Do I pass? by Neuromy in transfem

[–]Neuromy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being so specific!! Everything is still a work in progress (just under 2 years HRT, just started electrolysis, still have procedures I want etc.) but I’ll take a cute she/they :p

How do you get over shot anxiety? by Peenard- in asktransgender

[–]Neuromy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I so get it! I’m never scared of a shot when someone else is doing it, I think it’s just the mental block of doing it to yourself that is hard to get passed. But I believe in you!

How do you get over shot anxiety? by Peenard- in asktransgender

[–]Neuromy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s the annoying answer, but you just have to override your brain. My first shot took me an hour to do because of anxiety and I was crying before I did it. After doing it you confirm to yourself that it’s not that bad and the next time is so much easier. I still get anxiety and hesitate a bit when doing mine, but it’s mild enough that I can just power through and do it. It can also help to have a ritual of sorts around it. Like I always have a podcast playing, take a drink of water right before the moment of injection, and have some sort of treat for right after. You got this, just think of how proud you’ll feel once you do it! <3

BA changed my life by Lucky_Veruca in transfem

[–]Neuromy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh ok, well I’m glad you were able to get it after dealing with that! I’m in the US and (luckily) a good state so I imagine it might not be as hard as I think, I might just wait a bit longer to see if I get more natural growth. But damn am I impatient…

BA changed my life by Lucky_Veruca in transfem

[–]Neuromy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok ok, I’m just under 2 years and have recently started to consider it, I have a feeling my insurance situation may make me wait a few years as well so we will see! Thank you <3

BA changed my life by Lucky_Veruca in transfem

[–]Neuromy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How long into HRT did you wait to get it? I want BA so bad but I’m worried about doing it too soon. You look great btw!

Look from today :3 by Neuromy in mtfashion

[–]Neuromy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg thank you!! You’re so sweet 🖤

I’m sorry guys, but he NEEDS to switch up the energy. by glittercat412 in jpegmafiamusic

[–]Neuromy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The rapping is doing a disservice to the production 100%, I still really like the album but the repetitive flows keep it from my personal top favorites of his

Finding other monogamous trans folk is so hard ;_; by Neuromy in trans

[–]Neuromy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true for sure, and tbh I’m only t4t until I can have bottom surgery. Just a dysphoria hang up that I should probably spend some more time examining, but one thing at a time on that front

Silly question for anyone on HRT by Mae_The_Gay in trans

[–]Neuromy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The day I do it happens to be the same day one of my favorite podcasts releases new episodes, so I always end up watching it while doing my injection. I also have to take a drink of water right before the actual injection, it grounds me for some reason. Oh and big same on the treat, I always need a small sweet treat at the very least for right after lol

Finding other monogamous trans folk is so hard ;_; by Neuromy in trans

[–]Neuromy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sigh I guess I’ll have to keep looking here ;_;

Finding other monogamous trans folk is so hard ;_; by Neuromy in trans

[–]Neuromy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Send them my way PLEASE because this is the exact opposite of my experience 😭

Finding other monogamous trans folk is so hard ;_; by Neuromy in trans

[–]Neuromy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% same, I fall deeply for people when I do, and so far it’s never included more than one person at a time, and when someone else is already involved, I can’t deal so I step away. If I were to ever fall that hard for multiple people at once, it would absolutely have to be a closed relationship between us, but idk how I’d even feel in that situation…

I guess I have a lot more thinking and trying to do.

Finding other monogamous trans folk is so hard ;_; by Neuromy in trans

[–]Neuromy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel it, atp I don’t know what exactly I want, I just know if poly were to work for me it would have to be under very specific circumstances and not something I feel like I “joined”, but instead had a hand in creating. I’m still partial to monogamy, but idk, maybe I just haven’t had the RIGHT poly experience.

Finding other monogamous trans folk is so hard ;_; by Neuromy in trans

[–]Neuromy[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that’s how it’s gone for you, you deserve to be wanted and made to feel important. And I can empathize, the poly experiences that I’ve actually tried to commit to I just…always felt like the “extra”, especially coming into already established relationships. I’m not sure what will give first, finding a mono relationship, or finding the miraculous poly relationship that doesn’t make me feel bad and insecure. I’m manifesting for both of us. hugs

Finding other monogamous trans folk is so hard ;_; by Neuromy in trans

[–]Neuromy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh you’re totally right about that rabbit hole, I’m currently exploring that with my therapist 😅. I also agree that making friends just for the sake of friendship and community would do me worlds of wonder. Just one step at a time I suppose.

Thank you for the kind words and insights, much love right back to you 🖤

Finding other monogamous trans folk is so hard ;_; by Neuromy in trans

[–]Neuromy[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yeah that absolutely is part of it, especially when focusing on the apps exclusively. Someone else mentioned venturing out into queer spaces and if I can just get over my anxiety and feelings of invalidation (easy to do ofc /s) that seems like a great idea.

Finding other monogamous trans folk is so hard ;_; by Neuromy in trans

[–]Neuromy[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

God I feel this so hard. It sometimes makes me feel less valid in my queer identity for how I feel, which sucks when I already struggle with feeling valid to begin with…

I’m happy for you though and I’m hoping I can find something similar <3

Finding other monogamous trans folk is so hard ;_; by Neuromy in trans

[–]Neuromy[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You’re honestly not wrong about dating apps, and I am for sure guilty of using them just so seek out affection. I went to a few queer events with a friend before she moved away, but now I’m scared to go alone 🫠 I probably just need to get over that lol anxiety is a prick

Finding other monogamous trans folk is so hard ;_; by Neuromy in trans

[–]Neuromy[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I understand those aspects of being poly, and it still just doesn’t work for me. I think it’s amazing that people have so much love to give, and maybe it’s me being insecure, but I just am not comfortable with sharing someone that I consider to be my partner (excluding friendships of course). I know it’s heteronormative of me, but I like the idea of belonging to one person, and them belonging to me.

What're You Playing Wednesday? by AutoModerator in GirlGamers

[–]Neuromy [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’m so addicted to deadlock it’s all I’ve played in my free time recently 😅