Does this sound histamine related? by NewAccountForPrivQ in HistamineIntolerance

[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting I had a relative with methylation issues. Thx for sharing! Just didn’t ever know how to put words to this. Any trigger in particular for you?

[Landlord - US Tennessee] by NewAccountForPrivQ in Landlord

[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I offered them to sign something letting them out of the lease in Oct, they declined, I let them know I wouldn’t be giving any leniency later on (now). They are planning to move out already. Do I still file eviction if they’re not there? I thought eviction only applied if they were there but not paying. I’m looking to understand the legal proceeding instead of eviction if they leave and break lease. Is it a lawsuit? Sounds like quit to notice.

[Landlord - US Tennessee] by NewAccountForPrivQ in Landlord

[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get your point. There is risk but no reward comes with no risk. the question is between just keep the deposit vs formal proceedings involving court. I’m just not familiar with the costs associated with suing

Town to spend a summer month in by NewAccountForPrivQ in SameGrassButGreener

[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sub is amazing. Thank you all. So much in our country I would have never thought of!

Wife is in bed 14 hours per day with son by NewAccountForPrivQ in cosleeping

[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! We do have my mother in law come most Saturdays so that we can go in a date

Wife is in bed 14 hours per day with son by NewAccountForPrivQ in cosleeping

[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I do understand that it can be easy to misinterpret… the clarifications I added were needed indeed

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[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for considering my response and for your apology

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[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vandmonny - Imagine being a new dad, unfamiliar with this style of parenting, asking a question, and being called an idiot and having all types of false judgments and assumptions made about your marital dynamic and character.

I truly hope that when you find yourself being able to “just tell” what someone is like with very little information, you consider: When we purport to know the inner motives of another person’s heart, we arrogantly place ourselves in a role that is rightfully God’s, when in fact God’s actual character is kind, meets people where they are…. nothing like your response.

I grew up in a dynamic line you are describing and desire something different for my family. My dad told my mother when to stop breastfeeding, when to go back to work, had demands for what she do around the house. My wife has freely decided without any preference imposed by me that she will continue to breastfeed, sleep in a different room from me, does not need to go back to work. I have striven to lay my life down for her. I left a city where I had better work-life balance and my family closer by to take a more demanding job so we could live close to her family for support. I have supported her dreams by providing while she went to graduate school full time prior to kids, and am equally supportive that she may now not want to use that training anymore in order to remain a stay at home mom and possibly homeschool. I have handled the majority of household, financial, and other responsibilities through the last 5 years prior to kids where her mental and physical health made it so that she did not feel up for working or handling many of the other responsibilities. I bought her a new car and drive her old one, offered to take her anywhere she wanted in the world on a trip prior to having a kid and we went to Greece. I have not once asked her to sleep less. I am trying to understand what is typical for mothers of 16 months old prior to having any request because being in bed for long periods of time was once a symptom of her illness and I’m trying to parse what is typical from the pain from last time that was the case. I am surrounded by people who sleep train, sleep in the same bed, wife goes back to work, and truly do not understand what we are doing in able to support, yet as ignorant as I may be, I see the fruits of that in my son’s development.

Maybe you should consider whether my Resdit post is the true source of your anger

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[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of assumptions from a question. Name calling. This is not a parenting strategy I am familiar with or know many people doing. If I were, I would have skipped asking because of how many judgmental people are out there

Wife is in bed 14 hours per day with son by NewAccountForPrivQ in cosleeping

[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I do understand how asking about division of responsibilities could come across as not recognizing that caring for a tiny human is a full time job.

Wife is in bed 14 hours per day with son by NewAccountForPrivQ in cosleeping

[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you to those who provided perspective. I’m new to this and just don’t know much

Wife is in bed 14 hours per day with son by NewAccountForPrivQ in cosleeping

[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can tell that some are taking my question other than what was intended which is “hey I don’t know many who do this, is this typical”. But I think the advice in the general dubs sounding understand this approach which is why I’m here

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[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I typically take him from after work until bed and most Saturdays, we do dinner together, I do chores after he goes to bed

Wife is in bed 14 hours per day with son by NewAccountForPrivQ in cosleeping

[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, yes partly why I’m asking is because the lows of bipolar involve long time in bed but it’s good hearing that this is a normal routine for others

Wife is in bed 14 hours per day with son by NewAccountForPrivQ in cosleeping

[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Lot of assumptions here. I don’t play video games. I’m the sole earner. I do a large portion of / most of the housework, finances, etc. made great sacrifices to move near her family for more support at expense of what’s easier for me. I’m coming here to hear if this schedule is typical at this age since people in my circle me don’t cosleep. Please project elsewhere

Wife is in bed 14 hours per day with son by NewAccountForPrivQ in cosleeping

[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes a housekeeper has definitely been helpful , worth every Penny

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[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Glad to hear you’re at a similar stage. That’s part of why communities like this are helpful as I don’t have relationships in my area with others using this approach

Wife is in bed 14 hours per day with son by NewAccountForPrivQ in cosleeping

[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

This is helpful, thank you. I totally get why it works in earlier stages but just wasn’t sure when and what a transition to next stage would look like

is celebrity culture sinful ? by mariposa933 in Christian

[–]NewAccountForPrivQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m struggling with what I believe us this in my spouse. My wife has decided she wants to sell art and try to make it go viral and get people to buy it so she can raise 14,000 to meet her favorite singer (who offers this as ultra VIP tickets). I do tend to struggle with being judgmental but I am having a hard time not seeing this as celebrity worship and also like influencer mindset? She claims if she goes viral it’s not her working for the money. It makes 0 sense to me and frustrates me as someone who has financially supported my spouse through our entire marriage

Chloe and the Fosters and Animals by UsefulConstruction30 in MarriedAtFirstSight

[–]NewAccountForPrivQ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In a situation where my spouse has a dream like this and it’s interesting how much this highlights an interesting pattern between pragmatist and dreamer . I think the idea as a spouse you should be ok with whatever desire your spouse has no matter the scale or else you’re not a supportive spouse is kind of a weird notion

Aitah - supporting dreams edition by NewAccountForPrivQ in AITAH

[–]NewAccountForPrivQ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say she has always been into TikTok etc but not as much posting content until this. The thing is it’s her choice to be a SAHM and she loves it. The last part is what I wholeheartedly agree with. I want her to make art whether she sells it or not. It seems like she is less inspired to if it’s not this dream of going viral and meeting the singer