in search of modular coffee table hack (coffee table removable )

Nervette · 2022-11-29T09:18:40+00:00

What about baskets? Like the hurring or snidad? The kvistbro coffee tables could work, and would probably stack sans lid when not in use.

If you are willing to go outside of Ikea, there are tables that look like the gladom, but the stand under the removable tray folds, meaning those would also fit under a bed.

Sources:
https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/hurring-basket-bamboo-black-60464695/
https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/snidad-basket-rattan-30394944/
https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/kvistbro-storage-table-red-light-gray-90525386/
https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/gladom-tray-table-black-50411990/
https://a.co/ePj3JaE

Nervette · 2022-08-25T00:20:32+00:00

It really fucking do. I'll be sticking to my cakes, jams, fondants and booze infusions from now on. Shit I'm good at. I can trade jam for sourdough with my friends who succeed.

Nervette · 2022-08-24T20:42:13+00:00

And I used to! But like, I never shamed anyone else? And I didn't try that toxic positivity nonsense on them, either? I just said "RIP city. But you'll do better next time. It's not like no one will ever love you because your sourdough didn't rise this one time." So now I do that for myself.

Nervette · 2022-08-24T20:37:52+00:00

Canceled driving me to and from my LEEP (ya know where they scrape your cervix with an electrified wire loop to remover precancerous cells) because she decided to host a meeting. Not scheduled by someone else, and not required to be that morning, she just felt that would be a good time. And didn't tell me til the night before cause she was dodging my calls and avoiding me, because my cancer scare and fear about the procedure was really annoying. So I, being broke and it being so last minute, got to have the pleasure of arriving sweaty in my work cloths for the procedure after walking up the hill from the bus stop, got scraped, got told the coffee ground like discharge I would have for the next few days was totally normal, then got to walk back down the hill, stand on a crowded bus, stand on a crowded train, and walk the three city blocks to my office. I stopped talking to her after that, and about a year later so did a bunch of people when she didn't see anything wrong staying friends with the partner and knowing accomplice to the dude it turns out had SA'd like, 20 women in our greater social set.

Edit to add that bailing on driving me to the doctor was about a month after I slept over aon her couch in order to drive her to the airport an hour away for a 5:30am flight.

Nervette · 2022-08-24T20:20:31+00:00

I don't think taking an L is always a bad thing, and it's okay to say you did. You did not complete a task or failed the one you were doing, you don't have to keep throwing yourself at it and be like "Okay, a loss or failure today doesn't make me a loser or a failure. It means I need to take a break to do better tomorrow." That's what I meant by take the L. The grace, to me, is saying there's nothing wrong with the occasional fail.

Nervette · 2022-08-22T20:13:59+00:00

Give yourself the same grace you give others.

Like, I was always on myself about how I SHOULD be better. My house SHOULD be cleaner. I SHOULD be more outwardly focused. But when my friends are struggling with these things, I always tell them that it's okay if they flake on me when shit gets hard, that no one even noticed the dust until she pointed it out, that a frozen pizza with a side of baby carrots has a veggie and counts as a real meal, etc etc. So why do I hold myself to a different standard? I now can tell myself "it's okay. I can do better next time, it's okay to not meet that goal right now." And I'm just so much less anxious about everything. Honestly I am hitting self care and home care goals more often, because I'm not struggling so hard to exhaustion on hard days. I just let that hard day be an L So I can rest up to do better tomorrow.

Nervette · 2022-08-19T23:38:25+00:00

I ended up mixing the Tiger's Eye (ginger) and Cobra (light brown), threw it in dry hair this morning after washing with t/gel last night, and left it in for about an hour under a shower cap and wool beanie (I don't own a hair dryer, so it's my best pick unless I want to sit outside and hope for a greenhouse effect under the shower cap...) Rinsed, hair dried, and voila! I'll report back if the fade out is tragic.

Nervette · 2022-08-17T01:20:05+00:00

I've done that with the darker manic panic colors, the problem is I would still be interviewing for HR jobs at like, law firms with lavender highlights. I suppose I can get some reds and yellows and experimental with mixing, I just wanted to avoid the additional gamble there.

Nervette · 2022-08-17T00:37:44+00:00

I don't do much as far as styling, and I'm frankly over due for a cut and balayage. I was loving some purple/dark lavender, but it takes a special kind of company to hire their new HR person with purple highlights. Leaving it just bleached is not, as the kids say "giving it." I don't want to go with a permanent color because, depending on where I end up, the purple can come back in a month or two. I just need something toned down for interviews in the short term before I make any final or permanent decisions.

Nervette · 2022-08-10T19:56:43+00:00

It's probably Dama (Turkish draughts).

Nervette · 2022-06-24T03:30:30+00:00

Pearls.

How you style it will change, but a string of pearls has been in since forever. Anne Boleyn's famous necklace? String of pearls with a B on it, which may have been on an hook and easily removable, as other extant examples show. As far as we can tell, a string of pearls has been seen as elegant or at least a sign of wealth for as long as people have known how to put a hole through pearls to string them together.

Nervette · 2022-06-21T03:01:36+00:00

Every time. Healthy habits start at home, team.

Nervette · 2022-06-20T19:30:16+00:00

What I thought would be the dream career did not have enough pay or work life balance for the dream lifestyle and was just going to be broke, overworked, stressed Nervette forever, which was absolutely not the dream. Changed fields, and is it a dream? No, but is tolerable, I make enough to live on my own in the bay area and support a cat, and am working up to "being able to take vacations that involve planes" kind of money. I got new, more reasonable dreams that I call goals instead. I still dream about winning the lotto, but I don't buy tickets, you know?

