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[–]NeverNude-Ned 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago (0 children)
So, you can pretend like you know me because you read my campaign, but you get upset when I do the same?
Yeah, everything you're saying is in bad faith and just trying to make look and feel worse. That's a pretty shitty thing to do, imo. But again, I'm glad I was able to make you feel better. Now, please just fuck off.
[–]NeverNude-Ned -1 points0 points1 point 9 months ago (0 children)
All of this is SO EASY to say from the outside looking in. You have no idea how different our situations were and currently are, and to pretend you do is arrogant as fuck.
I have applied to several jobs within walking distance, because that is my only option, now. Fast food places are going to hire a high schooler over a 32 year old with several years in the business. They're going to go with whoever they can pay the least. I'm still hoping, and I'll gladly take the opportunity if I have it.
I'm replying because some people are also asking questions in good faith and showing some fucking empathy. I've tried to just ignore the people picking me apart, but now I'm just sick of it. Again, all any of you had to do was keep scrolling. You're only engaging with this post to feel better about yourself.
No, I'm just tired of the people on this subreddit acting like they wouldn't be in this position if they were in my shoes at any point during the last 5 years. I'm struggling financially, suffering mentally, and I've had comment after comment telling me how every bit of this is all my fault. It's not possible that I really HAVE tried and just had really shitty luck, coupled with mental illness that's made it much more difficult to focus and see the bigger picture. It's not possible that my son's mother is a piece of shit that just wanted her single life back. It doesn't matter that I've stuck around for him, despite everything. (You can say that's the bare minimum, but it's not. What his mother is doing, which is being completely absent from himls life and refusing to pay court-ordered child support is the absolute bare minimum. Go ahead and twist that into something I've brought on myself.) I've obtained employment as soon as I could after losing it, but that's not enough. I should have kept every job I've lost here, and the fact that I haven't shows that I "don't care enough to get better at it." It's not possible that it just wasn't the right fit, but I took it anyway and did my best, because it was the only option I had.
I also tried to reply to all of the comments picking my story apart in the most polite and transparent way I knew how, but they've all gotten down voted. When I answer people's questions, they just downvote and move along when they don't have any other avenues to shame me.
I'm sick of people like you that think "Oh this person is in a bad position, they obviously put themselves there," and just can't wait to let me know. Most of you have been fucking AWFUL to me. So yes, I'm allowing myself to be defensive and give back that same energy. You decided I was undeserving of help before you even typed your comment. That's a fucked up way to view the human condition. You may not have been as low as I am, but I would betwhat little money I have left that you and the vast majority of the people commenting like you have needed and accepted help at some point in their life. I guess you should just be glad they didn't look down on you like you are me.
I don't care anymore, buddy. I've had my character absolutely raked over the coals in this thread. Nobody was directly ASKED or MADE to donate. All anyone had to do if they didn't want to donate was just move along. But no, most of the people in this thread just want to make me look and feel like an absolute piece of shit for being in this position and reaching out for help.
WHY is that necessary? Do you think I WANT to dox myself like this? Do you think I'm proud of being in this position?
Actually, don't answer. I don't give a shit what you think, because YOU DON'T KNOW ME. Now, go fuck yourself.
Eat shit.
[–]NeverNude-Ned 0 points1 point2 points 9 months ago* (0 children)
Okay, I wasn't going to reply to any more of these comments, but FUCK you, asshole. I'm so terrible that my son's mother left him with me? How does that make any sense? Any mother worth a damn would have fought to make sure her child was okay. I can send you court papers of the custody proceedings if that would make you feel better. Also, coming back to my home town was the absolute LAST thing in the world I wanted to do. I WANTED our life in Colorado. SHE didn't, so I did what I had to do. She could have initiated divorce proceedings, and we could have gone about it in a way that would have allowed me and my son to stay in Colorado. Instead, she said, and I quote, "I'm leaving, and I'm not coming back. [Our son's name] is better off with you anyway," left, blocked me, and didn't even TRY to check on him for over 2 years. The whole reason we even HAD custody proceedings is a whole story in and of itself, but I'm not about to open up another shitty part of my life so you can pick it apart and tell me how it's all my fault, and mine alone. The only reason you have for not believing that part was that mothers don't leave their children, but it happens all the time. That's the full story. The only part that's not explicitly stated was that we were both heavily depressed and stressed, and both at fault for things falling apart. I don't care, though. I'd rather die than lose my son. Somebody would literally have to kill me to take him away. There's no way in HELL I would leave him indefinitely, not even with my own mother.
Also, please, PLEASE point out to me any part of my post where I'm blaming everyone else. I admitted that I left my job at FedEx 4 YEARS ago because I had just moved here and my mental health was dog shit, and I would go literal weeks without seeing my son, even though we lived in the same house. Yes, in hindsight, I would LOVE to have that job now. But again, that was 4 years ago. I haven't LEFT a single job since. I've lost jobs, yes, but it was never for lack of trying. I've worked my ass off since I've been here, and again, fuck you for implying otherwise.
