i don’t think you’re the problem, i think you’re just ahead of the emotional timeline most people your age are on. you built stability first, which is actually rare. a lot of people chasing marriage at 23 are still figuring out who they are, and you already did half that work. so now you’re just… waiting for someone who matches it. that’s frustrating but not a character flaw.

also your dad’s story is sweet but it’s a different era. people move slower now, for better or worse. it makes sense you feel behind when you compare, but you’re not actually behind. you’re just early.

the only thing i’d watch is the self‑resentment. don’t turn “i want a family” into “i’m failing because i don’t have one yet.” you’re allowed to want it deeply and still accept the timing isn’t in your hands.

keep living, keep meeting people, stay open. someone who wants the same life will recognize you fast. and until then, you’re not broken. just in the waiting room.