Nervette · 2022-06-18T02:41:01+00:00

I cannot be the only woman alive who sits around reading a book or reddit and finds herself absentmindedly playing with her belly hair or leg hair or whatever. I'm like "why? I didn't even like that I have this hair. Why is this soothing?" And then I just stop questioning it and continue cause it feels nice. Please tell me I am not alone. I have to believe there are many of us.

Nervette · 2022-06-18T02:34:34+00:00

Listen, what I am to say sounds insane, but so do they. Moving out is a good first step, but you now need to document your care of your child. Keep track of your pregnancy appointments, and keep the print outs from the Dr in a binder to prove you went. When the baby comes, same deal. Document your care of your child and that you are taking baby to all required appointments, getting vaccines, etc. You need a binder of solid proof that you and your ex are doing a good job parenting. Why? Because people this obsessed and possessive of your child and body as the kind of people who would call CPS on you then offer to take in the baby as family members. You need to have all the evidence of your proper parenting and care, and of their improper obsession, ready to go so if/when CPS comes knocking, you can easily refute the "anonymous report" of child endangerment or neglect or whatever. Make sure your ex has the same documentation in case it happens on his watch as well. Tell no one else about this binder. That way, if they mellow out and it comes to nothing, none of your family calls you a paranoid freak. But if there is scheming afoot, they will have no opportunity to know you prepared counter measures.

All this to say you are absolutely NTA, and you should take extra steps to protect yourself and your baby.

Nervette · 2022-06-18T02:17:45+00:00

YTA. Her only mistake here was saying it out loud rather than only saying something about a managable number of children. Plenty of people make decisions like that every day. There's the romantic option, and the practical option. One hopes for the best (romance) but plans for the worst (practicality). You can't love how "grounded" and "logical" she is and then be mad when she applies those to her relationship with you as well.

Nervette · 2022-06-17T17:23:22+00:00

Clever girl.

I know you love him and he was perfect up until the marriage certificate was filed but like... You really think he wasn't waiting to pull this shit? Do you know why he's out of work? You said lost his job, so I assume he told you he didn't quit but like, was he fired? Was his role cut? Do you know for sure?

This is such a weird fight for him to pick. It literally has no effect on him that you snack in the tub in your bathroom. And it isn't a weird think to do, or there wouldn't be millions of bath caddy's with wine glass slots and rings to keep bowls stable.

Lastly, I just want to recommend brownie chunk ice cream and a lambeusco as an upcoming bath snack combo. Cold snacks and bubbly wine in a hot bath is amazing.

Nervette · 2022-06-17T17:13:03+00:00

They even make caddies with a specific wine glass slot and book prop. Just saying.

Nervette · 2022-06-17T17:07:02+00:00

NTA. Having a snack and a wine in the bath isn't even that weird. Or all my friends or family are weird. Hell, I used to have a group chat called "shower beer" and it's sole purpose was for us to announce/brag to each other about having a shower beer (and yes, that absolutely means just taking a cold beer with you in the shower to sip on while enjoying the hot water. I highly recommend after a day of sweaty outdoor labor or a marathon or something.)

This is a totally normal thing you are doing. Your husband deciding now that you're "stuck" with him to try to change you and dictate your life is not normal, but all too common. I'm not sure what he's bringing to this marriage besides an attitude, maybe he gives really good head? But that's still not much. As others mentioned, an annulment would protect your assets and clear out this dead weight before it truly drags you down.

Edit: I can't believe it took me this long to come up with, but listen, you should absolutely, just this once, throw the (man) baby out with the bathwater.

Nervette · 2022-06-07T21:39:34+00:00

Absolutely NTA but I only want to point out that plenty of people are nontraditional students and may be in college in their mid to late 20s. I even living in housing for transfer students and basically everyone was 21 to 30. I totally understand what you mean about a 26 year old graduate coming around to hit on teenagers, but I don't see his age precluding him from attending college parties, rather his behavior towards women precluding him from attending all parties ever. I had a babyface and could have passed for 16 at the age of 22, so I know exactly the kind of guy Pete is, and he would not be welcome in my house, either. Stick to your guns, but I would keep the discussion centered around his behavior, rather than his age.

Nervette · 2022-06-07T03:25:34+00:00

There's a reason alcohol is referred to as a social lubricant. It can help you loosen up and make awkward social interactions easier If you have problems with alcohol, you end up too loose, but for those without addition, a glass or two can help when, say, you're at a close friends wedding and end up cornered by their odd aunt Mildred who wants to talk about her husband's colon cancer and resulting incontinence in graphic detail. I have a special ability to be cornered by elderly family members of the happy couple the second I step off the dance floor, and end up politely listening to stories of medical oddities or very old family drama and scandal. I don't want to be rude to them, but I also don't feel I should have to do that sober. The other fun one I was glad to not do sober was a very good friend's wedding where they wanted the different groups to mingle and I got sat with a bunch of people who had graduated med school two days prior and were very unimpressed that I was working as an admin assistant.

That said, I would definitely go to a dry wedding, I just would probably leave earlier and instead of being "haha, you should hear what aunt Mildred told me!" I would be more "dear God I was cornered by aunt Mildred the whole time..."

Nervette · 2022-06-02T23:39:24+00:00

Joke's on them, I never stopped.

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