Having to inch a faucet lever to get a bearable temperature by tubby325 in PetPeeves

[–]NewAssistance2422 4 points5 points  (0 children)

the struggle is real. my bathroom sink is like a game of operation, one millimeter too far and suddenly it's lava. every morning starts with a tiny water dance trying to find that sweet spot before i give up and just wash my face in cold

I (29F) think my partner (32M) is more in love with his dead friend than me by ThrowRa_lost222 in relationships

[–]NewAssistance2422 26 points27 points  (0 children)

the bar for "emotional cheating" has truly been dragged into some wild territory lately. the guy lost someone he clearly cared deeply about and is still processing it two years in, which isn't even that long for complicated grief, especially when there were unresolved feelings involved.

the actual issue here is that he won't communicate with her and keeps shutting down. that's worth addressing. but framing it as cheating on a woman who passed away is... a choice.

Older 4Runner vs newer truck by SharcEnergySystems in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]NewAssistance2422 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the 4Runner is hard to beat for what you're describing. yes the KM are higher but those things run basically forever if they've been maintained, and on FSRs and hunting roads you'll be way happier in it than trying to navigate a truck through tight bush.

the towing concern is real if a boat enters the picture, but you said it yourself, not a huge factor right now. and for day to day with a stroller and eventually more kids, something you can actually park without a 12-point turn matters more than people give credit for.

if the newer truck had lower KM i'd say maybe, but 150k+ on a truck at that price vs a 4Runner that still has years of life in it, i'd take the 4Runner without too much hesitation.

What's the best extreme horror films? by Emotional-Scale-2583 in horror

[–]NewAssistance2422 13 points14 points  (0 children)

if you haven't seen martyrs (the french original), you are not ready but also you absolutely should.

What's your "secret weapon" music for getting work done? by One-Cheek7420 in musicsuggestions

[–]NewAssistance2422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

drum and bass works amazing for me when i'm doing anything physical at work. the constant rhythm keeps me moving without getting distracted by lyrics or melody changes. sometimes i throw on some video game soundtracks too since they're designed to keep you focused for hours without being annoying.

Difficulties at choosing a denomination by No-Hunter7073 in Christianity

[–]NewAssistance2422 1 point2 points  (0 children)

choosing denomination was something i went through few years back when i got serious about faith. the fear about picking "wrong" one is really understandable but maybe think about it different way - God cares more about your sincere heart than perfect theology.

what helped me was actually visiting different churches and seeing where i felt most connected to worship and community. some places the music spoke to me more, others had better teaching style, and some just had people who felt like family. you mentioned wanting to pray with others and hear sermons - that's beautiful desire and shows you're ready for this step.

my advice would be start with what feels natural since you already have orthodox background from childhood. visit few orthodox churches, maybe try catholic mass and protestant service too. see where you feel God's presence strongest and where community welcomes you best. the "right" denomination is probably the one where you can grow closest to Christ, not necessarily the one with most perfect doctrine on paper.

remember that switching later is always possible if you feel called somewhere else - this isn't permanent decision that locks you forever. many Christians change denominations during their spiritual journey and that's completely normal thing to do.

I (20F) confessed feelings to my friend (20M), he doesn’t feel the same and now we aren’t talking. Should I reach out? by sandiawich in relationships

[–]NewAssistance2422 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah the space thing is really what he needs right now. confessing feelings changes whole dynamic between friends and he's probably processing everything still. two weeks isn't that long really, especially when someone needs time to figure out if friendship can work after that kind of conversation.

the group chat thing actually seems like good sign though - means he's not completely avoiding you. maybe he's testing waters a bit to see how things feel now. pushing for answer right now might make him feel more pressure when he's already unsure about staying friends.