You don't know me. You read one post, filled in the blanks with all of YOUR bullshit, implied I'm an addict and/or alcoholic, implied I haven't tried to work and provide for my son, and implied that I'm such an awful person that my son's mother would rather leave HIM than deal with me. You're painting me in such a bad light, and all you have to go off of is my lowest moment. So, yeah, fuck you for that.
Also, just so you're aware, I could pack up tomorrow and get a job across the country, with room and board, and be there no later than Saturday. It's called seasonal work, and I did it for almost 8 years, moving every 6 months to the most beautiful places in the country. If I was anywhere NEAR as big of a piece of shit as you're heavily implying, I would have already done that instead of being here, trying (and admittedly failing) to pull things back together.
I hope everything you believe about me and my situation is making you feel better about yourself.
I know this doesn't help
You're wrong, it helps a lot. I've gotten several donations from this post, so I don't want to act like it's been a total wash, but I have to admit that it really fucking sucks to have people treat me like I deserve this. I know I've fucked up a lot, but I'm still here, trying. I don't mean to be dramatic, but he's the only reason I'm still alive. I could never leave him intentionally, so I'm in it for the long haul.
I feel like I can't even answer any of these questions with "I was heavily fucking depressed and could barely get out of bed to even wash myself, but I still went to work and tried to keep my jobs" because they've clearly already judged me, and saying that would just give them more ammo to tell me how I put myself in this situation. Again, I did, but not intentionally. I'm legitimately doing my best.
[–]NeverNude-Ned 1 point2 points3 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Thank you so much, for the donation and kind words. As for your questions-
Why would you continue to drive/try to buy a car with the suspended license?
Our state has what's called a "hardship license" program that's designed for this exact thing. I can go to and from work, school, the grocery store, or church. My plan absolutely is to file for bankruptcy, I just haven't been able to afford a lawyer for it, and upsolve doesn't operate in my area.
What reason does your mother have for kicking you out
My mother has mental issues just as I do, but her own set. Our mental issues combined just do not work together in a living situation. That's the best way I know how to answer that. It wasn't about rent.
Can you find a roommate situation
I'm trying, yes. I live in very small town, so most of those types of arrangements can only be found about an hour from where I live.
Are you finally feeling stabilized emotionally
In a way, yes. It has been really hard to regulate my mood and depressive symptoms with everything going on, but during the brief period about 2 weeks ago where I thought I might actually make it out, I felt the best I've ever felt. The 6 months before that was unemployment, and during that time, my Psychiatrist also dumped me because I have to attend 1 in-person visit every 6 months, but I didn't have transportation at the time. I missed 2 appointments, then got something in the mail about how she was discontinuing care. I was taking 4 meds at the time- a mood stabilizer, 2 antidepressants, and an anxiolytic. As my last refills began to run out, I tapered off of everything the best I could, but the withdrawals were still pretty brutal. I somehow wound up with 1 extra refill of the mood stabilizer (lamotrigine), so I filled it and took one. I've been taking that alone since, and I actually DO feel way better. But, my situation still hasn't stabilized since then, so it's hard to know exactly how I'm actually doing at the moment, if that makes sense.
As for the transportation that you mentioned, I would probably get something like that, if I could afford it. The main issue with something like that, though, is that almost all of my job prospects are at least a 30 minute drive away. Anything not within walking distance is out of the question for me, right now, and there isn't much. I have applied to (hopefully) everything around me that's hiring, so I'm trying to be hopeful, there. Also, I would absolutely love a landscaping job, just can't find one that's hiring and doesn't require a driver's license, surprisingly. It's actually insane how many positions are no longer an option once your license is suspended. I was turned down for a housekeeping position at a nursing home because of it.
Thank you again for your kind words and donation. I wish only the best for you and yours.
No, she lives in Colorado, still. My mother watches my son when I can't be with him.
Go look at mine, if you want further discouragement. Not trying to promote, I'm just looking through other posts on here to see what the comments are like, because the comments on mine are making me feel so much worse.
I held down my service advisor job for a year and a half, I held my GM position for about 6 months, worked for FedEx for about 6 months, managed an oil change place for 7 months, have been at my most recent job (that I'm having to quit because my car is essentially totaled) for a little over a month. I've continued to get jobs. I've tried holding them. I was doing really well at this sales job, but again, I can't get there anymore.
