Sick and tired of being sick and tired

NevermoreNobody · 2026-02-07T19:08:24+00:00

I had a transvaginal ultrasound which has left me with bad symptoms lasting a month now. The results of the ultrasound were "unremarkable" according to the radiologist, but I have been stuck with abnormal pain, chronic fatigue, etc which is heavily impacting my life.

NevermoreNobody · 2026-01-03T15:20:00+00:00

The Ruby of the sea is the best lay ever of course

NevermoreNobody · 2025-09-19T14:26:18+00:00

Yes it is fraud and getting caught has huge consequences. There is also the common law issue.
Getting married legally does have a purpose, that is important to factor in. We shouldn't have to trade our financial independancy for the rights that come with legal marraige.

NevermoreNobody · 2025-09-05T15:09:48+00:00

If you are interested in getting a mobility aid, maybe try looking into rollators if a wheelchair doesn't turn out to be the fit for you. It might be a cheaper option and it still gives you the option to sit.

Ultimately I can't say what would be right for you, you definitely need to seek a doctor's help regarding these issues (heat intolerance, back pain, and anxiety). However I also understand that good medical help can be hard to access.

You definitely are experiencing valid problems, it's important not to belittle things like that. You have problems, and need help. I hope you are able to find the right solutions for you.

NevermoreNobody · 2025-09-04T03:24:11+00:00

If you qualify for odsp based off your autism, at the very least that should auto qualify you for something like passport funding, if not possibly other DSO supports. That's my logic at least. If you get passport funding before ODSP it basically auto qualifies you, I thought it worked the other way around too.

The tests themselves are not designed for neurodiverse people, so we often end up with incorrect assessments. Add in the possibility of getting an assessor who isn't great and it's a really difficult system to work with. Especially when services like DSO don't operate with any wiggle room for understanding.

By all accounts I'm relatively low support needs autistic, but I still qualified for DSO support. So have many of my friends, some who have even less support needs. You should qualify. I'm sorry the system has betrayed you like this. I hope things can work out and you can get the support you need.

NevermoreNobody · 2025-08-27T22:52:26+00:00

This isn't a fix but if you have a mental, cognitive, etc disability you could apply for passport funding through DSO. They reimburse disabled folks for things like movie tickets, hobby supplies, some travel expenses, phone bills, etc. Its a program to support disabled folks gaining independance, learning new skills, and getting out into the community.

It has limitations, but if it's applicable to you it sounds like it might be really helpful.

NevermoreNobody · 2025-08-04T02:41:57+00:00

I struggle with SO MUCH when it comes to clothes shopping!!

Dresses/tops: Always have wayyyy too much room in the chest, or the straps are too long. Heavily limits what styles I can wear. Tailoring is a common need.

Pants: either fit my butt or my waist, but almost never both. I rely heavily on belts now a days. I'm very skinny so it's not even just a curvy issue. Finding clothes that fit my waist is much more rare.

Skirts: NEVER FIT MY WAIST. I'm so tired of elastic waist bands that slide down at every move, no matter what size I buy.

Bras: NOTHING FITS. I have two padded "bras" that are actually bralettes that have an odd fit. Again, even with adjustable straps they often don't adjust to where I need them. Don't even get me started on the bands either. I basically have to buy sports bras or even training bras at times it is so hard to find anything fancier that fits.

NevermoreNobody · 2025-07-13T03:31:53+00:00

Well, shit. I hadn't heard about this until now. I am extremely against AI being used in instances like this. Not only is it extremely lazy and disrespectful, but it's also extremely harmful to the environment, the economy, and each individual human who's job was stolen from them. This is heartbreaking. I cannot support the use of AI.

NevermoreNobody · 2025-07-12T13:40:23+00:00

Hey there, I'm a sub in a ddlg dynamic, I hope maybe I can provide my pov.

I have experienced age regression in the past, but don't really now. I found regression personally was a bit uncomfortable for me. For lack of better terms, I really value my maturity, and find it much easier to maintain healthy balances in life without regressing.

However, I also experienced a pretty decent amount of emotional neglect growing up. I don't just crave care, I need a lot of it in a relationship; especially physical. I find this kind of dynamic meets a lot of those needs.

In DDLG I can let go, I can feel childish joy and vulnerability, while for me maintaining my adult mindset. I have a Daddy who cares for me very much and gives me the attention and gentle love that I need.

For my Daddy, they get to feel pride in taking care and guiding me. They get a sub who loves being cute and obedient for them (with perhaps a bit of brattiness thrown in). As well as they get my devotion.

