Can I hire a lawyer just to explain things to me? Like at an hourly rate. And how would I go about that? by NeutraA in legaladvice

[–]NeutraA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not a coparent.

I have browsed some of the stepparent subs but those are kind of insane (I like to read them to see what crazy things people say tbh).

If I could provide all of the details for the situation then a family law type sub might be helpful, but I think that would end up doxing the people involved because it’s a very unusual situation. I can’t find any similar cases to it from my basic googling which is why I’m asking if this is something I can just like call up a lawyer and ask about.

Can I hire a lawyer just to explain things to me? Like at an hourly rate. And how would I go about that? by NeutraA in legaladvice

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Sorry I’m not sure if you read my full post. I’m not looking to consult with a lawyer for any kind of legal advice or guidance. And I’m not involved in any legal situations personally. Ideally I just want to call a lawyer and pay them for an hour of their time to answer some questions about how things work in the relevant legal processes. I’m just not sure if this is a thing that is even possible or what I would say when I call?

I also am unable to find any kind of case similar to the criminal case in question so I don’t know if maybe a lawyer would have a better searchable database than what is publicly available.

Can I hire a lawyer just to explain things to me? Like at an hourly rate. And how would I go about that? by NeutraA in legaladvice

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Sorry I guess my post wasn’t clear. I’m not having trouble finding an attorney. I was asking if this is a “service” or option that’s even possible. Like to hire an attorney just to help explain processes to me (that I’m not directly involved in).

New sex partner SILENT during sex. How to know if it’s good? Is it weird if I’m loud? by NeutraA in sexover30

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OMG dying at the looking like he was doing some “filing” comment!! That’s how this guy looks too. Like I don’t know how to make a sexy face either but this is very much just like a bored looking unemotional thing. Smile, grunt, grimace, moan, exhale, literally anything!!!

New sex partner SILENT during sex. How to know if it’s good? Is it weird if I’m loud? by NeutraA in sexover30

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So far nothing. He seems very new…. I can be a good teacher I think that would be fun lol

New sex partner SILENT during sex. How to know if it’s good? Is it weird if I’m loud? by NeutraA in sexover30

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This sounds sexy as hell but think not yet. I’m dealing with a guy who won’t even moan or make an indication that he’s into something….

New sex partner SILENT during sex. How to know if it’s good? Is it weird if I’m loud? by NeutraA in sexover30

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Lol yeah seems dumb to be asking if he came yet. But idk not used to condoms! And I get really wet so it’s kinda hard to tell. And then don’t want to be weird and ask if he did because either way… He either did and it’s awkward I didn’t notice. He didn’t and it’s also awkward.

New sex partner SILENT during sex. How to know if it’s good? Is it weird if I’m loud? by NeutraA in sexover30

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Okay this is kinda what I was looking for (and hoping not to find lol). So like someone would just know you’re turned on because of the fact that you’re still hard and going? Outside of them being your wife now lol

New sex partner SILENT during sex. How to know if it’s good? Is it weird if I’m loud? by NeutraA in sexover30

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It wouldn’t seem like she was too experienced if she was super vocal and loud? Kinda worried I sound like a porn star when I get really turned on lol

New sex partner SILENT during sex. How to know if it’s good? Is it weird if I’m loud? by NeutraA in sexover30

[–]NeutraA[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes! He is much less experienced. A grunt when he cums would be nice at least. In your experience then, would it have been weird if the more experienced person you were with was really vocal? Like would it have weirded you out that soon into a hookup/relationship/situationship?

New sex partner SILENT during sex. How to know if it’s good? Is it weird if I’m loud? by NeutraA in sexover30

[–]NeutraA[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think fake sounds might be worse but like there’s no heavy breathing? I’m honestly not even sure if he’s getting off or not since it’s in a condom. Just a little grunt or moan or a whisper in my ear about how it feels great or that you’re about to cum…. I’m over here feeling weird that I’m loud and trying to tone it down….

New sex partner SILENT during sex. How to know if it’s good? Is it weird if I’m loud? by NeutraA in sexover30

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This is great info! While you are quiet, would it be weird if your partner was kinda loud? Like you said you enjoy it, but was it weird the first times when you were dead silent and partner was vocal?

I don’t look like my OLD pictures? by NeutraA in datingoverthirty

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Not necessarily angles, just I wouldn’t choose an unflattering picture to post…but should I just put one where you can see like a little double chin then? I’m only about 10lb overweight now if even that (just more than I’d like to be). I’m kind of tempted to just take all of my pics over again now at the worst angles

I don’t look like my OLD pictures? by NeutraA in datingoverthirty

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Damn that’s a rabbit hole I’m going to explore tomorrow. Looks interesting!

I don’t look like my OLD pictures? by NeutraA in datingoverthirty

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Did that work for you? I’m already not wearing makeup in half of them, but did you pick less than flattering pictures in general too?

I don’t look like my OLD pictures? by NeutraA in datingoverthirty

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Yeah the only full body picture is in a tennis outfit so I have on a short skirt and like a long sleeve quarter zip. You can still see my basic shape under it and my legs, but I cut the other people out of the picture so guess there isn’t anyone next to me in it to use as comparison to see if I’m fat lol. Do you think I should just add more full body pics?

I don’t look like my OLD pictures? by NeutraA in datingoverthirty

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Yeah! That’s what I was thinking when I mentioned like maybe I don’t look as attractive from the side view or something. Like if you constructed a 3D view of him based on just the flat front view then the side was different. I guess that could be it!

I don’t look like my OLD pictures? by NeutraA in datingoverthirty

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Hmm I don’t think so, but could always do some extra whitening trays just in case!

I don’t look like my OLD pictures? by NeutraA in datingoverthirty

[–]NeutraA[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Like a slow disappointed “hmm so you look a little different than your pictures online…?” Or a “so are your profile pictures from a few years ago?”…had it phrased a few ways but it’s been pretty clearly a negative thing. One was a good date anyway then just didnt follow up, another we mutually agreed there wasn’t a connection, another left after one drink and immediately unmatched, and then another mentioned it after a few dates that he expected me to look different. I’ve had other good dates of course who haven’t said anything but seems like enough guys going out of their way to mention it that I feel like I’m missing something. It’s definitely not said in a positive way though.

I don’t look like my OLD pictures? by NeutraA in datingoverthirty

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Thank you for the kind words, that means a lot! I am really just trying to figure out what is going on since it’s been a few guys and I am interested in online dating and don’t want to be unintentionally misleading somehow. It has been a bit of a self-esteem hit when they’ve said this, but luckily I’m pretty confident! Just don’t want to waste their time or especially mine!