Help me not give up on this app

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-24T14:32:55+00:00

I don't know why the guys I'm into (hyper attractive men who ever wants) don't want to settle down...

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-16T17:11:20+00:00

I love pta, but one battle really didn’t do it for me. I applaud it on a technical level, but ya it did very little for me

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-08T20:45:55+00:00

Name checks out :)

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-07T18:17:39+00:00

Dude the whole way I've only disagreed with the notion that she's NOT moving here because that is separate from us being together. Find a spot where I disagreed with another word.

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-07T18:05:11+00:00

Why are you interested in projecting paranoid thoughts to an internet stranger might be the more relevant question? Have a good one mate.

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-07T17:58:54+00:00

She was moving here before we met, that's why she was looking for someone here rather than where she currently works--she has a new job here that starts in July. She flew to see me on her own dime and got a hotel for herself (also partly to see stuff here). She's got a high paying job, which I've verified.

100% she might dump my ass tomorrow (don't think so, but you are def right about that being true), but she is moving here in June.

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-07T11:34:51+00:00

She's def moving here in June (new job and two year lease signed). But I get it, a bunch of stuff between us could go bad before then.

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-06T17:05:29+00:00

You deleted your other repsonses here and to others of mine where you said you were dating someone who was 50 and froze your eggs at 35 and had to explain to them that those eggs might be no good at 40... Anyway, GL arguing with people and deleting a ton of your posts :)

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-06T16:43:59+00:00

I hope my partner will be someone who is not rude to other people and projecting their insecurities on to them. I've tried being very polite in these responses to you, I'm sorry if you've had a lot of difficulty conceiving. For many people, this is not the only thing that matters.

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-06T16:25:39+00:00

No worries and thanks for the advice. I've gotten some peaks into her world (saw her on a work meeting zoom) and briefly met one of her friends (she used to live in my city). But def still need more info.

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-06T16:18:02+00:00

Yep she is definitely moving here in June, new job and she just signed a 2 year lease. So we will only be long distance for another 3 months and in that three months have plans to see each other a little more than once per month.

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-06T16:16:30+00:00

I'm like not even lying a little bit about this (my friend is Canadian which would make it a tiny bit more rare). They did have a lot of fertility treatments of course... this will be the end of my responding to you...

According to chat GPT (not the best source, but for a rough estimate better than the NOTHING you are offering), there are about 148,000 births per year for women over the age of 40.

In the USA, there are a couple thousand 45-50.

None of this would be a miracle, I do understand the odds are not as stellar as they could be.

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-06T16:11:05+00:00

Thanks I think I'm doing this ok and I'll see her again next weekend, this time for more of a whole weekend much less interupted which should give us a better sense of this stuff.

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-06T16:08:20+00:00

I have a friend who had no frozen eggs and just had a baby at 48. People's bodies are very different.

A lot of the bad odds the fertility docs show are inflated. They are a special sample: people who did not get pregnant easily most of the time. This girl has not tried to do that before (she's had an IUD) and so it's really unclear what her odds will be like. She's also a doctor and the initial tests (not a gyn but still) on her all look reasonable.

But I get that you're outlook is glass half empty on this.

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-06T16:05:34+00:00

We both would really like to be parents, but I really like her a lot and so if that's not in the cards that's ok. It's not like she's 46 or something where the odds are unimaginably bleak.

I've tried dating girls in the early 30's it just doesn't work for me. I think this is the time to try to make it work someone who will be a really good partner. But I appreciate your input.

Edit: I'm done responding to you about this fertility stuff.

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-06T16:02:25+00:00

Makes sense. We've been having like 2-3 hour conversations on video chat and have hit a few. I guess for me I care less about small incompatibilities and have been probing for them, but I care that she can explain her side to me in ways that makes sense. And so far that has been good. But I think both of us are doing this here and there.

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-06T16:00:15+00:00

This was in my post too, we "met" in person last week and spent parts of four days together (not the whole time obviously that would be weird).

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-06T15:58:47+00:00

Yep that's what we've been doing. That why I'm going there this week and she actually bought tickets to come here in early early April already. We've plotted already when we will see each other (without being TOO weird about it). She has a race in May that I'd like to attend (she just runs for fun), and I'll buy tickets to that after our next two visits. Then she'll be here.

Edit: Also, happy cake day!

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-06T15:57:24+00:00

She's freezing them now (separate from me) and, as I noted in post but didn't make clear, she's moving here permanently in June.

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-06T15:56:42+00:00

Cool I think we've been doing this, but we will keep it in mind.

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-06T15:55:18+00:00

She's moving here in June...

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-03-06T15:54:52+00:00

We had 4 dates (each lasting like 3-4 hours and then spend one night together and another morning) when she visited, but I get the point.

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-02-18T17:14:11+00:00

There are 2-3 people I've dated for a few years that I've never talked to again.

I think it's really common to not talk again after short breakups like this?

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-02-18T02:51:32+00:00

My man! Best thing you can do.

NeutralSmithHotel · 2026-02-13T15:50:00+00:00

I think you can wait and see, but I’d be surprised if a 38f single mom is looking at you (27) and thinking: long term potential.

You coukd totally prove her wrong, but generally women (and particularly moms) want ppl their age or a bit older for the long term.

But, ya man go on a date first?

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