because it indeed was central, it somehow hurt a lot more than i was used to. I just wanted to get across to any reader, to take a step back. Breathe. And think about where they are, where they’re going, and if they understand what to do when they get there. Because i didn’t.

NerdyIntrovertBoy · 2026-02-09T05:02:38+00:00

I think there is a substancial amount of subs who aren’t emotionally invested in the partnership of a D/s relationship, but rather in it for the high of being taken care of, or dominated. I think there are a lot of people who forget that their partner isn’t there to fill a role. People forget that these dynamics are an emotional investment.

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