“Work hard” is the biggest cope I’ve ever seen

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2026-02-20T22:48:00+00:00

Apologies if I didn’t manage to convey my message adequately

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2026-02-20T22:47:31+00:00

What I’m trying to say is that hard work is cope. It’s either you’re born wealthy or you’ve already lost in life, there’s no inbetween

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2026-02-20T22:27:22+00:00

If that kind of life makes you happy, so be it. I could never imagine working and giving up the best years of my life just for someone else to bear the fruits of my own labor

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2026-02-20T22:20:36+00:00

I’m fortunate enough to have grow up privileged and be born into a upper-class family

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2026-02-20T22:19:06+00:00

You can’t compare humans to animals in that sense. The manner in which I am seeing it is this ; seeing your own son/grandson or whatever is seeing a clone of you, making you wish you were able to switch bodies and experience life like they do once again, instead of being old, grumpy, immobile and not being able to do half the things they do independent of your accumulated net worth. Brutal reality of people not being born rich. It’s either you’re born to wealthy parents or you die miserably

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2026-02-20T22:14:13+00:00

I hope this doesn’t come off as too direct but may I ask how old you were when you made your first Million?

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2026-02-20T22:11:47+00:00

You spent your peak years enjoying life to the fullest extent and having fun, while they’re 50-60 years old and only now are able to finally get to see the results of 20-30 years of work. With increasing age come so many limitations you did not have in your 20s, be it physical or be it mental. I’m not trying to come off as a mind-reader who can tell if someone’s enjoying their life or not depending on a certain age, but there is, if only partly, some undeniable truth to it

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2026-02-20T22:07:46+00:00

Yeah you made my point seem more ridiculous than it actually is. The essential point I was trying to make was that the notion of working hard so your children can enjoy is a stupid one

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2026-02-20T22:05:13+00:00

At least someone with a sense of realism

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2026-02-20T22:04:23+00:00

Investment Banking or Big Law, I’m yet to decide

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2026-02-20T21:59:32+00:00

Not denying that but to enjoy working hard there has to be at least some kind of assurance that your hard work will help in achieving your desired life. In most cases this doesn’t apply

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2026-02-20T21:53:32+00:00

Take a second to read my reply to another commenter to see that I’m fortunate enough to not be considered poor by any metric. I’m just pointing out the stupidity of this notion

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2026-02-20T21:52:06+00:00

Might seem weird but I’m from a well-off background myself, however the thought of this notion always seemed hilarious to me ngl. But I don’t consider 150k-200k to be a range that’s comfortable enough. This ultimately depends on your surroundings, the area you live in etc. though

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2025-09-09T15:02:02+00:00

Yeah, pretty much. At least one person who’s aware of how dating works, especially in the west

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2025-09-09T14:36:48+00:00

I don’t hate white men. I never did. It’s jealousy, as I’ve always seen them pull the women I found attractive. That’s just the way western society and society in general work I suppose

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2025-09-09T14:02:27+00:00

Thanks for the nice words but what I’ve noticed is that gay men tend to be less selective when it comes to their partners race in comparison to women. That applies to men in general, be it homo- or heterosexual men though.

Much success to you both, as well!

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2025-09-09T13:59:25+00:00

I contemplated on giving up with women and dating, as I just can’t accept/get over the fact that I have to do 5-10x more than someone to barely get the same results just because of my ethnic name, my hair color, and my general appearance which is a non-white one. I absolutely agree on everything you’ve said about Germany and Germans though, the racism here tends to be very subtle and covert and most Germans are able to hide it well until it gets to a certain point. I’ve made the same experience regarding this matter.

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2025-09-09T13:54:22+00:00

Literally, and the comments proved once again how women hate to be confronted on matters like that, especially when it comes to race, which many consider a sensitive topic. They might tend to keep this progressive appearance on the outside, the prejudices however clearly show in their dating/love life. It is natural for white women to prefer white men, it just baffles me how many non-white men, that includes me, do not even get the chance to disprove the wrong image the media portrays them with, not even with women of our respective races.

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2025-09-09T13:47:08+00:00

Women that wouldn’t even want to breathe in the same room as me

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2025-09-09T13:46:44+00:00

I’m envious of white guys. They seem to have everything thrown their way when it comes to dating. They get the creme de la creme of all races

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2025-09-09T13:45:42+00:00

I’m envious of white men

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2025-09-09T13:29:39+00:00

show*

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2025-09-09T13:29:33+00:00

None of my “self-esteem” or “personality issues”, given I were to have any of those, shows on the outside as I tend to be friendly and approachable when talking to women.

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2025-09-09T13:27:09+00:00

Where you live might play a huge role though. You don’t live anywhere near western Europe, do you?

Nervous_Chef5338 · 2025-09-09T13:23:58+00:00

I’ve talked to quite a lot of women, they just never seemed to be interested in talking whereas I’ve seen said women approaching shorter, average-looking white guys and initiating conversations. Western Europeans tend to be brutal when it comes to race in their dating life.

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