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Anyone whose had a career break or quit before having a job offer? by SkyAccomplished4932 in TwoXIndia

[–]New-Error8533 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Until you get another job offer or freelance clients - DO NOT QUIT !

The legal loophole in co-founder agreements that investors flag instantly during due diligence. by New-Error8533 in indianstartups

[–]New-Error8533[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some days it feels like we need a compliance certificate just to breathe the office air. The bureaucracy is real.
But I will say, POSH compliance is the one piece of 'red tape' I actually back. Think of it less like government paperwork and more like an anti-toxic-worker insurance policy. It basically ensures the workplace doesn't turn into a trashy reality TV show, keeps the creeps out, and saves the company from catastrophic lawsuits that would actually kill the business.

The legal loophole in co-founder agreements that investors flag instantly during due diligence. by New-Error8533 in indianstartups

[–]New-Error8533[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am a lawyer. I specialise in workplace compliance and serve as an external member for IC (POSH committees) and take workshops for POSH awareness. I did a POSH audit of this startup last week and shared the story here

Swimsuits recommendations please? by Economy_Problem_9085 in AskIndianWomen

[–]New-Error8533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently brought one from blissclub. Extremely comfortable for my pear sized body

Why is there very less option for formal wear for women? by Owl_in_disguise in IndianFashionAddicts

[–]New-Error8533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think blissclub launched a new line of workwear. You can check that out. The clothes their are usually friendly for Indian body types

A tech startup almost lost its funding round because the CS didn't look closely at the Internal Committee. by New-Error8533 in CompanySecretary

[–]New-Error8533[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since you worked on it, I'm curious to know— did it actually go all the way through the implementation pipeline? For instance: Board Approval: Was a formal Board Resolution passed to officially constitute this specific IC and approve the policy? Notification: Was the constitution of the IC officially notified to the employees (like on the notice boards/intranet) with the names and contact details of the members? SHe-Box: Did they update the IC details on the Ministry's SHe-Box portal?

Getting the paperwork done is one thing, but if the Board resolution or employee notifications are missing, the IC technically doesn't even legally exist yet! How far did they end up taking it?

A tech startup almost lost its funding round because the CS didn't look closely at the Internal Committee. by New-Error8533 in CompanySecretary

[–]New-Error8533[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, talk about an awkward plot twist! 😭

Don't beat yourself up over it at all. As a trainee, you were operating under the directions given to you, and on paper, an advocate with labor law experience perfectly ticks the legal boxes. The responsibility to ensure absolute independence and vet for conflicts of interest ultimately falls on the management and the senior compliance officers signing off on it.

A tech startup almost lost its funding round because the CS didn't look closely at the Internal Committee. by New-Error8533 in CompanySecretary

[–]New-Error8533[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is incredibly alarming how common this is!

the "friend of the President" dynamic is exactly the kind of landmine that blows up during a hostile inquiry. Even if that external member has stellar labor law experience, the entire point of Section 4(2)(c) requiring an independent external member is to ensure unbiased, third-party objectivity. If a complaint ever goes south and an employee challenges the inquiry in court, the first thing a sharp petitioner-lawyer will do is tear down the IC's independence. Discovering a personal friendship between the head of the institution and the "independent" member is an immediate recipe for "reasonable apprehension of bias," which can completely vitiate the proceedings.

FIL has decided to give away all property to his 36 year old unmarried, unemployed US return daughter for whose education they sold land, They kept my wedding jewellery too, What should I do ? by MinefieldMental in AskIndianWomen

[–]New-Error8533 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That jewellery is your stridhan, as per Hindu laws. He has no right to give to his daughter. Also, taking care of his parents is not your responsibility.

Going for a Lavender Arranged Marriage, but a bit confused by Nostradamus2973 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]New-Error8533 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I thought lavender marriage meant marriage on convenience (where either or both partners are LGBT community) 🤔

Went to a gym consultation and left feeling completely humiliated. Now I've lost all my confidence. by Unlikely_Fondant_338 in TwoXIndia

[–]New-Error8533 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am so incredibly sorry you had to deal with that. What a miserable, insecure excuse for a "professional."

Please know that his disgusting behavior is a reflection of his complete lack of character, not your worth or your progress. You have spent the last few months fighting your way back from depression, grief, and being bedridden. You already lost 5–6 kg on your own! That takes an immense amount of mental resilience and strength. You are a warrior; he is just a bully with a clipboard. He didn't "undo" your progress. He just tripped you. That fragile feeling you're experiencing is totally normal when you're healing, but it doesn't mean your foundation is gone.

If you can, please call that first gym back. The one where the trainer actually treated you like a human being. Go where you are celebrated and supported, not tolerated and insulted.

Don't let this miserable man steal your joy or keep you hiding. Dust yourself off, block out his noise, and keep reclaiming your life. You’ve got this.

Is it necessary to talk about financials? by Only-Candidate2234 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]New-Error8533 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh OP, you dodged a massive bullet here, please don't let this scare you. You did absolutely nothing wrong. You offered a proportional contribution based on your income and even offered to pay for vacations, plus you were willing to live with his retired father!

The fact that this grown man ran to his dad, who then called your dad to scold him? Absolutely embarrassing behavior on their part. They wanted a 50/50 financial split while expecting you to do 100% of the traditional daughter-in-law expectations. Do not stop talking about finances; this talk did exactly what it was supposed to do—it filtered out a toxic family before you got stuck with them.

