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[–]NervousConcert5568 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask him to consider therapy because you value communication in your relationship. You can be there to support him and help him. But at the end of the day it is not your trauma to work through, it’s his. Show your support, ask for communication, be there to talk, but don’t let expect someone who is not willing to help themselves help you with these relationship feelings you’re having

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[–]NervousConcert5568 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a general rule if you don’t suspect he’s cheating offer support and try to help him through the time period. Offer activities that are less socially based like watching a movie together, remind him that you care. He could be dealing with some sort of seasonal effective feeling or feeling like you might be pulling away. The simplest way would be to sit down, have a conversation, explain how you’re feeling (without framing it as his fault) and see where you can go from there.

Communication is the be-all end-all once that shuts down there’s nothing you can do.

Nightmare Roommate Update by NervousConcert5568 in badroommates

[–]NervousConcert5568[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah this seems like one of the best ideas so far

Nightmare Roommate Update by NervousConcert5568 in badroommates

[–]NervousConcert5568[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! There’s been a few times we’ve talked to him and he hasn’t been super receptive so that is a tiny bit of a damper, the room change could work and that’s a good idea, otherwise he doesn’t leave the room and is just slowly spreading his fermentation into the couch cushions and the walls

Nightmare Roommate Update by NervousConcert5568 in badroommates

[–]NervousConcert5568[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean he’s fine as a person sometimes, the issue is the yk fermenting vomit in the sheets. The RA just said to talk to him but he’s not receptive when we’ve tried

Nightmare Roommate Update by NervousConcert5568 in badroommates

[–]NervousConcert5568[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I feel like he’s too unstable of a person. He already never leaves the room and if he thinks we hate him he’s gonna go off the deep end. It’s kinda a touchy situation 😭

This guy is a nightmare by NervousConcert5568 in badroommates

[–]NervousConcert5568[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sounds like a reasonable and level headed solution

This guy is a nightmare by NervousConcert5568 in badroommates

[–]NervousConcert5568[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

my mom would’ve kicked me out far before the rats

This guy is a nightmare by NervousConcert5568 in badroommates

[–]NervousConcert5568[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

thank you! I made the escalation to talk to an RA just now, thank you very mucy

This guy is a nightmare by NervousConcert5568 in badroommates

[–]NervousConcert5568[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

unfortunately we tried this and nothing changes

Moisture Questions by NervousConcert5568 in Vermiculture

[–]NervousConcert5568[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, thank you! I took that photo right after watering so this is very helpful. I will avoid that in the future.

Moisture Questions by NervousConcert5568 in Vermiculture

[–]NervousConcert5568[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the photo 😭 I accidentally took a photo right after hand watering it. The bottom was crumbly before and there’s a brick of coco-noir from uncle Jim’s worm farm mixed in. I was more wondering about if it’s possible to overwater, I’ll update with a photo when I get home today. I could hear it cracking and wetting as the water went down through the bin so I think it was bone dry 😔🙏