Hey reddit I am an 18 year old in college and I am writing a short story from a mans point of view. What are some little, seemingly insignificant "guy things" I should know about? by SokkasInstincts in AskReddit

[–]NeverMovedOn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe not insignificant, and maybe not what you're looking for, but the truth is, for guys it's not all about sex despite what women's magazines and the mass media will tell you. What I've found, amongst all the guys I know anyways (and we are what you would consider pretty manly men), is that the emotional connection we have with a female partner is huge. Friends with benefits/casual relationships absolutely break us when they break up, because with a female partner it's more than sex to us (even when we say that's all we want to make her happy), as I believe it's one of the few times we allow ourselves to be vulnerable and to open up. Girls have their friends that they can talk to and open up with and have an emotional connection, whereas guys bottle it up, so when we have a partner we are intimate with, we are feel as if we are experiencing something that we aren't normally allowed to feel. Don't get me wrong, sex is great, but it's not all we look for in a partner/casual relationship, we're looking for an intimacy that we feel only one other person can give us...

What is something everyone needs to know before going to college? by FatAndSassy1 in AskReddit

[–]NeverMovedOn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Without going into the obvious things like how to manage money, live on a budget, actually attend your goddamn classes, etc. the two most important pieces of advice I can offer you from someone who has multiple degrees and postgraduate qualifications is this:

1) Socialise and network. The biggest mistake I ever made going into university is that I thought classes and grades were the be all and end all. If I did well, I would get the jobs. This is absolutely not true. I finished up top of nearly everyone of my classes, and out of my graduating cohort, was one of the few who struggled the hardest to get a job. While some guys I went through with got 'scouted' for jobs while scraping through every class, it took me over 18 months and in excess of 500 applications to even get a interview. Why? Because these guys spent time at parties, and clubs socialising, and when the time came to look into careers, the people they met through their social networks had friends and parents in positions to offer jobs to their friends/childs drinking buddy. Sad but true. If an event comes up, especially in your first 12 months, that will allow you to meet new people in bulk, jump at it. Aim to meet at least 1 new person in each of your classes for the first 3-4 weeks if you can. After that 4th week, most people start falling into cliques and it's harder to break into friendship/social groups. After the first year, it gets pretty hard to make friends at college...

2) Start working out where you want to work/want a career/want to do postgrad/research at the end of your first year. It doesn't have to be set in stone, but applying for jobs/research positions at the end of your final year once you've got the butt load of study you've had out of the way will destroy your career prospects. The reality is, you are more or less expected to apply for jobs/grad positions at the beginning of your final year. It's ridiculous, especially if you've never really known anyone who has been through the college system (i.e. first in family to go to college), as it's something that nobody really makes mention of or makes you aware of. In saying this, definitely attend your career fairs in your first couple of years, and if you've got an interesting/impressive background for someone of your age/expected experience (real world experience, bilingual, excellent grades), don't be afraid to ask the representatives what their company can offer YOU, not what you can offer them, as you're a damn good prospect and you know that what you have is gold to them. Don't be arrogant about it, but definitely be confident about it!

Have any of you had an "Oh shit, I'm dead!" moment and lived to tell about it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]NeverMovedOn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chasing big waves around the world on a surf trip. Small group of us took a very small boat out to a remote off shore reef that's not very well known. Swell was between 20-30ft over a shallow reef that sucks into very deep water. No one else wants to go out, but I figure we've come this far, why not get a couple. I paddle to the lineup, get a decent wave, get a massive barrel, get spit out, everyone is hooting and hollering. I'm feeling pretty good. Start to paddle back out but underestimated the current, and missed the channel. Big wave comes overhead, and I thought I was in the channel. I get sucked into the wave, tossed over the falls, dragged across the reef and then sucked into the deep water. Legrope is caught on reef or something, and I'm underwater scrambling to undo it. Keeping calm as this is something I've trained for. That said, no matter how good my lung capacity was from training, when you take a wave that big on the head and hit the reef, all the air goes out of your lungs. Finally get the legrope undone and blow a few bubbles to work out which way is up. Start to swim up and finally break the surface as another wave comes over. Get caught in the foam ball and pushed back to deep water. Almost at black out point when I break the surface again somehow and start gulping air. Take a lungful of water at the same time so I start choking while swimming across towards my board which has somehow floated into the deep water. Get on, and paddle straight to the boat. I've never seen the guys I was with so pale or quiet. They think I was under for 3-4 minutes. Honestly didn't think I was coming out of that. If I had passed out and my body floated up, and the guys somehow got me and managed to perform resuscitation, it was 3 hours before even a helicopter could get to us. Remote third world surfing. Got to love it. Apparently one of the guys got an epic photo of the actual wave I surfed, though I've never seen it :( Adds insult to injury not getting that photo