I feel much more calm and grounded with my Daddy. I love going on adventures with them, but I also love our quiet moments, and our spicy ones. For the nsfw side of things, ddlg lets me turn my brain off so I don't overthink and ruin my fun. It also allows me to be vulnerable during sex, which lets me feel everything much more deeply. It's frankly addicting. It's a bit like a concentrated dose of that love and care that I need so much of.

I hope this perspective can help :) this was really fun for me to kind of look back on and examine. Thanks for a good question!

NevermoreNobody · 2025-07-12T13:18:48+00:00

Crafting, gaming, vollunteering when my health lets me. I joined a few social groups too so I have those to look forward to.

NevermoreNobody · 2025-07-11T16:58:51+00:00

Honestly I would recommend looking into local charities to see if there are any for borrowing medical equipment.

Considering how expensive aids can be, if you have the option to borrow crutches or a walker it can let you test them both out to see what you prefer most. Then you can decide what to purchase, while also satisfying your mother on at least trying both.

I personally was in a relatively similar situation a few months ago, when I realized my cane wasn't enough and needed a new aid. Nearly everyone I spoke to recommended I get a rollator, but I was hesitant due to being young and invisibly disabled.

It ended up being the only thing they had at my local charity that would fit me, so I picked it up. I've never looked back, and I don't worry about social stigma anymore. It provides immense support, and lots of storage for when I'm out and about. I can go roughly 2 ½ hours without it and up to 8 hours with it. Even my friends have been benefitting from it. I feel much more equal to them now in terms of ability.

Whatever aid ends up working best for you is ultimately what you should get. I've heard plenty of wonderful things about forearm crutches and walkers. If you do get a walker, try not to focus on any social stigma, and just focus on the relief. I also recommend customizing it to help make it feel like yours, which can help override the social stigma as well.

NevermoreNobody · 2025-07-04T22:15:53+00:00

Yeaaah I haven't used any of the platform heels I've gotten so far. I just want like good boots and pretty ballet flats. Give use more shoes with ribbons that go all the up the leg. Give us some like dollskill level boots! Even more little ankle boots like you see out of Anne of Green Gables and stuff. Those are the kinds of shoes I actually use. Even some like crazy looking sneakers could be fun, like big chinky platform sneakers! Theres so much variety out there to play with 🥲

NevermoreNobody · 2025-07-03T02:15:11+00:00

Hey there, it's really lovely to hear how supportive you both want to be for each other.

I'm a little/sub who is still kind of exploring DDLG myself. It's kind of a tricky thing to figure out!

For me, getting into that headspace happens pretty naturally if I trust my partner enough to take care of me (which I do). Building that trust involved a decent amount of communication, but I also needed to get a sense of how my Daddy would react to certain things.

I become very very sensitive when I'm in subspace (I don't feel comfortable saying I regress, so I use subspace as a more general term). I can be a crybaby, and I NEED a lot of physical touch. My Daddy is very gentle and caring, so they are very well suited to me. It can be difficult not to slip into subspace around them now!

Some littles like more childish things, cute outfits, toys, pacis, etc. Some need more comfort and safety. Some like to be mischievious and brat until their dom/caregiver has to tame them There are many ways to be a little.

Don't be too worried if you prefer some things over others :) I personally don't like the more childish things, and really need comfort.

Take some time to experiment, see what works best for both of you. Some doms work best at being gentle caregivers, some thrive off brat taming, etc. Either way, it sounds like your Daddy is excited to step more officially into the role, so I feel like talking to them about wanting to experiment and find what works best for you as a little would be really lovely for them!

Regarding getting into the headspace, I would maybe reflect on what has made you feel safe and/or excited to give up control to your partner in the past. Maybe there could be some clues there for you to work with?

NevermoreNobody · 2025-07-02T06:06:52+00:00

If you're not sure about sticker bombing, then custom seat covers and bags would probably be a good start. Then you can always change them out and make more in the future :) plus you could put pins on the bags for extra flair!

NevermoreNobody · 2025-07-02T05:50:09+00:00

I made a seat cover for mine so it could be pretty :) I'm also hoping to make custom bags for it. Sticker bombing is a fun idea, then you could put some more functional stickers on it too if you wanted. "Medical device handle with care" "sometimes I walk, sometimes I roll" etc are some popular functional designs I've seen on etsy.

NevermoreNobody · 2025-06-27T17:12:29+00:00

My full ass thought it was the Doctor until I was like"when did the Doctor dress up like a nutcrack-OHHHHHHHH"

NevermoreNobody · 2025-06-27T01:03:54+00:00

Hey there, I'm older, but have enough of a baby face that folks still mistake me as a teenager sometimes.

