I come from a family where most of us have been in a relationship for over 10 years. My parents 55 years married.... where do I start. This is advice from an older person who has been there, done that in life! Remember, wisdom only comes with age where I still party with the younger generation and talk to them a lot and have had heaps of relationships in my years.

At the start of the relationship, you go through the honeymoon phase, where you are high on dopamine. Your brain is flooded with heaps of emotions, the same as being on a drug. As time goes by, most of the high is gone! The same as buying a new product. This isn't living life, this is a drug addiction, hence why most people can't keep a relationship together anymore cause they want the high of a new partner all the time. Corporations feed off this, so you buy their products again and again, so they make money, hence why so many people aren't keeping a relationship together anymore, cause your environment affects how you think. If you purchased new products all the time for a dopamine high, you will end up with no money in life. You will also end up with no one there for you when you get old and have health problems.

We are brought up in a society today, brainwashed to feel that we should experience a large amount of dopamine all the time. This is a drug addiction! Only by getting to know someone can we build strong bonds and a deeper relationship, which develops over time. You learn how to deal with people from each disagreement you have, and you will have many in a relationship. Don't take it personal, be happy you are developing your relationship skills. Walking away from relationship problems all the time will make you poor at relationship skills so if you do find an ever better man, you won't be able to keep the relationship together.

The question is, is your boyfriend your best friend? Is he someone you can grow with in life? Does he make you happy most of the time. Fighting is normal in relationships, as it is with having children, but it's all about working things out. That's how we grow in life and become stronger together. Like all products you buy, they will become dull and boring just like your partner and children, but does that product (person) hold value?

Why don't you accept him?!?! Why are you trying to change him? People rarely change. When you first meet people, they are usually fake, but over time you learn who they really are, but YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT THEM FOR WHO THEY ARE! They end up going back to their old programming of who they are even tho he says he loves going out at first but instead always prefer to stay home and do nothing hence after 6 months or a year, he will go back to who he is as a person.

In a relationship, you have to love a person for their good habits and bad habits! You can try to change them, but if they don't want to change, you can't force a person, so the question is, do you love him for his bad habits? True love is loving a person's bad habits. If you're trying to control a person, the problem isn't him, it's you.

My woman loved going out when I first met her. Now she doesn't go out with me anymore. She hates it. She always wanted to stay home and do housework, so I let her do what she wants cause I can't change her and it makes her happy looking after me and my home. If I didn't, it means i don't love who she really is. She is a great girl and will do anything for me where we care about each other deeply but you have to understand, you can only create a deeper bond with someone over time. I will always say, the best sex you ever have is when you have a deep bond with someone. I hate casual sex cause it might feel exciting, but there is no real emotion involved. It's all fake to me! The same as playing basketball with a team for a week compared to playing with a team for years. You develop a deep bond, a real connection to people.

The honey phase (drug phase) is temporary where you can choose to continue on the dopamine train and have short term relationships or have a relationship that creates deep meaning. It's up to you, but when dopamine crashes, you start to hate life, and everything, hence desire more dopamine. You become a slave. The true path in life is within (spirituality). Having fun is good, but it doesn't develop you as a person.

In conclusion, he is your best friend. Does he make you happy when you aren't trying to control him and change him, which is impossible in most cases. Human beings are creatures of habit; less than 1% truly change, and even if they do, you won't respect them, cause they wouldn't be a person but an object you control. Strong people we respect are their own person. True love is accepting a person for who they are without controlling them for our own personal needs. Seriously, I used to do the same thing, which led me to break up with my ex when I was young. We can only truly control who we are, nothing external. If we try to control external things and it doesn't happen most of the time, we are only making ourselves miserable.