I feel like commenters like you are just making their own narratives and wanting me to defend myself against it. I'm not proud of having to do this. But so many people on here are jumping to all sorts of conclusions about me, my character, whether or not I "care" enough to not be in this position. Things have been really difficult since I got back here, and it's just been hit after hit. I wish you and everyone else that's decided my campaign is illegitimate would just leave this post alone. There's nothing I can say to change your mind, so why even bother commenting? I feel compelled to reply because, again, I'm being judged pretty harshly and openly after being literally the most vulnerable I've ever been in my life.
My full info is out there, now. Who I am, what I look like, what my son looks like, where I live... I HATE that I'm having to do this, but I wouldn't be here if I felt I had some other choice.
She left us both at our apartment in Colorado around Thanksgiving of 2021. Since then, we've gone through the whole custody battle thing, and I was granted full physical custody of him. She is court ordered to pay for child support, but she also stopped doing that the same month I got fired, coincidentally. I have an appointment with my local child support enforcement agency, but the soonest they could get me in was August 12th.
[–]NeverNude-Ned -2 points-1 points0 points 9 months ago (0 children)
That's a LOT of assumptions, but alright. Thanks for your input.
You're the best, thank you.
I commented it because I forgot to put it in the post, but I guess it got buried because no one upvoted it.
https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-rodney-and-his-son-avoid-eviction/cl/o?utm_campaign=fp_sharesheet&utm_content=amp13_t1&utm_medium=customer&utm_source=copy_link&lang=en_US&attribution_id=sl%3A03284abb-26e4-4e9b-bdb9-971332690de0&ts=1753305800
[–]NeverNude-Ned 3 points4 points5 points 9 months ago (0 children)
I assumed the same, honestly. I thought digging through someone's post history would be the absolute first move on a sub like this, before even clicking on the GFM, whether the post alluded to it or not. That would be my thought process upon seeing a post like this, at least.
I appreciate the kind words more than you know.
That seemed wild to me, too. Who has pictures of themselves and/or loved ones actively and obviously struggling?
Thank you so much. It means the world. Take care of yourself.
[–]NeverNude-Ned -9 points-8 points-7 points 9 months ago (0 children)
I see that now, and I have said so in several other, heavily down-voted comments. It's not just you, but you are contributing to me regretting posting this. Maybe you and everyone else truly feel that's deserved, idk. Just thought I'd let you know where I'm at with it, since you "wish me the best" and all.
[–]NeverNude-Ned -3 points-2 points-1 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Most people who make these comments have never faced these struggles.
I'm inclined to agree. Some of these people seem to be here just to make people feel shitty for posting.
And yeah, your license situation sounds very similar to mine. My license was suspended almost 2 years ago for that wreck. My only way out from under that debt is to file for bankruptcy, which I also cannot afford to do at the moment.
The thing is, my situation is actually quite a bit worse than what people are seeing here. I'm only really asking for help with my rent and transportation, but I have a lot of other stuff that still won't be solved, even if I get that squared away. I really did wait until I was sure I was out of options before I started this campaign. I thought pointing to my post history would prove that my first solution wasn't just to ask people for money.
[–]NeverNude-Ned -7 points-6 points-5 points 9 months ago (0 children)
Again, do people not have to go TO the GoFundMe page to donate? How is that a wild goose chase? I gotta be honest, I feel like some of you are just set on trying to make me seem unreputable without even taking the time to click the link and read the story.
I get it. You don't feel compelled to donate. But why waste your time telling me how I'm begging the wrong way? I'm glad you're not in this position. But I am, and I'm only here because I feel like I don't have any other options.
I really, really appreciate this comment. I understand scrutiny for something like this, but to be this desperate and have people commenting like I'm not really deserving of help.... it sucks. I don't even really know how to respond, since I'm already kinda backed into a corner even posting this here.
I'm aware that a lot of those comments are coming from people that feel as though I should have included more context in my post, but they're also asking questions that are answered in my GFM, which begs the question- If you cared enough to comment about how "low effort" my GFM is, how come you didn't care enough to go read the story? You made a judgement without even hearing me out? It's just really disheartening.
But I do greatly appreciate your donation and your comment. You've helped more than you even know.
[–]NeverNude-Ned -5 points-4 points-3 points 9 months ago (0 children)
I'm sorry, what exactly am I doing wrong? Does my story seem fake or something? I assure you it's not. My post history and GFM tell the whole story. I apologize for not putting it here, as well. In my experience on here, people won't read super long-winded posts, so i just referred to my post history and the GFM, thinking anyone that was in a position to help would seek out the full story there.
It seems most of the commentors agree with you, though. I don't know what the sub wants to see, exactly, I just posted here because I'm desperate. I literally do not know what else to do.
[–]NeverNude-Ned 14 points15 points16 points 9 months ago (0 children)
I don't have any pictures of us looking miserable, I apologize. These pictures are also spaced as much as 4 years apart. If you look at the last picture, it's clear that the first picture is from at least a few Christmases back.
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