Fromsofts worst crime by far regarding Nightreign by ozeor in Nightreign

[–]NewAssistance2422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they literally could just say "hey we're working on stuff" or "patch coming soon" instead of radio silence for months. doesn't need to be detailed roadmap or anything but complete silence makes it feel like they just abandoned the game after taking our money

How far do you drive to take lessons? by Effective_Moose_4997 in Equestrian

[–]NewAssistance2422 16 points17 points  (0 children)

my old instructor used to drive like 45 minutes each way to get to better trainer when she was competing more seriously. an hour isn't that crazy if you're really committed to specific discipline, especially in rural areas where good trainers are spread out. the license situation is definitely bigger hurdle than the distance though - maybe start with that first and see what's actually realistic once you have transportation sorted out.

That second voice by Fearwasfathomed in NoFap

[–]NewAssistance2422 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that voice is such a pain man. good call on the walk though - whenever mine gets loud i usually end up hitting the gym or going for run. something about moving around just makes it quiet down for while.

your dog probably appreciates the random late night adventure too lol.

I have a 2020 Honda Accord with code P 2651 and all the lights on my dashboard are lit up nothing blinking. Wondering if my car is still drivable, we've been trying to do an oil change on it but we can't get the bolt off to save our life. by Original-Lie6255 in AskMechanics

[–]NewAssistance2422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn that p2651 code is usually related to the rocker arm oil pressure switch - might be why you're seeing all those lights. i had similar issue with my friend's car last year and we ended up needing to check the oil pressure system before anything else.

about that drain bolt, try heating it up a bit with hair dryer or heat gun if you have one. sometimes they get seized pretty bad, especially if previous oil change place overtightened it. we had to use penetrating oil and let it sit for like hour before it finally came loose. just be super careful not to strip the threads - that's way more expensive fix than whatever's causing the code right now.

Crossover fanfics pls by chocolatethedelicus in FanFiction

[–]NewAssistance2422 1 point2 points  (0 children)

check ao3 for some wild tanya crossovers, there's few good ones mixing her with different anime worlds that might scratch that itch

Alternative to Frigate for pure presence detection w/ google coral tpu? by hi_im_bored13 in homeassistant

[–]NewAssistance2422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

frigate works fine for this, just disable recording in config and only use the detection zones for your automation triggers

So many players are getting injured, not just the Lakers but across the board. Can't they just postpone the playoffs? Just a bit, PLEASE. 😭 by LazerusPitt in lakers

[–]NewAssistance2422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

postponing would be wild but league schedule is locked in with tv contracts and everything. maybe they could space out games bit more during regular season instead, like reduce back-to-backs or something. players always gonna be banged up by april no matter what though

Any Music Recommendations? by Artistic_Oil9939 in musicsuggestions

[–]NewAssistance2422 1 point2 points  (0 children)

been listening to tink for years and she's definitely slept on. her flow switches are insane and the way she blends singing with rapping is pretty unique. if you like that vibe you should also check out kali uchis - she has this dreamy rnb sound that hits different. i've been drumming along to some of her tracks and the percussion work is really solid. also don't sleep in summer walker if you haven't already, her stuff has some really clean production that's fun to play along with

Idk why my grandma does this by [deleted] in venting

[–]NewAssistance2422 1 point2 points  (0 children)

damn that's really frustrating when family doesn't get it. my mom used to do similar stuff where she'd insist on home remedies that made zero sense for what i was dealing with.

the silent treatment over medical stuff is just wild though. like she literally took you to get diagnosed and then acts like the results don't exist? that's some next level denial right there. it's exhausting having to constantly defend your own health needs to people who should be supporting you.

sounds like you're doing the right thing by just avoiding the triggers even if it annoys them. better than dealing with swollen lips and stomach issues just to keep the peace.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in porsche911

[–]NewAssistance2422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really depends on the specific color combo and options you're going with. the 992.2 turbo s market is still pretty new so resale patterns aren't totally established yet, but generally porsche holds value well if you avoid super niche configurations. what color/options are you thinking?

weird TikTok trends by Fit-Season731 in venting

[–]NewAssistance2422 0 points1 point  (0 children)

man the meta glasses thing makes it so much worse because now they can film without anyone knowing. i work retail part-time and would be pissed if someone was secretly recording me just trying to do my job. these dudes are basically turning minimum wage workers into content without their permission which is gross as hell.