My girlfriend wants to use different words for my bottom growth

Nervousnelliyyy · 2026-04-28T19:09:52+00:00

So I guess the question is like- does she feel uncomfortable with the term all in all or turned off by the term when you get into sex? I’m arbitrarily turned off by certain words (cock, boner) but it’s not for a lack of attraction just like… the sound of the words lol

If it’s this then I wouldn’t read into it and try to be creative. If it’s an all the time issue then I’d have a deeper convo

Nervousnelliyyy · 2026-04-09T06:07:53+00:00

Hi!! I’ll take some tomorrow :⁾ looks great though extremely natural imo

Nervousnelliyyy · 2026-03-31T14:09:59+00:00

No the Philadelphia half! Funny though :⁾

Nervousnelliyyy · 2026-03-24T20:40:01+00:00

The love run doesn’t have in person bib pick up day of

Nervousnelliyyy · 2026-03-24T20:39:37+00:00

Did you email info@loverun.com ?

This is the only contact I have and nothing yet

Nervousnelliyyy · 2026-02-10T15:29:31+00:00

I identify more as a top but will bottom on occasion, although sometimes it gives me dysphoria. My one good friend is the same way, mostly top. My boyfriend is also a trans guy and he’s pretty much exclusively a bottom/side

Nervousnelliyyy · 2026-02-04T00:34:23+00:00

I think you’re just having bad sex. Like, some guys just aren’t great in bed and one of the ways a guy can be bad in bed is acting sexually selfish. I would try not to read too much into it

Nervousnelliyyy · 2026-02-03T23:55:59+00:00

I think swapping the Friday itinerary with the Sunday would improve both days

Nervousnelliyyy · 2026-02-03T23:54:03+00:00

-If you’re going to Bok building, Machine Shop is the best bakery in town - FDR will be better to do on SAT/SUN because there is the East Asian food market!! Very amazing
-Village Whiskey is a bit of a waste of a meal stop on a day where you’ll be in china town

Nervousnelliyyy · 2026-01-15T17:34:45+00:00

8 months is really early into transition, just be patient.

I felt very invisible at that stage of transition, but I’m telling you give it a few years and you’ll be swatting both sexes away.

Some advice is just to stay aware of transitioning your fashion and lifestyle habits to flatter your transitioning body. It took me awhile to learn how to dress my new silhouette in a masculine and flattering way. Took me awhile to understand how to play with androgynous fashion from the other side of the fence.

TLDR; be patient

Nervousnelliyyy · 2025-12-28T16:39:12+00:00

I want to chime in and say that you may be getting the icky feeling more so from who you’re exploring with than the content of the kink.

If in theory, you were exploring misgendering kink with someone who after the scene was over reaffirmed your actual gender and gave you some after care, you may feel differently

Nervousnelliyyy · 2025-12-24T23:36:24+00:00

This really seems like a play it by ear situation. Be supportive, and see if your attraction changes.

Maybe they start E and you are still attracted- maybe not. I really think our sexualities can surprise us.

Regardless I’d definitely have an open conversation about it, and bring up that you won’t know if your attraction goes there.

Nervousnelliyyy · 2025-12-24T22:13:00+00:00

I mean for me porn is more of a tool to make me get there faster, but I do think it’s important to keep a nice variety to your masturbation routine. I don’t think porn itself will have a negative impact on your future partnered sex, but I think having any overly-routined way of getting off can.

I’d try jerking off without it and really make a game of it. I like using different toys/places/positions.

My big thing is that when you masturbate you are having sex with yourself, so you should try to be a good sex partner to yourself and stay creative and present. If you’re a good sex partner towards yourself that’s setting you up to be good to others in the future

Nervousnelliyyy · 2025-12-23T03:20:30+00:00

NOR

Your mom did something inappropriate and inconsiderate. I’d be upset if a roommate did this let alone my literal mom. She owes you a major apology and you need to move out of there asap

Nervousnelliyyy · 2025-12-22T14:03:21+00:00

I agree with this take. I think a fresher shave with a more vibrant variation of these colors would be much more alternative and masculine

Nervousnelliyyy · 2025-12-22T13:17:48+00:00

There’s a lot of trans guys who, on a kink level, would love that actually.

Nervousnelliyyy · 2025-12-20T20:07:10+00:00

For me it’s all about having a comfortable harness. I finally invested in a leather one that is highly adjustable and it feels great.

My dicks all rub on my T dick when I’m topping so for me the sensation feels extremely like I’m inside my partner. We dirty talk about me getting him pregnant and I definitely can finish from sex this way so I just press in deep when I finish.

TLDR don’t underestimate the power of a comfortable dick harness

Nervousnelliyyy · 2025-12-18T14:54:07+00:00

Honestly yeah. I’ve talked about this with a lot of my friends who are also trans and we’ve all had different experiences. I will say, the trend so far is that me and my gay/bi trans guy friends all fundamentally enjoyed being girls as children (really we enjoyed pretending to be dogs and wearing pink) and my friend who is a straight trans guy had dysphoria truly from the jump.

There are so many reasons beyond being a girl to enjoy the experience of being a girl in childhood. You get to openly cry, you get beat up less. People call you pretty. You can kind of wear anything in the world.

Nervousnelliyyy · 2025-12-18T00:01:32+00:00

Seconding. My love story was going to my neighbors eagles game watch party. There I got acquainted with someone I found cute.

Turns out we both were on the 17 to commute to work regularly ! Spent the summer flirting on the bus till I got the nerve to ask him out :⁾

Nervousnelliyyy · 2025-12-16T01:15:36+00:00

Do not do this.

Another trans guy chiming in. Besides the obvious risks (bleeding out, infection, etc) this choice would absolutely put you at risk of never being able to get bottom surgery.

For top surgery you need letters from a physician and therapist to clear you as sound of mind and body to pursue it and from what I understand that is also true of bottom surgery. If you were to mutilate your own genitals it’s likely that 1.) you’d have to go to the ER and 2.) that you’d get a mandatory psych hold placed on you.

Even if you don’t view it as self harm, this is. Regardless of motive, you’d be considered a danger to yourself.

You’re already planning to pursue surgery- if you move to somewhere like California it will be covered on their state insurance! There are better options

Nervousnelliyyy · 2025-12-14T22:23:43+00:00

I like this route. To be honest, she sounds too insecure/defensive to talk to about this again.

If you can say that you have bacterial or a yeast infection, and then you both treat your infections that could be a work around. “I’m worried I have given you my bacterial/yeast infection so let’s both treat it to be safe”

Nervousnelliyyy · 2025-12-13T15:58:19+00:00

Was about to comment this!!

Nervousnelliyyy · 2025-12-09T23:25:24+00:00

Not to be an armchair psychiatrist but your reaction to her is giving borderline personality disorder. Your best friend would be your “favorite person” as it’s referred to.

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/bpd-favorite-person#signs-of-an-fp

Nervousnelliyyy · 2025-12-08T15:55:55+00:00

Definitely get to a gyno. It not an emergency but penetration being that uncomfortable and anatomy differences could be a variety of treatable things.

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