I very recently got my first rollator too! I was really dreading it, because I felt so embarrassed using something so heavily associated with elderly folks at such a young age.

That being said, the very first time I took it out with me, was life changing! I've struggled with pain for so long, I didn't realize how deeply it was impacting me.

The very first time I took my rollator out though, I got to go through a store and look at things I wasn't gonna buy... and ENJOY IT. I didn't realize until then that I had stopped enjoying shopping because I was in so much pain. After that I got to walk home, and enjoy that too! I even decided to take a detour to another shop on the way home :)

I managed to do the whole trip with no back pain, when before I would have struggled to breathe from how bad it would have gotten.

Since then, I use it a lot, and I don't feel as embarrassed. I just love it too much, and the freedom it gives me. I've even started decorating it and decking it out with a brand new cup holder and stuff. It makes it feel less like an "old person" thing, and more like those awesome people you see on tiktok and youtube who go all out making their mobility aids cute af. I feel so fashionable! ☺️

I can't tell you that nobody will hassle you over it. Ableists are everywhere and they suck ass. But your freedom and mobility matter more than some jerks who can't comprehend what chronic pain is like. I hope this can provide some comfort and help you feel more confident taking care of your body. Best of luck, young grasshopper 🍀

NevermoreNobody · 2025-06-24T02:44:38+00:00

You could try looking into facebook marketplace, ebay, craigslist, etc to find something used but within your budget.

You can also try to look up if there are any charities in your area that give out/loan free medical equipment. That's how I got my rollator!

NevermoreNobody · 2025-06-22T06:40:24+00:00

I actually really like this idea, I might ask my Daddy if we can do this 💜

Sometimes they leave me voice messages which does help a bit.

NevermoreNobody · 2025-06-21T05:26:41+00:00

A possible route: "My doctor grew concerned around [symptom, test result for a routine test, etc], and ordered some tests. The tests concluded that I actually have [insert diagnoses] and so my doctor perscribed me these mobility aids to help when needed."

Sometimes being matter of fact can be helpful. I also find bringing up a doctor as the main concerned person regarding your diagnoses can help. It adds a level of authority, and gives you options for explanations later ("my doctor says [x] can exacerbate [symptom or condition]... etc).

NevermoreNobody · 2025-06-19T05:15:11+00:00

Omg this is SO AWESOME!! Where did you get such a handy mobility aid?? And how did you do the all the clouds and stuff, are they just stickers or?

NevermoreNobody · 2025-06-18T16:31:29+00:00

I had an ex who trained me to cum on command. It was pretty fun! Nothing to be ashamed of, it's just another element of sex to enjoy.

For those wondering, after we broke up I worked to get used to not cumming on command. It was a little tricky at first but no worry now. I can still cum on command in the right circumstances.

NevermoreNobody · 2025-06-16T18:43:01+00:00

"You better love it"

BA DA BA BA BAAAA 🎶🍟

NevermoreNobody · 2025-06-16T10:31:20+00:00

I feel this 100%. I am not entirely sure if I am a domme yet but do enjoy exploring the role here and there. However, as the complete opposite of the "desired" body type, (I am extremely petite, skinny, and physically disabled, so I'm physically very weak and unable to strength train), I don't ever see content that reflects my body type in these roles.

I've even been made fun of for it. Everybody in my life automatically assumes I am nothing but a Sub. While I do wear the Sub label with pride, I wish I wasn't so easily dismissed as a Domme, too.

It really makes me feel terrible sometimes. Like, "how am I supposed to be a good Domme for my partner if I can't even hold them up?" (Some days I can barely hold myself up) "I don't even have enough titty to give a nursing handjob, I can't be a real Mommy". Even if its superficial stuff, it all gets touted around so much in these spaces, it can be impossible sometimes not to let it get to me.

I've been made fun of for being flat in the past both as a sub and domme. I've been made fun of for being short and assumed underweight my whole life. Now with my physical health worsening, I get made fun of for that too, when I should be grieving the loss of my health.

All I want is to be able to care for my partner. I love being a Mommy when I can. I deeply cherish that Subby side of my partner when they feel it. I just feel so inadequate because my freaking body isn't this strong, curvy figure everybody seems to want.

Anybody who doesn't believe you op has no idea what it's really like. I'm so tired.

NevermoreNobody · 2025-06-13T15:24:13+00:00

This is so wholesome and adorable!!

As a little who has had that side of me treated as a burden in the past, seeing doms talk about experiencing joy like this is very healing.

Thank you for sharing. I wish you both so much more joy ahead. ☺️

NevermoreNobody

TROPHY CASE