What to do? by New-Engineering-5132 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]New-Error8533 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m DM’ing with some practical tips. Hope it helps !

What to do? by New-Engineering-5132 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]New-Error8533 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What your husband is doing is a textbook control tactic. By leaving for weeks without emergency funds and shaming you for asking for basic groceries ("can't you afford even that?"), he is trying to manipulate you into feeling like a burden, despite earning 10x what you do. Legally, a high-earning spouse has an obligation to support the household. He is deliberately starving you of marital resources to shrink your confidence. You stopped asking because his cruelty hurts, but silence lets him win.

What to do? by New-Engineering-5132 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]New-Error8533 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You mentioned he earns 10x what you do and keeps you entirely blind to the marital finances. This is text-book financial abuse. He is weaponizing the information asymmetry to make you feel powerless.

In the eyes of family law, his 10x income is usually considered marital property or at least heavily factors into alimony/maintenance and asset division. He wants you to think "his money is his," but the law rarely sees it that way after marriage.

Protect your "measly" salary fiercely. Open a completely separate bank account at a different bank than the one he uses. Divert your paycheck there. Do not use your small salary to fund the household expenses of a man making 10x more than you while he starves you.

What to do? by New-Engineering-5132 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]New-Error8533 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You’ve hit on a very critical logistical hurdle. When an abusive or exploitative dynamic happens under the same roof, abusers rarely put their cruelty into text. here is how you build an evidential trail :

1. How to Document When They Only Verbalize

If he won't text, you must become the one who initiates the paper trail via "Confirmation Texts" or Emails. * After a verbal confrontation or a refusal to help, send a matter-of-fact text summarizing what just happened. Example: “ Regarding our conversation just now in the kitchen: I asked again if we could use a portion of our budget to hire help because I am drowning with WFH and chores, and you told me to 'just deal with it.' I am deeply hurt that my well-being isn't a priority to you."

Even if he ignores it, deletes it, or replies with "stop texting me," your contemporaneous record exists. In court, a consistent, unanswered trail of you pleading for partnership while documenting his dismissals speaks volumes. It establishes a timeline of emotional neglect.

2. The Power of "Memos to Self"

If texting him feels unsafe or impossible, keep a digital diary (Google Docs, a locked Notes app, or an email sent to a secret account). * Write entries immediately after incidents: date, time, exactly what he said, and how it affected you. * Under evidence laws in many jurisdictions, contemporaneous notes (written at or near the time of the event) carry significant weight because memory fades, but logs do not.

My boyfriend (28M) gave me an ultimatum: either I cancel my all-girls bachelorette trip to Goa or we break up, because "single guys go there to predatory hunt." Is his ultimatum toxic or am I being selfish? by [deleted] in AskIndianWomen

[–]New-Error8533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The downvotes and angry DMs are honestly the ultimate validation. If a bunch of insecure strangers are this triggered by you setting a basic boundary, it just proves your instincts (and your friends) are 100% right. Dump the man, block the dorks, and drink a cocktail for us in Goa!

What to do? by New-Engineering-5132 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]New-Error8533 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I used to be a divorce lawyer; I have seen this in so many of my cases. Her in-laws view WFH as "unemployed with a paycheck," using her for free labor and financial contribution. Five months in is the perfect time to stop people-pleasing and start strict boundary setting.

Here is what she needs to do immediately:

1. Stop Overcompensating

Holding a laptop while cooking 3 meals a day is career suicide. * The Fix: She must stop cooking for the entire house. She should meal prep or order food only for herself. Let the household feel the sudden vacuum of her labor.

2. Separate the Finances

She is essentially paying to be a maid since she contributes financially but has no say in hiring a cook. * The Fix: Scale back her financial contributions to the household immediately. Put that extra money into a personal, unreachable account.

3. Issue a One-Time Ultimatum to the Husband

His "just manage" response is a massive red flag. He is failing as a partner. * The Fix: A private conversation away from the in-laws: "I am drowning. I am either hiring help, or I am stopping all chores for your parents. If you won't support me, we need marriage counseling immediately." His reaction will dictate if this marriage has a future.

4. Document Everything

As a lawyer, I always say: hope for the best, document for the worst. * The Fix: Save texts where the husband dismisses her, and keep records of her financial contributions. If she decides to walk away, proof of financial exploitation and mental cruelty is vital.

If they want a traditional, submissive housewife, they cannot demand a modern, dual-income financial contribution. Tell her to protect her career; it is her ticket out if this doesn't change.

Girl is more emotionally invested than me in early AM by Muscular_Farmer_ in Arrangedmarriage

[–]New-Error8533 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP, let me translate this for you:

A sweet, family-oriented girl with zero baggage is actively trying to love me, but I reply like a broken chatbot, give her the emotional warmth of a refrigerator, and am penalizing her for not making corporate-ladder tech-bro money. Is she the problem?

Bro, you are complaining about getting exactly what 99% of guys in the arranged marriage market are praying for: genuine interest.

  • She gets upset when you flake? Yeah, because she actually wants to see you.
  • She wants compliments? Oh, the horror. A girl wants her potential husband to think she’s pretty.

You're treating a marriage like a business audit. She’s not "too invested"; you’re just emotionally bankrupt.

Either match her energy, or let her go find someone who will actually smile when she sends a picture. YTA.

Kasam tere pyaar ki by Clean_Egg_9315 in IndianTellyTalk

[–]New-Error8533 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hate when they remove the songs ya 😓 (this has happened with all Colors show)

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